Lee Hopkins – författare

At twenty-two, Lee Hopkins stood on yellow footprints painted on a RAAF parade ground and learned how to disappear inside a man.The lesson held for thirty years. He built a successful career, a marriage, a reputation. He also rationed chickpeas at a kitchen table in Adelaide whilst performing solvency on stage, queued at Centrelink in a suit, and survived a near-suicide that nobody who knew him professionally would have predicted. The diagnosis he carried for two decades turned out to be wrong. The new one, AuDHD with PTSD overlay, arrived at sixty-six and reorganised everything he thought he understood about why men like him keep collapsing.Death of a Gentleman is the book that emerged on the other side. It is a memoir-essay hybrid by a counselling psychologist who has spent his career working with men and his life inside one. It argues, with warmth and a refusal to behave, that masculine suffering is not individual pathology. It is a systems problem. Men are running inherited operating systems in environments those systems were never designed for, and the modern self-help industry is selling them upgrades to software that was never the issue.Across fourteen chapters and a clinical appendix, Hopkins traces a path from military conditioning and economic collapse through the manosphere's commercial machinery, the vulnerability mandate that quietly became a new performance test, denied fatherhood, cross-cultural intimacy in Vietnam, and the unfashionable suggestion that contentment on an ordinary Tuesday might be the most subversive masculine choice available.It is not a book of solutions. It is a book of better questions, asked by someone who earned the right to ask them. It will speak to men who have suspected the script was wrong, to the women who love them, and to the clinicians who work with both.In the tradition of Terry Pratchett's moral clarity, Douglas Adams's cosmic mischief, and Australian bullshit detection honed by experience.-----Lee Hopkins is an Australian counselling psychologist whose academic work in organisational psychology has been cited more than four hundred times, with much of it still in use decades after publication. He served in the RAAF in the early 1980s, became one of Australia's leading social media evangelists from 2005 until burnout and disillusionment ended that chapter, and re-trained as a counselling psychologist specialising in depression and bipolar in veterans. In his early sixties he was diagnosed with AuDHD, overturning two decades of treatment for an illness he didn't have. He survived institutional betrayal, a recent PTSD episode, and a near-suicide that nobody who knew him professionally would have predicted. He lives in Đà Lạt, in the central highlands of Vietnam, with his partner and a working café that doubles as his writing room. Death of a Gentleman is what he learned on the other side.