Facilitative Coaching

Dale Schwarz is a personal and professional coach, art therapist, and workshop leader. For over thirty years, she has guided individuals to fully use their gifts and talents to transform their lives. In addition, she helps coaches expand their repertoire and skills and provides organization development consulting to both public and private sector clients. Dale is the co-founding director of the Center for Creative Consciousness and an associate with Roger Schwarz & Associates. Anne Davidson specializes in leadership development, facilitator training, and long-term organizational and community change projects. Anne brings twenty-five years of experience to her international work with executives, management groups, work teams, and nonprofit and local government boards. She coaches individuals in creative development and in applying The Facilitative Leader approach. Anne is a consultant with Roger Schwarz & Associates and co-author of The Skilled Facilitator Fieldbook.

• Contents of the CD-ROM xvForeword by Roger Schwarz xxvIntroduction 1Coaching Exercise Matrix: Matching Methods with Client Needs 9PART ONE Foundations for Facilitative Coaching 13ONE The Importance of Expanding Your Repertoire 15Anne Marie Resolves Her Dilemma 16How Our Approach Differs from Others 19The Importance of Using a Full Range of Interventions 21Results from Expanding Your Repertoire 25TWO Guiding Principles 27The Facilitative Coach Guiding Principles 28Modeling the Guiding Principles 39THREE Guidelines for Using Tools and Techniques 41Tips for Diagnosing 41How to Intervene 43Intervention Steps 44Choosing an Appropriate Intervention 46Jointly Designing an Intervention 48PART TWO Tools, Techniques, and Exercises 51FOUR Starting with Yourself 53Being Present 53Exercises to Help You and Your Client Become Fully Present 554.1 Breathe Yourself Present 564.2 Sitting or Walking Meditation 584.3 Refocusing Attention 614.4 Where Are YOU? 62Addressing Your Inner Critic 63Inner Critic Exercise Series 704.5 Forming and Conversing with Your Inner Critic 714.6 Asking Your Inner Critic to Move Aside 734.7 Forming and Conversing with Your Compassionate Self 75FIVE Changing Thinking 79Distinguish Basic and Developmental Coaching 79Developmental Coaching: James Sees It’s More Than a Meeting 80Carefully Honor Joint Design, Curiosity, and Compassionate Support 82Distinguish Coaching from Therapy 83Exercises for Changing Thinking 845.1 Hot Buttons 855.2 Theory-in-Use Interventions 885.3 Left-Hand Column Cases 925.4 The Inside Story 1035.5 Creative/Survival Cycle Exercise 108SIX Talking It Through 119Exploring Statements 120Intervening on Ground Rules 121Inquiring: Zesty Questions Change Lives 122Using Stories to Connect the Dots 127Verbal Meets Visual: Metaphors and Guided Imagery 129Exercises for Talking It Through 1346.1 Out of the Mouth, Into the Mind 1356.2 Intervening on Ground Rules 1376.3 Daily Ground Rules Practice 1416.4 Opening the Door: Reflective Questions 1436.5 Tell Me a Story 1456.6 Role Play 1486.7 Creating Metaphors 1506.8 Guided Imagery 153SEVEN Writing It Out 157Structured and Reflective Writing 158Guidelines for Writing Exercises 159How It Works: Danna Discovers Her Muse 160Structured Writing Exercises 1627.1 Developing Decision Criteria 1637.2 Clarifying Purpose and Goals 1667.3 Stepping Stones to Project Completion 1687.4 Make a List or Two 1737.5 You and Me: Similarities and Differences in a Conflicted Relationship 175Reflective Writing Exercises 1777.6 Creating a Vision 1787.7 Journaling: Guidance from Unconscious Wisdom 1817.8 Assignments: Thematic Journaling 1847.9 A Poem (or a Song) in Your Heart 1867.10 Scripts: Making Imagined and Remembered Conversations Explicit 1897.11 Letters