Joshua Coleman – författare

A compassionate and practical guide for parents navigating the pain of estrangement from an adult child, written by a psychologist who has lived through it himself."A ray of hope." ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐"A really helpful book for estranged parents." ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐"I feel so much lighter after reading this book." ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ "I've seen many parents and adult children grappling with these issues, and this is exactly the book they have all been waiting for." ~ Lori GottliebHas your adult child cut off contact with you? Are you struggling with feelings of grief, shame, guilt, confusion, or loss? Do you hope to rebuild the relationship but don't know where to begin?Parent-child estrangement is one of the most painful and isolating experiences a parent can face. Yet many estranged parents find themselves navigating this loss without support, understanding, or practical guidance. Too often, public discussions reduce estrangement to simplistic narratives, when the reality is usually far more complex.Drawing on more than forty years of clinical experience and his own journey through estrangement and reconciliation with his daughter, psychologist Dr Joshua Coleman offers parents a compassionate roadmap for understanding, healing, and, where possible, rebuilding relationships with their adult children.In Rules of Estrangement, Dr Coleman explores the emotional, relational, and cultural factors that contribute to family estrangement, offering practical strategies for navigating difficult conversations, repairing trust, responding constructively to criticism, and fostering healthier family relationships.You'll learn how to:Understand the complex causes of family estrangementManage feelings of grief, shame, anger, and guiltSee the situation from both the parent's and adult child's perspectiveCommunicate more effectively during periods of conflict or distanceCreate opportunities for reconciliation and relationship repairFind acceptance and move forward when reconciliation is not possibleInsightful, reassuring, and deeply compassionate, Rules of Estrangement provides the emotional support, practical tools, and renewed hope that estranged parents need to navigate one of life's most challenging family experiences.

A guide for parents whose adult children have cut off contact that reveals the hidden logic of estrangement, explores its cultural causes, and offers practical advice for parents trying to reestablish contact with their adult children.“Finally, here’s a hopeful, comprehensive, and compassionate guide to navigating one of the most painful experiences for parents and their adult children alike.”—Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to SomeoneLabeled a silent epidemic by a growing number of therapists and researchers, estrangement is one of the most disorienting and painful experiences of a parent's life. Popular opinion typically tells a one-sided story of parents who got what they deserved or overly entitled adult children who wrongly blame their parents. However, the reasons for estrangement are far more complex and varied. As a result of rising rates of individualism, an increasing cultural emphasis on happiness, growing economic insecurity, and a historically recent perception that parents are obstacles to personal growth, many parents find themselves forever shut out of the lives of their adult children and grandchildren. As a trusted psychologist whose own daughter cut off contact for several years and eventually reconciled, Dr. Joshua Coleman is uniquely qualified to guide parents in navigating these fraught interactions. He helps to alleviate the ongoing feelings of shame, hurt, guilt, and sorrow that commonly attend these dynamics. By placing estrangement into a cultural context, Dr. Coleman helps parents better understand the mindset of their adult children and teaches them how to implement the strategies for reconciliation and healing that he has seen work in his forty years of practice. Rules of Estrangement gives parents the language and the emotional tools to engage in meaningful conversation with their child, the framework to cultivate a healthy relationship moving forward, and the ability to move on if reconciliation is no longer possible.While estrangement is a complex and tender topic, Dr. Coleman's insightful approach is based on empathy and understanding for both the parent and the adult child.

Contemporary environmental Philosophy has overwhelmingly continued certain materialist assumptions toward nature. In its pursuit to better use nature’s material offering for future generations, there remains little discussion about these materialist assumptions, much less their contribution to the current crisis. In fact, outside the Modern West, the vast majority of societies saw nature as bringing more than just material, that it brought something more than meets the eye. Thus our conceptions of what is actually seen impacts our response to it,and before even thinking about that response. Along these lines, our conceptions of beauty play a large role in how we approach and determine nature’s value. Such aesthetic assumptions directly impact our desires with regard to nature, whether or not we see it as a place of sacred dwelling or merely for surface pleasure and use. And again, aside from the Modern West, nature has been seen as the former, naturally causing a sort of reverence which in turns alters our interactions with the natural world, as well as with non-human animals and other human beings. The ability, then, to see nature as a primary relationship, tied to our aesthetic conceptions and presuppositions, rather than only a place of use for our own continued biological existence, has the potential to impact communal desire with regard to the environment, and it is only such a change in communal desire that will make an effective and lasting impact on the current crisis.

Contemporary environmental Philosophy has overwhelmingly continued certain materialist assumptions toward nature. In its pursuit to better use nature’s material offering for future generations, there remains little discussion about these materialist assumptions, much less their contribution to the current crisis. In fact, outside the Modern West, the vast majority of societies saw nature as bringing more than just material, that it brought something more than meets the eye. Thus our conceptions of what is actually seen impacts our response to it,and before even thinking about that response. Along these lines, our conceptions of beauty play a large role in how we approach and determine nature’s value. Such aesthetic assumptions directly impact our desires with regard to nature, whether or not we see it as a place of sacred dwelling or merely for surface pleasure and use. And again, aside from the Modern West, nature has been seen as the former, naturally causing a sort of reverence which in turns alters our interactions with the natural world, as well as with non-human animals and other human beings. The ability, then, to see nature as a primary relationship, tied to our aesthetic conceptions and presuppositions, rather than only a place of use for our own continued biological existence, has the potential to impact communal desire with regard to the environment, and it is only such a change in communal desire that will make an effective and lasting impact on the current crisis.

Examining changes in American football fan culture in the technological age uncovers similar patterns in American religion and politics.The Current State of College Football explores changes in football fan culture over the past thirty to forty years, specifically regarding who is viewed as a worthy leader, whether a coach or player. With focus on the Deep South, these changes parallel the move from a religious, story-telling culture to a technological one. The latter provides immediate statistical updates and constant visual access from a phone, a reality that cuts off any slowly developing character arc within football fandom. As a result, the former ability to perceive presence in leaders by the average fan is no longer exercised. As stories give way to statistics, any potential “prophets” of the game are either ignored or lauded for things having nothing to do with presence, the perception of which was homed in a specific religious context and was once a common religious perception.This cultural change is mirrored in the current political realm, the inability to recognize and choose leaders largely the result of losing this ability to enter the narrative arc and discern authentic characters. Those who we now view as unique are often the most predictable parts of the system itself while feigning to be above it. Because our muscles of perception now lie dormant, we more easily fall prey to them.

Examining changes in American football fan culture in the technological age uncovers similar patterns in American religion and politics.The Current State of College Football explores changes in football fan culture over the past thirty to forty years, specifically regarding who is viewed as a worthy leader, whether a coach or player. With focus on the Deep South, these changes parallel the move from a religious, story-telling culture to a technological one. The latter provides immediate statistical updates and constant visual access from a phone, a reality that cuts off any slowly developing character arc within football fandom. As a result, the former ability to perceive presence in leaders by the average fan is no longer exercised. As stories give way to statistics, any potential "e;prophets"e; of the game are either ignored or lauded for things having nothing to do with presence, the perception of which was homed in a specific religious context and was once a common religious perception.This cultural change is mirrored in the current political realm, the inability to recognize and choose leaders largely the result of losing this ability to enter the narrative arc and discern authentic characters. Those who we now view as unique are often the most predictable parts of the system itself while feigning to be above it. Because our muscles of perception now lie dormant, we more easily fall prey to them.