The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up

“the number-one piece of required reading for anyone who plans to have rope on their body” —topologist, rope bondage instructor

“offers a fantastic mix of risk awareness education, empowerment, and personal anecdotes.” —shay tiziano, 2014 international power exchange title holder

“an excellent read and a great guide...an inspirational and holistic perspective on bondage and the joy that comes from conscious surrendering.” —mary karver, kink-aware therapist and bondage model

“if you’re a switch or a rope bottom; then you will definitely benefit and shortcut your own learning with this book.” pete riggs, author of Rope Bondage the Smart Way

“chock-full of super-useful information and so personable and enjoyable to read...a very needed resource for those who love being in rope.” —bondage erotique

“written from a rich trove of personal experience...ms. vane provides the reader with many valuable tips, warnings, and most importantly, ways to make your rope scenes be a success.” sir charles, in Growing Pains

“fantastic. a must-read for those who are rope bottoms.” —salima, via goodreads.com

author’s note and disclaimer                  

introduction                        

1. shaping your desires                   

(Types of rope scenes, types of rope)

2. finding and evaluating a rope top           

3. mindfulness                          

(Ways to cultivate it, nerve-damage considerations)

4. being prepared                      

(Mental prep, physical prep, the rope bottoming bag)

5. trusting your instinct                  

(Including 3 easy ways to develop instinct)

6. knowing yourself                      

(Physical and mental conditions, negotiating, safewords)

7. communicating with your rope top          

(What to communicate and what not to)

8. making a connection                  

(Ways to foster connection, sub drop)

9. being always curious                  

(Building endurance, increasing flexibility, pain processing,

exploring complementary practices)

10. extra tips for suspensions              

(Before, during, and after the scene)

appendix a: evaluating a hardpoint for suspension      

appendix b: horror stories                  

appendix c: rope bottoming resources          

acknowledgments