Use the Wisdom and Power of Your Emotions to Get the Life You Really Want
Being emotionally present is key to a loving connection with a partner. But past neglect make some people afraid to express their feelings, resulting in cold, insecure, resentful relationships. Dr. Ronald Frederick, co-founder of the Center for Co...
"Finally, someone is helping us get closer to our emotions and who we areinstead of further away from our power. A moving and inspirational read for anyone in the challenging times we're all going through." Melody L. Beattie, NY Times bestselling author of Codependent No More "What a joy it is to read Dr. Ron Fredericks Living Like You Mean It. Well informed, accessible and engaging, this wonderful book is full of powerful strategies that will enliven your soul, enrich your relationships, and help you have a more deeply meaningful life. I recommend it with enthusiasm!" John Bradshaw, NY Times bestselling author of Healing the Shame that Binds You "With compelling insight into the way emotion shapes our lives, Living Like You Mean It invites us on a tremendously useful journey into the mind and brain and shows us how the day-to-day ways we defend against feeling our feelings keeps us from living the lives we really want. But no more! Through practical suggestions, compelling stories, and powerful insights, this book dishes up a readily accessible plan to free us from the prison of our own fear of feeling. Frederick is a liberating guideand after joining him on this trek, youll be ready to feel fully alive!" Daniel J. Siegel, MD, director, the Mindsight Institute, and author of The Mindful Brain "Brimming with heart and soul, and scientifically sound, Living Like You Mean It is a brilliant book for anyone wanting to get unstuck and live a happier, more fulfilling life." Marci Shimoff, NY Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason "Ron Frederick is a master therapist and a gifted teacher. With energy and passion, he guides the reader through the vibrant inner landscape of the emotions. The tools and insights he offers can help prevent depression and anxiety. Even more, they point the way toward a vital and engaged lifea life fully lived." Henry Emmons, MD, author of The Chemistry of Joy
The Author RONALD J. FREDERICK, Ph.D., is a cofounder of the Center for Courageous Living, which offers innovative therapy, coaching, and consulting. He is a licensed psychologist and life coach with more than fifteen years experience helping people get the life they really want. Frederick is a senior faculty member of the Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy Institute as well as the clinical supervisor of Park House, an outpatient program of Abbott Northwestern Hospital in Minneapolis, Minnesota.
Acknowledgments vii Introduction xiii Part One: Preparation 1 To Feel or Not to Feel 3 2 How the Heck Did I Get This Way? 23 Part Two: Taking Action 3 Step One: Becoming Aware of Your Feelings 45 4 Step One, Continued: Becoming Aware of Your Defenses 64 5 Step Two: Taming the Fear 87 6 Step Three: Feeling It Through 108 7 Step Four: Opening Up 131 8 Putting It All Together 151 Conclusion: Making a Choice 170 Appendix: Seeking Professional Help 173 Notes 175 The Author 179 Index 181