Dan Griffin, MA, has almost three decades of experience and is an international speaker and trainer helping programs develop gender-responsive services for men. Dan is the author of A Man's Way Through Relationships and A Man's Way Through the Twelve Steps, and co-author of Helping Men Recover. Jonathan De Carlo, CAS - Jonathan is a Certified Addictions Specialist (CO), with over 28 years of experience in addiction/recovery & mental health care. He is an international consultant and trainer currently serving as the CEO of C4 Consulting, a subsidiary of C4 Recovery Foundation. He is co-owner and Director of Operations for Recovery 360° with locations in Arkansas and Colorado. His diverse experiences include work with adolescents and adults in residential and outpatient care settings, with an emphasis on emotional management, self-concept revision, and trauma recovery. Jonathan has enjoyed roles as a clinician and administrator, to include clinical director, executive director, regional program director, and chief executive officer. His educational background in psychology, philosophy, and theology ground his work, helping individuals, families, and organizations develop comprehensive solutions in their healing journeys. Jonathan was raised in Central New York State, and resides outside of Little Rock, Arkansas with his wife Ronny, and has been in long-term recovery from addiction since 1992.

• About the Healing Men’s Pain Program viiAbout This Workbook ixSession 1: Grounding and Safety 1Session 2: The Man Rules 11Session 3: Toxic Waters 17Session 4: Creating Healthy Relationships 23Session 5: Trauma: Facing Our Wounds 27Session 6: All In The Family 33Session 7: Beneath The Surface 37Session 8: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Attachment 45Session 9: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Safety 51Session 10: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Violence 57Session 11: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Sex 63Session 12: Growth Through Grief and Loss 67Session 13: Post- traumatic Growth and Resilience 71Session 14: Breathing Underwater 77Session 15: Writing Our Story 83Session 16: Deconstructing Our Story 93Session 17: Reframing The Narrative: From Boys to Men 97Session 18: Framing a Healing Journey 101References 113

Dan Griffin, MA, has almost three decades of experience and is an international speaker and trainer helping programs develop gender-responsive services for men. Dan is the author of A Man's Way Through Relationships and A Man's Way Through the Twelve Steps, and co-author of Helping Men Recover. Jonathan De Carlo, CAS - Jonathan is a Certified Addictions Specialist (CO), with over 28 years of experience in addiction/recovery & mental health care. He is an international consultant and trainer currently serving as the CEO of C4 Consulting, a subsidiary of C4 Recovery Foundation. He is co-owner and Director of Operations for Recovery 360° with locations in Arkansas and Colorado. His diverse experiences include work with adolescents and adults in residential and outpatient care settings, with an emphasis on emotional management, self-concept revision, and trauma recovery. Jonathan has enjoyed roles as a clinician and administrator, to include clinical director, executive director, regional program director, and chief executive officer. His educational background in psychology, philosophy, and theology ground his work, helping individuals, families, and organizations develop comprehensive solutions in their healing journeys. Jonathan was raised in Central New York State, and resides outside of Little Rock, Arkansas with his wife Ronny, and has been in long-term recovery from addiction since 1992.

• About the Healing Men’s Pain Program viiAbout This Workbook ixSession 1: Grounding and Safety 1Session 2: The Man Rules 11Session 3: Toxic Waters 17Session 4: Creating Healthy Relationships 23Session 5: Trauma: Facing Our Wounds 27Session 6: All In The Family 33Session 7: Beneath The Surface 37Session 8: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Attachment 45Session 9: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Safety 51Session 10: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Violence 57Session 11: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Sex 63Session 12: Growth Through Grief and Loss 67Session 13: Post- traumatic Growth and Resilience 71Session 14: Breathing Underwater 77Session 15: Writing Our Story 83Session 16: Deconstructing Our Story 93Session 17: Reframing The Narrative: From Boys to Men 97Session 18: Framing a Healing Journey 101References 113

Dan Griffin, MA, has almost three decades of experience and is an international speaker and trainer helping programs develop gender-responsive services for men. Dan is the author of A Man's Way Through Relationships and A Man's Way Through the Twelve Steps, and co-author of Helping Men Recover. Jonathan De Carlo, CAS - Jonathan is a Certified Addictions Specialist (CO), with over 28 years of experience in addiction/recovery & mental health care. He is an international consultant and trainer currently serving as the CEO of C4 Consulting, a subsidiary of C4 Recovery Foundation. He is co-owner and Director of Operations for Recovery 360° with locations in Arkansas and Colorado. His diverse experiences include work with adolescents and adults in residential and outpatient care settings, with an emphasis on emotional management, self-concept revision, and trauma recovery. Jonathan has enjoyed roles as a clinician and administrator, to include clinical director, executive director, regional program director, and chief executive officer. His educational background in psychology, philosophy, and theology ground his work, helping individuals, families, and organizations develop comprehensive solutions in their healing journeys. Jonathan was raised in Central New York State, and resides outside of Little Rock, Arkansas with his wife Ronny, and has been in long-term recovery from addiction since 1992.

• About the Healing Men’s Pain Program viiAbout This Workbook ixSession 1: Grounding and Safety 1Session 2: The Man Rules 11Session 3: Toxic Waters 17Session 4: Creating Healthy Relationships 23Session 5: Trauma: Facing Our Wounds 27Session 6: All In The Family 33Session 7: Beneath The Surface 37Session 8: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Attachment 45Session 9: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Safety 51Session 10: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Violence 57Session 11: The Man Rules, Intimacy, and Sex 63Session 12: Growth Through Grief and Loss 67Session 13: Post- traumatic Growth and Resilience 71Session 14: Breathing Underwater 77Session 15: Writing Our Story 83Session 16: Deconstructing Our Story 93Session 17: Reframing The Narrative: From Boys to Men 97Session 18: Framing a Healing Journey 101References 113