Get Off Your "But"

Sean Clinch Stephenson is one of the leading authorities on the deconstruction of self-sabotage (what he calls getting people off their BUTs). A psychotherapist and internationally known professional speaker, he publishes audio and video programs from his online site TimeToStand.com and has a private psychotherapy practice.

In Stephenson’s powerful and practical debut, the psychotherapist and professional speaker reveals how to banish self-doubt and insecurity in a world where they may seem omnipresent. Beginning with the source of his own struggle, a rare and painful disease that causes his bones to weaken and break under minimal pressure, Stephenson offers a structured approach to a wide array of topics, including dating, weight loss, lack of motivation, friendship, finances, and goals. While his advice is encouraging and insightful, Stephenson’s text is also notable for examples, mottos and resonant personal stories of enormous obstacles and accomplishments (his work with the Clinton administration, attaining his Ph.D., opening his own private practice). Though his unwavering optimism can be daunting (bringing one’s day-to-day gripes into sharp relief), Stephenson is empowering and uplifting throughout, and should prove helpful whether facing a lifelong challenge or a more immediate battle. (May) (PublishersWeekly.com, May 18, 2009)

• Acknowledgments viiForeword by Anthony Robbins ixBorn to Kick BUT: The Short Story of a Big Life 1Lesson 1 Start Connecting 34How Rene Got Off His BUT 64Lesson 2 Watch What You Say to Yourself! 70How Bobby Got Off His BUT 97Lesson 3 Master Your Physical Confidence 103How Andréa Got Off Her BUT 132Lesson 4 Focus Your Focus 138How Mike Got Off His BUT 159Lesson 5 Choose Your Friends Wisely 164How Peter Got Off His BUT 188Lesson 6 Take Full Responsibility 193One Last Thing . . . 220Resources 221The Author 225