'The intimate vignettes of family life and relations, the vivid portrayal of the often very unfamiliar ways in which intimacy and affection are expressed, are telling, often delightful or affecting - and alas uncommon in Chinese ethnography today. This is a work I shall gladly use to introduce my undergraduates to contemporary China in a way that will capture their attention without simplifying its complexity.' Francesca Bray University of California, Santa Barbara

• Introduction: an anthropology of separation; 1. Two festivals of reunion; 2. The etiquette of parting and return; 3. Greeting and sending-off the dead; 4. The ambivalent threshold; 5. Commensality as reunion; 6. Women and the obligation to return; 7. Developing a sense of history; 8. Classical narratives of separation; 9. The politics of separation and reunion in China and Taiwan; Conclusion: the separation constraint.

'The intimate vignettes of family life and relations, the vivid portrayal of the often very unfamiliar ways in which intimacy and affection are expressed, are telling, often delightful or affecting - and alas uncommon in Chinese ethnography today. This is a work I shall gladly use to introduce my undergraduates to contemporary China in a way that will capture their attention without simplifying its complexity.' Francesca Bray University of California, Santa Barbara

• Introduction: an anthropology of separation; 1. Two festivals of reunion; 2. The etiquette of parting and return; 3. Greeting and sending-off the dead; 4. The ambivalent threshold; 5. Commensality as reunion; 6. Women and the obligation to return; 7. Developing a sense of history; 8. Classical narratives of separation; 9. The politics of separation and reunion in China and Taiwan; Conclusion: the separation constraint.

'The intimate vignettes of family life and relations, the vivid portrayal of the often very unfamiliar ways in which intimacy and affection are expressed, are telling, often delightful or affecting - and alas uncommon in Chinese ethnography today. This is a work I shall gladly use to introduce my undergraduates to contemporary China in a way that will capture their attention without simplifying its complexity.' Francesca Bray University of California, Santa Barbara

• Introduction: an anthropology of separation; 1. Two festivals of reunion; 2. The etiquette of parting and return; 3. Greeting and sending-off the dead; 4. The ambivalent threshold; 5. Commensality as reunion; 6. Women and the obligation to return; 7. Developing a sense of history; 8. Classical narratives of separation; 9. The politics of separation and reunion in China and Taiwan; Conclusion: the separation constraint.