Presence-Based Coaching

The Author DOUG SILSBEE is a leader in the field of presence-based leadership development. He is an executive coach, retreat leader, speaker, and author based in Asheville, North Carolina. In addition, he is an adjunct faculty member at the Federal Executive Institute, a Master Somatic Coach with Strozzi Institute, and an affiliate of the Pyramid Resource Group. He is also the author of The Mindful Coach and can be contacted at http://dougsilsbee.com.

• Exercises, Practices, Exhibits, and Figures ixForeword xiAcknowledgments xvThe Author xviiIntroduction 1Core Assertions 3How to Use This Book 4My Promise 6Reading as Experience 7Part One Presence, Self-Generation, and the Role of Coaching 111 Presence 15Presence Demystified 16So, What is Presence? 19Implications of Presence 22Presence and the Products of Coaching 25Challenges to Presence 28Chapter Summary 342 How Humans Change: Conditioning, Identity, and Self-Generation 37Conditioning 38Identity 43Becoming Self-Generative 49How Coaching Supports Self-Generation and Sustainable Change 57Living in Self-Generation 63Chapter Summary 663 Coach as Development Partner 69Performance Versus Developmental Coaching 70Principles of Developmental Coaching 73Three Integrated Structures for Development 75Presence-Based Coaching: Foundations into Methodology 77Chapter Summary 92Part Two Inner Moves for Presence-Based Coaching 934 Orienting 95A Coaching Model 97Your Client 100Purpose 105Coaching Outcomes 108Expanded Contexts 109Chapter Summary 1135 Holding 115The Relational Field 116Silence and Possibility 122Chapter Summary 127Part Three Generative Practices for Presence in Mind, Body, and Heart 1296 Mind 133Building the Observer 135What ’s to Observe? 137Working with Habits 140Designing Self-Observations 142Engaging in Self-Observation 145Coaching Implications 147Chapter Summary 1487 Body 151Assertions of Somatic Literacy 153Centering 155Building Somatic Awareness 157Somatic Self-Observation 159Working with Urges 161Body Practices 161Coaching Implications 164Chapter Summary 1658 Heart 167Developing Compassion for Self and Others 169Experiencing the Heart 171Deciding Through the Heart 173Gratitude 174Connecting Through the Heart 175Longing 177Coaching Implications 179Chapter Summary 180Part Four Relational Moves for Presence-Based Coaching 1819 Coach for Self-Observation and Realization 185Reflect 186Invite Internal Awareness 189Focus the Field 193Challenge Identity 198Chapter Summary 20110 Coach for Reorganization 203Shift Perspective 204Reorganize Around Center 208Build Competency in Self-Regulation 212Mobilize Commitment 216Chapter Summary 21811 Coach for Stabilization 221Design Fieldwork 222Work Jointly 237Create New “Facts on the Ground” 239Chapter Summary 24112 Milestones: Entry, Continuation, Completion 243Entry 244Continuation 254Completion, and Beginning 260Chapter Summary 266Coda 267Appendix A: Table of Moves and Practices 271Appendix B: Purpose Exercise 275Appendix C: Annotated Bibliography 277Appendix D: Web-Based Resources 285Notes 287Index 293