THE CODE OF MY STORYThe Code of My Story is a deeply personal and courageous journey through love, silence, rejection, faith, endurance, healing, and rediscovery. This book is not simply about marriage—it is about identity. It is about the quiet battles men fight behind closed doors. It is about the strength required to survive emotional abandonment while still standing as a father, leader, and man of God.In this transparent and heartfelt narrative, Rev. Jarvis Bestman opens his life to reveal the hidden years between love and silence. Married young with hope and faith, he built a family and believed his home would be blessed and unshakable. But over time, ministry pressures, financial strain, war, displacement, and emotional distance began eroding what once felt strong.What followed were more than ten years without intimacy. Ten years of rejection. Ten years of silence. Ten years of carrying pain that no one saw.This book bravely addresses the reality many men live but rarely speak about: emotional starvation within marriage. It explores the silent suffering of husbands who remain faithful, who keep providing, who continue leading, yet feel invisible in their own homes. It reveals the internal conflict of loving deeply while feeling unwanted. It tells the truth about staying—not because of weakness—but because of commitment, faith, children, vows, and hope that God could still restore what was broken.But this story does not end in despair.When emotional exhaustion reached its breaking point, a new journey began—not the journey of fixing someone else, but the journey of healing himself. Through prayer, reflection, self-examination, and surrender to God, Rev. Bestman began rebuilding from the inside out. He learned that healing does not begin when circumstances change; it begins when the heart chooses life over pain.The Code of My Story walks readers through powerful transformations:• From silent suffering to honest self-awareness• From rejection to restored identity• From emotional collapse to spiritual strength• From losing himself to rediscovering his worth• From enduring pain to finding purpose in itThis book speaks to men who feel unheard. It speaks to couples struggling in quiet distance. It speaks to leaders who preach strength but fight private battles. It speaks to anyone who has ever loved deeply and hurt deeply.More than a testimony, this book is a blueprint for rebuilding. It shows how pain can shape purpose. How rejection can refine character. How storms can produce strength. How staying can teach resilience. And how God can use the very thing that almost destroyed you to develop the man you were always meant to become.At its core, The Code of My Story is about rediscovering identity. It is about learning to love again—starting with yourself. It is about setting boundaries, reclaiming peace, restoring confidence, and walking into new doors God opens after long seasons of suffering.This is not a book of blame.It is a book of healing.It is not written to accuse.It is written to restore.It is not a story of defeat.It is a story of becoming.Honest. Raw. Spiritual. Transformational.The Code of My Story reminds every reader of one powerful truth:You may not control what happens to you,but you can decide who you become because of it.And sometimes, the greatest strength is found not in escaping the storm—but in surviving it and rising stronger than before

THE CODE OF MY STORYThe Code of My Story is a deeply personal and courageous journey through love, silence, rejection, faith, endurance, healing, and rediscovery. This book is not simply about marriage—it is about identity. It is about the quiet battles men fight behind closed doors. It is about the strength required to survive emotional abandonment while still standing as a father, leader, and man of God.In this transparent and heartfelt narrative, Rev. Jarvis Bestman opens his life to reveal the hidden years between love and silence. Married young with hope and faith, he built a family and believed his home would be blessed and unshakable. But over time, ministry pressures, financial strain, war, displacement, and emotional distance began eroding what once felt strong.What followed were more than ten years without intimacy. Ten years of rejection. Ten years of silence. Ten years of carrying pain that no one saw.This book bravely addresses the reality many men live but rarely speak about: emotional starvation within marriage. It explores the silent suffering of husbands who remain faithful, who keep providing, who continue leading, yet feel invisible in their own homes. It reveals the internal conflict of loving deeply while feeling unwanted. It tells the truth about staying—not because of weakness—but because of commitment, faith, children, vows, and hope that God could still restore what was broken.But this story does not end in despair.When emotional exhaustion reached its breaking point, a new journey began—not the journey of fixing someone else, but the journey of healing himself. Through prayer, reflection, self-examination, and surrender to God, Rev. Bestman began rebuilding