Relationship Sabotage

Unconscious Factors that Destroy Couples, Marriages, and Families

AvWilliam J. Matta

Inbunden, Engelska, 2006

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Beskrivning

Hidden forces—memories of past poor or hurtful relationships—drive repressed feelings and emotions that are often outside our awareness. Though we want to love and be loved, to nurture and be nurtured, those forces can wreak havoc and cause relationship sabotage, destroying couples and even whole families. The scenario is so common, explains therapist Matta, that often people get divorced without even fully understanding why, or what is was that came between them. In many cases, what it was were the lingering but unconscious memories of lessons learned as far back as childhood. These lessons may have no true bearing or justification in the current relationship, yet they can strongly affect it, fueling marital games, extra-marital affairs, addictions, poor parenting practices and a host of other harmful actions. Matta argues that we can learn to recognize these imprints and move past them to build or keep rewarding relationships. His book makes us aware, and gives us the tools to break the cycle.

Produktinformation

Utgivningsdatum:2006-07-01
Mått:242 x 167 x 16 mm
Vikt:442 g
Format:Inbunden
Språk:Engelska
Antal sidor:176
Förlag:Bloomsbury Publishing Plc
ISBN:9780275989217

Utforska kategorier

Psykologi inom Psykologi och pedagogik
Relationer inom Hälsa och familj

Mer om författaren

William J. Matta is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice. He has served as an adjunct professor at several colleges over the past two decades. He is included on the list of America's Best Therapists published by Psychology Today magazine.

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"Listed by Psychology Today as one of the US's best family and marriage therapists, Matta here attempts to redirect clients' (and therapists') attention to the importance of unconscious factors that impact couples and families. He draws on a potpourri of techniques and ideas from leading therapists in the field, past and present, illustrating each point from his own case files. Two chapter titles indicate the essence of the book: What People Bring to Counseling Is Often Not the Real Problem and Unconscious Forces Can Destroy Not Only Relationships, but Whole Families. Many chapters provide exercises that people in troubled relationships can use to improve their relationships. Chapter 8, Organizing Problem-Solving Conversations, is particularly strong in providing helpful suggestions. Each chapter has a brief list of references, and the final chapter gives suggestions for finding an appropriate therapist. Although mainly written as a self-help book, this title will also be useful to those in training, since it offers a realistic picture of the problems clients present and how therapists can approach these problems using standard therapy techniques. Recommended. Upper-division undergraduates, graduate students, professionals, general readers." - Choice

Innehållsförteckning

Preface What People Bring to Counseling is Often Not the Real Problem The Unconscious Mind--Friend or Foe? The Miture of Unconscious Forces & Childhood Wounds Can be Lethal to a Marriage Your Family Problems May Have Started Back in Medieval Times Unconscious Forces Can Destroy Not Only Relationships but Whole Families People Who Feel Divorced but are Still Married Games People Playin Relationships Organizing Problem Solving Conversations Extra-Marital Affairs: Silence, Secrets, and Self-Disclosure Addictions--A Vain Attempt to Make Us Feel Whole by Daniel Hoffman Our Nervous System and Relational Problems Emotional Detachment: The Ultimate ARelationship Destroyer So What Now?