A narcissistic mother, to be precise, is the type of parent who is the center of their child's universe, as well as threatened or envious of their growth and independence.
The narcissistic parent feels as though their child's purpose is to fulfill their own needs and demands. If their son or daughter does not do what is asked of them, the narcissist will then use their manipulative nature or abusive tactics such as ignoring them or treating another child as their favorite as a form of punishment.
When someone is raised by a narcissistic mother, not only are they inclined to developing NPD themselves, but the ability to regulate their emotions and reasoning skills become greatly affected. Simply put, the narcissistic parent will shape, mold, control, and use their children to their advantage, disregarding any of their child's hope, dreams, ethical values, and attitudes or behaviors.
As we have talked about, there can be three types of narcissists.
The children can be affected in different ways, depending on the category of narcissism. For example, if a mother was a vulnerable narcissist, her kid(s) would grow up passive-aggressive and have low self-esteem as they would constantly second-guess their decisions. If a child was raised by a malignant mother, he or she would then be raised doubting themselves or suffering from PTSD all through adulthood. Due to these consequences, we should take a closer look into the dark triad. With this bit of information, we can then dive into the disadvantages forming a narcissistic parent-child relationship and what the outcome may turn out to be.
A covert narcissist will cover their tracks and hide in the corner with their smug aura and internal self-superiority. However, a malignant narcissist is so close to the dark triad personality that they may just end up being psychopathic. Since narcissism is one of the dark triad personalities, it is best to define each one to get the best perspective of what a child of one of the people from the dark triad is about.
The personalities that make up the dark triad are narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy. Each personality has their own malevolent traits and dark behaviors that differ from another but meet the guidelines of what dark persons are believed to be. They all share the same traits of being non-empathetic, less agreeable, and egotistical.
This book gives a comprehensive guide on the following:
Effects of being raised by narcissists
Protection tips