from the inside out. He learned that healing does not begin when circumstances change; it begins when the heart chooses life over pain.The Code of My Story walks readers through powerful transformations:• From silent suffering to honest self-awareness• From rejection to restored identity• From emotional collapse to spiritual strength• From losing himself to rediscovering his worth• From enduring pain to finding purpose in itThis book speaks to men who feel unheard. It speaks to couples struggling in quiet distance. It speaks to leaders who preach strength but fight private battles. It speaks to anyone who has ever loved deeply and hurt deeply.More than a testimony, this book is a blueprint for rebuilding. It shows how pain can shape purpose. How rejection can refine character. How storms can produce strength. How staying can teach resilience. And how God can use the very thing that almost destroyed you to develop the man you were always meant to become.At its core, The Code of My Story is about rediscovering identity. It is about learning to love again—starting with yourself. It is about setting boundaries, reclaiming peace, restoring confidence, and walking into new doors God opens after long seasons of suffering.This is not a book of blame.It is a book of healing.It is not written to accuse.It is written to restore.It is not a story of defeat.It is a story of becoming.Honest. Raw. Spiritual. Transformational.The Code of My Story reminds every reader of one powerful truth:You may not control what happens to you,but you can decide who you become because of it.And sometimes, the greatest strength is found not in escaping the storm—but in surviving it and rising stronger than before

THE CODE OF MY STORYThe Code of My Story is a deeply personal and courageous journey through love, silence, rejection, faith, endurance, healing, and rediscovery. This book is not simply about marriage—it is about identity. It is about the quiet battles men fight behind closed doors. It is about the strength required to survive emotional abandonment while still standing as a father, leader, and man of God.In this transparent and heartfelt narrative, Rev. Jarvis Bestman opens his life to reveal the hidden years between love and silence. Married young with hope and faith, he built a family and believed his home would be blessed and unshakable. But over time, ministry pressures, financial strain, war, displacement, and emotional distance began eroding what once felt strong.What followed were more than ten years without intimacy. Ten years of rejection. Ten years of silence. Ten years of carrying pain that no one saw.This book bravely addresses the reality many men live but rarely speak about: emotional starvation within marriage. It explores the silent suffering of husbands who remain faithful, who keep providing, who continue leading, yet feel invisible in their own homes. It reveals the internal conflict of loving deeply while feeling unwanted. It tells the truth about staying—not because of weakness—but because of commitment, faith, children, vows, and hope that God could still restore what was broken.But this story does not end in despair.When emotional exhaustion reached its breaking point, a new journey began—not the journey of fixing someone else, but the journey of healing himself. Through prayer, reflection, self-examination, and surrender to God, Rev. Bestman began rebuilding from the inside out. He learned that healing does not begin when circumstances change; it begins when the heart chooses life over pain.The Code of My Story walks readers through powerful transformations:• From silent suffering to honest self-awareness• From rejection to restored identity• From emotional collapse to spiritual strength• From losing himself to rediscovering his worth• From enduring pain to finding purpose in itThis book speaks to men who feel unheard. It speaks to couples struggling in quiet distance. It speaks to leaders who preach strength but fight private battles. It speaks to anyone who has ever loved deeply and hurt deeply.More than a testimony, this book is a blueprint for rebuilding. It shows how pain can shape purpose. How rejection can refine character. How storms can produce strength. How staying can teach resilience. And how God can use the very thing that almost destroyed you to develop the man you were always meant to become.At its core, The Code of My Story is about rediscovering identity. It is about learning to love again—starting with yourself. It is about setting boundaries, reclaiming peace, restoring confidence, and walking into new doors God opens after long seasons of suffering.This is not a book of blame.It is a book of healing.It is not written to accuse.It is written to restore.It is not a story of defeat.It is a story of becoming.Honest. Raw. Spiritual. Transformational.The Code of My Story reminds every reader of one powerful truth:You may not control what happens to you,but you can decide who you become because of it.And sometimes, the greatest strength is found not in escaping the storm—but in surviving it and rising stronger than before