Will You Still Need Me?

Dr. Angela Browne-Miller is the founder of Addiction Stoppers based in northern California, director of the Metaxis Institute based in northern California, and has been a keynote speaker at conferences around the world on addiction, violence, trauma, and behavior change. She is set editor for the Praeger International Collection on Addictions, 4 vols., and is the author of numerous books, including Praeger's To Have and to Hurt: Seeing: Recognizing and Changing, or Escaping, Patterns of Abuse in Intimate Relationships and Raising Thinking Children and Teens: Guiding Mental and Moral Development.

Foreword by Evacheska deAngelis Preface Acknowledgments Note: The Stories Herein Are Our Stories Stories List Introduction Story #1: Dan W., Age 59 I TOUCHING THE TENDER ISSUE OF AGING Story #2: Nona M., Age 27 Story #3: Millicent D., Age 30 Story #4: Andrea M., Age 34 Story #5: Burton G., Age 29 Story #6: Steven L., Age 32 Story #7: Sharon J., Age 39 Commentary 1. Growing Up and Up and Up 2. When Is Getting Older Aging? 3. The Desire Not to See Aging 4. What Aging Is (Or Is It?) 5. Companionship and the Prospect of Aging II BEING ALONE BEFORE BEING OLDER Story #8: Esmirelda Y., Age 38 Story #9: Patricia V., Age 45 Story #10: Devin P., Age 39 Story #11: Greg T., Age 44 Story #12: Barbara H., Age 38 Story #13: Emily W., Age 47 Story #14: Jeff B., Age 45 Commentary 6. Midlife Looks at Aging 7. Divorce and Being Alone 8. Welcome to the Delicious Sandwich Generation Years 9. Worklife, Career Loss, and Not Feeling Needed 10. Empty Nests III SOCIAL PATTERNS, RELATIONSHIPS, AND AGING Story #15: Peter S., Age 49 Story #16: Katy B., Age 45 Story #17: George L., Age 51 Story #18: Mark R., Age 56 Story #19: Sally S., Age 52 Story #20: Sandra M., Age 55 Story #21: Geraldo H., Age 54 Commentary 11. The Aging Self within Surrounding Networks 12. Families, Patterns, Networks, and Aging 13. Intimate Partner Relationship Patterning and Aging 14. Patterns of Behavior that Continue 15. Hollowing to Patterns IV AGING ON AGING Story #22: Marcia G., Age 64 Story #23: Linda B., Age 62 Story #24: Tom M., Age 56 Story #25: Anton Y., Age 58 Story #26: Ben D., Age 66 Story #27: Jane Z., Age 60 Story #28: Cristie S., Age 60 Commentary 16. Mind-Brain Living through Aging 17. Social Isolation in Aging 18. Loneliness and Aging 19. Living Environments, Health, and Well-Being in Aging 20. Older Persons' Thoughts on Social Contact V THE MIND, LEARNING, AND MENTAL FUNCTIONING IN AGING Story #29: Arle H., Age 65 Story #30: Arisha T., Age 65 Story #31: Sten O., Age 68 Story #32: Carla B., Age 67 Story #33: Giselda A., Age 73 Story #34: Rene M., Age 78 Story #35: Walt M., Age 68 Commentary 21. The Brain Does Age 22. Inner Thinkings and Age 23. Problem-Solving Strategies and Aging 24. Rethinking through Things and Mental Aging 25. Learning to Learn Again, in Later Years VI WILL YOU STILL NEED YOU? Story #36: Stanton Q., Age 89 Story #37: Ida J., Age 84 Story #38: Louis E., Age 87 Story #39: Derrick G., Age 80 Story #40: Lisa Lynn C., Age 77 Commentary 26. Youth for Sale: The Distraction of Anti-Aging Consumption 27. Thinking Positive: Prescription for Aging Well? 28. Longevity, Spirit, and Quality of Life 29. Addiction to Reality 30. You Can Make It Through VII EXPERIENCING AGING IN NEW WAYS 31. Toward a New Paradigm for Aging 32. A New Adventure in the Life Cycle 33. Recommendations for an Emerging Social Force: Older People and Those Who Will One Day Be Older People APPENDICES A Interview Questionnaire B Problem-Solving Steps Explained C Trauma, Aging, and Closure D Long-Term Intimate Partner Violence and Trauma Moving into Aging E Emotional Abuse and Sadomasochism in Aging F Elder Living Environment Checklist Suggestions with Sample Elder Living Environment Checklist G Resources H Religious and Spiritual Perspectives on Aging and Resources Bibliography Index