Sent and Unsent 1917.12 “This Is Your Life” Time Line 193EIGHT Making It Visual 197Sallie Sees Her Fragmentation 197The Power of Visual Knowing 198Intervening Through Visual Expression 202Exercises for Visual Expression 2098.1 This or That: Compare and Contrast 2118.2 Cards of Choice 2138.3 Shaping Your Reality 2158.4 Knowing Your Gifts and Stuck Places 2178.5 Mirror Drawing 2208.6 Scribble Drawing 2228.7 Vision Collage 2248.8 Contrasting Experiences 2268.9 Force Fit 2298.10 Post Carding Problems 2318.11 Inspirational Anchor Image 233NINE Engaging the Body 235Anne Discovers Body Wisdom 235What Is Body Wisdom? 238Benefits of Working Through the Body 239Exercises for Accessing Body Wisdom 2449.1 Three-Part Breath 2459.2 Sitting or Lying Meditation with Circular Breath 2489.3 Body Scan 2519.4 Body Barometer 2559.5 Centering 2579.6 Balancing 2599.7 Becoming the Mountain 2619.8 Body Sculpting 264TEN Conducting Fieldwork and Experiments 267Defining Fieldwork and Experiments 267Fieldwork: When and Why 268Experiments: When and Why 269Designing Fieldwork and Experiments 270Conducting and Debriefing Fieldwork and Experiments 271Exercises for Fieldwork 27210.1 How to Jump-Start a Project 27310.2 Surround Yourself: A Wall of Possibilities, A World of Options 27510.3 Noticing and Tracking Your Behavior 27810.4 Observing Others 28110.5 Yes Versus No 28410.6 Gifts Assessment: Interview Friends and Colleagues 286Exercises for Experimentation 28810.7 Do One Thing Differently 28910.8 Practice Imperfection for a Change 29110.9 Delegate a Task 29310.10 Work Project Skills Transfer 295ELEVEN Enacting Rituals 297What Is a Ritual? 297Elana’s Turning Point Ritual 298The Parking Lot Ritual: Helping a Group Accept Change 299Benefits of Including Rituals 301Helping Your Client Design and Debrief a Ritual 302Exercises for Rituals 30311.1 Designing Daily Rituals 30411.2 Solidify Intention 30611.3 Transition Ritual 30811.4 Breaking Free Ritual 311TWELVE Assessing and Celebrating Results 315Assessing Results 315Celebrating Results 317Exercises for Assessing and Celebrating Results 32012.1. Questions for Assessing Results 32112.2. Successes and Accomplishments List 32412.3. Cards of Acknowledgment 32712.4. Rewarding Yourself 32912.5 Creating Awards 33312.6 Celebration Dinners 335PART THREE Putting It All Together 337THIRTEEN Designing Your Own Interventions 339Give Yourself Permission to Create 340Shamelessly Mine the Gift of Life 340Use Whatever Is Available in the Moment 341Use Your Intuition 343Start Where the Client Is 343Build on Contrasts 344Listen for Metaphors, Analogies, or Colorful Language 344Adapt What You Know 345Remain Curious and Playful 345Co-Create with Clients and Colleagues 345FOURTEEN Combining Modalities for Successful Coaching 347Establishing a Relationship to Support Your Interventions 347Combining Modalities 348Guidelines for Choosing Modalities 350Catalysts for Suggesting a Modality 352A Three-Course Meal Plus Dessert: Combining Multiple 355Modalities Over TimeClosing the Coaching Engagement 360Putting It All Together: Practice Scenarios for Choosing and Combining Modalities 360Appendices The Facilitative Coach Foundation Models 363Appendix A: The Facilitative Coach Model 363Appendix B: The Unilateral Control and Mutual Learning Models 377Appendix C: Ground Rules for Effective Groups 381Appendix D: The Diagnosis-Intervention Cycle 383Appendix E: The Life Learning (Creative/Survival) Model™ 385Appendix F: The Drama Triangle 389Resources 393Resources for Learning More 393Suggested Art Materials 398Suggestions for Addressing Chapter Fourteen Practice Scenarios 399References 405Index 409About the Authors 421About Roger Schwarz & Associates 427About the Center for Creative Consciousness 429