Uninvited Guest from the Unremembered Past

Prophecy Coles trained as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist at the Lincoln Clinic and is a member of the London Centre for Psychotherapy. She has worked as a psychotherapist for 30 years and has published widely on sibling relationships, family and transgenerational conflict.

'As with her studies on the importance of siblings, in this new book Prophecy Coles similarly explores other neglected areas of clinical practice, focussing here upon the ongoing emotional presence of significant absences and other traumas in the child's early life. She highlights the continuing impact of such experiences as that of dead siblings, forgotten grandparents, abandoning parents and unrembered nannies and nurses. This book will be of interest and value to anyone with clinical responsibility for patients, and for those whose traumatic past is still echoing - often unrecognised - in the present lives.' - Patrick Casement, author of On Learning from the Patient'Prophecy Coles invites us to meet the uninvited guests from our unremembered past. To reject her invitation would be to remain blind - blind to intergenerational traumas involving love, loss, cruelty, terror, hope and helplessness, and courage which influence our present way of interacting with others. Narratives drawn from Shakespeare, Aeschylus and Sophocles, and biographical sketches of Gorky, Primo Levy, Churchill and others, awaken our appreciation for understanding our transgenerational stories. Written in an engaging and accessible style, this book provides an opportunity for parents, psychotherapists and people in many other walks of life to be curious about unattended-to blind spots in family stories and family experiences, such as the impact of the nanny, grandparents, the dead baby or dead sibling, and momentary or longer term abandonment or trauma on our developing personality structures. Coles makes us aware of how essential it is to create discourses within ourselves, our families, and our clients, to give thought and meaning to the legacy of our past intergenerational patterns of relationships in order not to re-enact past traumatic dramas in interactions with others, at home or at work.' - Dr Jeanne Magagna, former Head of Psychotherapy Services, Great Ormond Street Hospital for Children, London

• Preface -- Introduction -- Aeschylus and ancestral history -- Sophocles and the fate of adoption -- Sibling ghosts -- Grandmother’s footsteps -- The nurse -- The trauma of war -- Brain development and trauma