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Polyamory is not always easy. With multiple partners often come more complex relationships to navigate. This practical guide looks at the common causes of polyamorous breakups, identifies strategies to avoid ending relationships, and provides you with the toolkit to survive a breakup. Kathy Labriola uses real life examples and expert insight as a counselor and nurse. From how to handle jealousy to the practicalities of managing money and time with multiple partners, this book includes tips and insights from the polyamory community. It is inevitable that some relationships will end in a breakup. This book helps you maintain friendships and minimize the impact of a breakup on the rest of your polycule and wider community. Unlike traditional breakup guides, Labriola's book offers insight specific to the polyamory community and addresses the unique challenges that come with multiple partners.

Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you're striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide.

If your relationships or your gender are unconventional, you'll find useful advice and plenty of laughs in this compilation of the wildly popular webcomic Kimchi Cuddles. Quirky, endearing and charmingly (and sometimes painfully) realistic characters, many based on real people, explore polyamory, queer and genderqueer issues. Covering practical matters like time management and serious topics like discrimination, this book unites the best of two years of Kimchi Cuddles comics, organized into a practical and entertaining guide to the real world of alternative relationships. Kimchi Cuddles is a rare mix: fearlessly true to the lives of the people it depicts yet relatable enough to entertain and inform anyone (maybe even your parents). Dealing with both lighthearted and serious subject matter, it avoids cliches and easy answers, choosing instead to give examples of different schools of thought and show the humanity behind each one. Wolf's honesty and gift for clear explanation have made Kimchi Cuddles a hit with the most dedicated polyamorists as well as curious newcomers.

Have you ever heard the phrase 'It's easier to ask forgiveness than permission?' Violating consent isn't limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn't be, either. To resist rape culture, we need a consent culture-and one that is more than just reactionary. Left confined to intimate spaces, consent will atrophy as theory that is never put into practice. The multi-layered power disparities of today's world require a response sensitive to a wide range of lived experiences. In Ask, Kitty Stryker assembles a retinue of writers, journalists, and activists to examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it's at the doctor's office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities. More than a collection of essays, Ask is a testimony and guide on the role that negated consent plays in our lives, examining how we can take those first steps to reclaim it from institutionalized power.

Good news! You can leave the constraints of monogamy behind, and step into the delightful possibilities of polyamory and open relationships. By understanding and practicing nonmonogamy, you can live to the limits of your romantic and erotic desires, while building networks of relationships that nourish and challenge you. But it's a lot harder than it looks, and living openly will test you. Are you able to navigate discussions of jealousy with responsibility and care? Can you reject self-sabotaging patterns of selfishness and deceit? Will you employ your strength and confidence to meet the emotional needs of multiple connections. If you're looking to rise to the occasion, then this is the book for you! Within, you'll learn the skills and tools you'll need to navigate conscientious nonmonogamy and find your way to your fantasies.

Even in progressive families and communities, people who practice nonmonogamy are susceptible to misinformation and accusations of moral and emotional failings. Facing this requires its own coming out and education process. In this guide, Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles provide a roadmap for explaining the expansive intricacies of the consensual nonmonogamy spectrum. By fusing personal experience and community research, they break down the various incarnations of polyamorous relationship structures, polyamory's intersections with race and gender, and the seemingly esoteric jargon of the lifestyle. Topics include everything from how to explain what a 'unicorn hunter' is to answering questions like, 'Can poly people raise children?' and 'Can they live normal, healthy lives?' Such conversations are eloquently explained and the real dangers of being out as poly in a monogamy-centered society are laid bare.

The issues that make monogamous dating daunting for people of color-shaming and exclusion by white partners, being fetishized, having realities of everyday racism ignored-occur in polyamorous relationships too, and trying 'not to see race' only makes it worse. To make polyamorous communities inclusive, we must all acknowledge our part in perpetuating racism and listen to people of color. Love's Not Color Blind puts forward the framework-through research, anecdotal testimony, and analogy-for understanding, identifying, and confronting racism within polyamorous communities.

Even as the broader LGBT community enjoys political and societal advances in North America, the bisexual community still today contends with decades of misinformation stereotyping them as innately indecisive, self-loathing, and untrustworthy. Claiming the B in LGBT strives to give bisexuals a seat at the table. This guidebook to the history and future of the bisexual movement fuses a chronology of bisexual organizing with essays, poems, and articles detailing the lived experiences of bisexual activities struggling against a dominant culture driven by norms of monosexual attraction, compulsory monogamy, and inflexible notions of gender expression and identity. Kate Harrad's anthology of a thriving identity yearning to realize itself provides a vision of bisexuality that is beyond gay and straight, rather than left to merely occupy the space between.

More Than Two se publicó en el año 2014 y pronto se convirtió en un referente del poliamor, ya que se centra en exclusiva en este tipo de relaciones y ofrece multitud de casos prácticos para su buen funcionamiento. Más allá de la pareja es la guía más reciente sobre poliamor ético. Eve Rickert y Franklin Veaux han recogido a lo largo de 20 años sus experiencias y las de cientos de miembros de la comunidad poliamorosa norteamericana. Este manual es una herramienta útil tanto para las personas que están empezando a pensar sus relaciones de forma poliamorosa como para quienes viven el poliamor desde hace tiempo y quieren encontrar ideas, reflexiones e historias de personas que han buscado relacionarse emocionalmente de forma ética y no monógama durante años. Los autores abordan los cuidados, las negociaciones, el veto, los derechos de las personas que tienen una relación con alguien que ya tiene pareja, las jerarquías en las relaciones y si estas tienen sentido, la confianza, el empoderamiento, los celos, la honestidad y la comunicación en relaciones no monógamas. Eve Rickert y Franklin Veaux nos invitan a cuestionar desde dónde decidimos querernos, escriben sobre el riesgo, el miedo y el crecimiento. 

Sex work was once thought to be anathema to women's liberation. Now, to some, we represent the tenacity of women's struggles under patriarchy and capitalism-that is, at least, the white, straight, cis, able-bodied sex workers who don't engage in actual sex with clients. These are the workers who get the glossy media profiles and get touted as feminist icons. But the red umbrella is wide and covers so many: escorts, sugar babies, strippers, session wrestlers, cam performers, fetish models, DIY queer porn stars, and the full range of gender, race, and ability. Our work and our identities are as vast and variable as the spectrum of sexuality itself. We do the work. In the streets, in the clubs, in hotel rooms, and in play party dungeons. We make dreams come true so we can afford a place to sleep. We do business in a marketplace that politicians and police are constantly burning down for our 'own safety and dignity.' We have high heels and higher anxiety. This isn't a collection of sob stories of heartbroken whores. This is a testament of life at ground zero of sexual discourse, the songs of canaries in the coal mines of sex, gender, class, race, and disability. We may dance on the table, but we still demand our seat at it. Sex workers of the world unite. This is A Whore's Manifesto.