The book you wish someone had handed you at the kitchen table. There is a whole shelf of books for the parent who just came out. Almost nothing for the adult child standing there, phone still in hand, wondering what just happened. My Dad Is Gay is that book: warm, direct, occasionally funny where it can afford to be, and not in the business of telling you how you are supposed to feel. If your parent has recently come out to you after decades of marriage, family life, and an identity you thought you knew completely, you are in the middle of one of the more disorienting experiences a family can go through, and also, very often, one of the most quietly hopeful ones. Research on adult children whose parents come out later in life shows that most describe curiosity and connection alongside the harder emotions, and that relationships frequently grow warmer, not weaker, once everyone settles in. Inside, you will find thirteen short chapters covering:- Permission to feel whatever you are actually feeling, no script required- A way through grief that is not about anyone dying- Concrete language for the conversations you are dreading- What to do when there is another parent caught in the middle- How siblings, grandparents, and faith communities fit into this This is not a therapy replacement, and it will not tell you exactly how to feel. What it offers instead is a map: the emotions that tend to show up, why they show up, and what has actually helped other people in your exact position move from shock toward something steadier, and eventually, good.

The book you wish someone had handed you at the kitchen table. There is a whole shelf of books for the parent who just came out. Almost nothing for the adult child standing there, phone still in hand, wondering what just happened. My Dad Is Gay is that book: warm, direct, occasionally funny where it can afford to be, and not in the business of telling you how you are supposed to feel. If your parent has recently come out to you after decades of marriage, family life, and an identity you thought you knew completely, you are in the middle of one of the more disorienting experiences a family can go through, and also, very often, one of the most quietly hopeful ones. Research on adult children whose parents come out later in life shows that most describe curiosity and connection alongside the harder emotions, and that relationships frequently grow warmer, not weaker, once everyone settles in. Inside, you will find thirteen short chapters covering:- Permission to feel whatever you are actually feeling, no script required- A way through grief that is not about anyone dying- Concrete language for the conversations you are dreading- What to do when there is another parent caught in the middle- How siblings, grandparents, and faith communities fit into this This is not a therapy replacement, and it will not tell you exactly how to feel. What it offers instead is a map: the emotions that tend to show up, why they show up, and what has actually helped other people in your exact position move from shock toward something steadier, and eventually, good.

The book you wish someone had handed you at the kitchen table. There is a whole shelf of books for the parent who just came out. Almost nothing for the adult child standing there, phone still in hand, wondering what just happened. My Dad Is Gay is that book: warm, direct, occasionally funny where it can afford to be, and not in the business of telling you how you are supposed to feel. If your parent has recently come out to you after decades of marriage, family life, and an identity you thought you knew completely, you are in the middle of one of the more disorienting experiences a family can go through, and also, very often, one of the most quietly hopeful ones. Research on adult children whose parents come out later in life shows that most describe curiosity and connection alongside the harder emotions, and that relationships frequently grow warmer, not weaker, once everyone settles in. Inside, you will find thirteen short chapters covering:- Permission to feel whatever you are actually feeling, no script required- A way through grief that is not about anyone dying- Concrete language for the conversations you are dreading- What to do when there is another parent caught in the middle- How siblings, grandparents, and faith communities fit into this This is not a therapy replacement, and it will not tell you exactly how to feel. What it offers instead is a map: the emotions that tend to show up, why they show up, and what has actually helped other people in your exact position move from shock toward something steadier, and eventually, good.