An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples

"The perspectives and exercises offered here are right on target; they arise from a clear understanding of the bonds of love and how these bonds work in adult relationships... We hope that this book will help you do just that - shape your precious relationship into a more satisfying and lasting bond." - Dr. Sue Johnson, From the Foreword "This book offers 'power tools' for couples who want to look deeply at themselves and their relationship. The authors go a lot deeper than routine techniques of marital communication--they get to the heart of the matter. And so will you if you read, digest, and practice what this books offers."-- William J. Doherty, PhD, Professor of Family Social Science at the University of Minnesota, USA and Author of Take Back Your Marriage "At last a workbook for couples that faithfully mirrors the process of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). It's like having 2 master EFT therapists come home with you during the week to support and guide you to maintain the progress you make in therapy sessions and improve your relationship more quickly. In-depth explanations and reflective exercises will help you to explore your emotions, articulate them better for yourself, and express them to your partner. I will recommend this workbook to every one of the couples in my practice!" -- Marlene Best, PhD, Clinical Professor in Clinical Psychology, University of Ottawa, Canada; Certified EFT Therapist, Supervisor & Trainer "This workbook, based on Emotionally Focused Therapy, includes excellent exercises that focus on helping couples create positive communication patterns in place of the destructive ones that negatively affect their relationships. Drawing on extensive research and clinical experience, this book will help couples strengthen their trust in one another as well as heal past hurts. I recommend it for use in marriage enrichment groups, as well as by individual couples." --Patricia Noller PhD, Emeritus Professor, School of Psychology, University of Queensland, Australia

Veronica Kallos-Lilly, PhD, is a Registered Psychologist and Co-Founder and Director of the Vancouver & Family Institute and the Vancouver Centre for EFT Training in British Columbia, Canada. She is also a certified EFT supervisor and trainer. Jennifer Fitzgerald, PhD, is a Clinical Psychologist in private practice and Senior Lecturer at the University of Queensland in Brisbane, Australia. She is also a certified EFT supervisor and trainer.

Foreword Sue Johnson 1. Introduction: Who is this Book For? 2. What Happened to Us? Three Cycles of Relationship Distress 3. Attachment Bonds: The Best Chance of Survival 4. My Partner and Me: What Influenced Who We Are and How We Are in Close Relationships? 5. Emotions: How to Make Sense of Them 6. More About Emotions: What Are We both Feeling? 7. More Difficult Emotions: Contempt, Hurt, Shame, Guilt and Jealousy 8. The Road to Security is Paved with Good Intentions 9. Rebuilding Our Bond 10. Relationship Injury: How Can We Repair the Damage? 11. Stories of Change 12. Maintaining Intimacy and Revitalizing your Sex Life 13. Looking Ahead: Anticipating Life Transitions