Sex For Dummies

Dr. Ruth K. Westheimer is America's favorite sex therapist. Author of over 40 books and host of several TV shows on human sexual- ity, she frequently lectures around the world. Pierre A. Lehu has worked with Dr. Ruth for decades as publicist, writer, and friend.

Introduction 1 About This Book 1 Foolish Assumptions 3 Icons Used in This Book 4 Beyond the Book 4 Where to Go from Here 5 Part 1: Getting Ready for Sex 7 Chapter 1: So You Want to Know More about Sex 9 What is Sex, Anyway? 10 So Why Do We Have It? 10 Understanding the Ins and Outs of the Sexual Response Cycle 16 Partnering Up 18 Playing It Safe 20 Adjusting Over Time 20 Are You Ready to Get Busy? 21 Chapter 2: Tuning the Male Organ 23 The Penis: Inside and Out 23 Grasping the Basics of Your Testicles 31 The Prostate Gland 37 Chapter 3: Demystifying the Female Parts 39 Making Time for a Grand Tour 40 Translating All Those Latin Terms 41 The "Men" Words: Menstruation and Menopause 49 Breasts: Hanging in There 55 Chapter 4: Dating 59 Does Anybody Still Date? 60 Where Chemistry and Physics Mingle 60 Giving Romance a Chance to Bloom 61 Overcoming Loneliness and Getting Yourself in Dating Shape 62 A Road Map for the Dating Apps 63 The Thrill of the Chase, the Bummer of Rejection 65 Finding the Right Partner: Difficult, Yes; Impossible, No 67 If You're North of the 29th Parallel 73 Practical Dating Tips for All Ages 75 Should You Have Sex On a First Date? 76 Chapter 5: Introducing Sex into a Relationship 77 Determining When the Time is Right 79 Safety First 82 Advice for Virgins 84 Advice for Those with Prior Experience 85 Chapter 6: Commitment and Marriage 89 Knowing That Love Isn't Enough 90 Handling Children and Commitment 90 Putting Your Marriage First 91 Strengthening Your Marriage 91 Chapter 7: It's All about Control: Contraception and Sex 97 Why Use Contraceptives? 98 Considering Your Birth Control Options 100 Facing Facts about Birth Control Myths 119 If Your Method Fails 122 Chapter 8: Growing Up Fast: The Challenges of the Teen Years 127 Being a Teenager in the 21st Century 128 Evolving into Adulthood 130 Dealing with Common Concerns 131 Protecting Your Privacy 141 Don't Stop Here 142 Part 2: Doing It 143 Chapter 9: Foreplay: Revving Up Your Engines 145 Foreplay for Life 145 Linking the Emotional to the Physical 146 Setting the Stage 147 Getting Physical 149 Switching Gears: Engaging the Genitals 154 Moving on to the Main Event 159 Variety is the Spice of Foreplay 160 Chapter 10: Intercourse: Coming Together for the First Time 161 What's the Rush? 162 Making Your First Time Special 163 The First Time for Women 167 The First Time for Men 170 The First Time All Over Again 171 Chapter 11: Changing Positions: Variations on a Theme 173 The Good Old Missionary Position 174 The Female-Superior Position 177 Taking Her from Behind 179 East Side, West Side, Side by Side 183 Lap Dancing 184 The Oceanic Position 185 Standing Up 186 Oral Sex: Using Your Mouth 187 Anal Sex: Handle with Care 188 Safe Sex: Playing Alone Together 189 Sex During and After Pregnancy: Orgasms are Okay, with Changes 189 Chapter 12: Going for the Big O 195 What is an Orgasm, Anyway? 195 Experiencing Orgasms: Differences for Men and Women 196 Achieving Orgasm: Let Me Count the Ways 199 Don't Try - Let It Come You'll Be Glad You Did 202 Putting on Your O-Face: Responding to the Orgasmic Experience 203 The Best Reason to Have an Orgasm 204 Chapter 13: Afterplay: Embracing the Moment 205 Understanding the Importance of Afterplay 206 Sharing the Moment 207 The Simplest of Techniques 209 Chapter 14: Spicing Up Your Sex Life 211 Using Variety to Add Some Va Va Va Voom to Your Sex Life 212 Expanding Your Toy Chest 214 What If You're Just Never in the Mood? 217 Part 3: Different Strokes 219 Chapter 15: Enjoying Oral Sex 221 Overcoming Your Inhibitions 222 Leaving Him Breathless: What Men Like 223 Making Her Toes Curl: What Women Like 225 Dealing with Some Delicate Details 227 Assuming the Position 229 Addressing the Safety Issue 230 Chapter 16: Savorin