Living, Loving and Loss

Brad DeFord, PhD, researches and writes on end-of-life, grief, and aging. He is a graduate of the Divinity School of the University of Chicago, USA (MA, PhD) and Union Theological Seminary in New York, USA (MDiv). He has been a hospice chaplain for ten years, and for six years served as Leader of the Spiritual Caregiver Section of the National Council of Hospice and Palliative Professionals, an organisation of the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO). He published frequently in NHPCO journals and had a principal role in writing Guidelines for Spiritual Care in Hospices. DeFord has published articles in journals as diverse as Healing Ministry and Topics in Geriatric Rehabilitation. He is coauthor, with social worker Suzanne Bushfield, of End-of-Life Care and Addiction: A Family Systems Approach (Springer, 2009). Richard B. Gilbert, D.Min., PhD., FAAGC, is the executive director of The World Pastoral Care Center. An ordained Anglican priest he has presented throughout the United States and internationally on bereavement, health care, spirituality and pastoral care. He earned the Doctor of Ministry degree in 1999, and his PhD. in 2003. He is a Certified Pastoral Bereavement Counselor and a Fellow, The American Association of Grief Counselors. He is a certified Thanatologist and a Fellow, The American Academy of Experts on Traumatic Stress.

Foreword Brad Hunter Preface Brad DeFord and Richard B. Gilbert Acknowledgments Introduction Brad DeFord SECTION 1: Death, Grief, and Differences of Sexual Orientation CHAPTER 1 Death and Intimacy Issues in the LGBT Community: A Gay Perspective Ronald L. Attrell CHAPTER 2 Young People and Gender Issues: Living with Loss Linda Goldman SECTION 2: Loss of Relationship and the Restoration of Intimacy in Families CHAPTER 3 Mommas Dead and Daddys on Viagra!: Elder Widowers, ED Drugs, and New Romantic Relationships Harold Ivan Smith CHAPTER 4 Grieving a Not-So-Loved Parent: Sinking in the Mud of Hurtful Memories Richard B. Gilbert CHAPTER 5 Infertility and Intimacy: Lifes Layered Losses Darcy L. Harris CHAPTER 6 The Tolls of War: Intimacy and Sexuality Challenges for Soldiers and Their Families M. Douglas Harvey SECTION 3: Adjusting to Lifes Losses by Aging or Illness or Infirmity CHAPTER 7 Birth of a Stranger: Intimacy, Sexuality, and Dementia Sara Sanders and Joelle Osterhaus CHAPTER 8 Love, Life, and Losses After 50 Anne Katz CHAPTER 9 Intimacy, Sex and Hospice: Self-Determination, Dignity, and Intimacy Options at the End of Life Sherri Weisenfluh and Vicki Merrill SECTION 4: Religious Bases for Understanding Intimacy, Sexuality, and Healing After Loss CHAPTER 10 Living, Loving, and Losing: A Spiritual Reflection Through the Eyes of a Rabbi Daniel A. Roberts CHAPTER 11 Engaging the Christian Voice in Defining (and Redefining) What Is Right David Daubert and Robert D. Machamer Afterword: Toward a Spirituality of Love and Longing Brad DeFord Bibliography Richard B. Gilbert Index