Divorced Child

JOSEPH NOWINSKI Ph.D., is a psychologist and family therapist. Currently the Supervising Psychologist at the University of Connecticut Health Center, USA, he lectures frequently at the Hazeldon Foundation, and the University of Mexico Medical School. He is the author of The Identity Trap: Saving Our Teens from Themselves and 6 Questions That Can Change Your Life. Winner of the Nautilus award. He lives in Connecticut.

'Dr. Nowinski provides step-by-step guidance that helps divorcing parents achieve their ultimate goal: doing what's best for the children. Through anecdotes and his formidable expertise, he gives detailed support for the spectrum of issues and developmental stages that children experience during this transition and beyond. Parents facing divorce who are struggling to do what's right by their kids will definitely want Dr. Nowinski in their corner.' - Andrea Bonior, Ph.D., 'Baggage Check' mental health columnist, Washington Post Express 'The Divorced Child is a plain speaking, insightful book that gives parents who are contemplating divorce a road map ahead. While the book focuses on the child of divorce, it also serves to navigate for the parents. The helpful anecdotes from Dr. Nowinski's practice give a realistic and practical flavor to his counsel. He wisely approaches advice for the child according to his developmental stage. While no family wants to need such a book, if divorce lies ahead, consider using this book as a guide to your future parenting.' - Victoria McEvoy, M.D., Medical Director and Chief of Pediatrics at Mass General West Medical Group and Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at Harvard Medical School 'I can't wait to give this book to the divorcing and divorced families with whom I work! It is down-to-earth, practical and yet integrated with the author's knowledge of child and family developmental issues and tasks. The incorporation of real case illustrations will make this unique book invaluable to readers - both lay and professional. Dr. Nowinski is an excellent writer who is able to apply his vast clinical experience to help families through the complex process of separation and divorce.' - Barbara F. Okun, Ph.D., Northeastern University and Harvard Medical School She is the author of the highly successful Effective Helping: Interviewing and Counseling Techniques Praise for 6 Questions That Can Change Your Life: 'Dr. Nowinski has created a wonderfully insightful and eye-opening guide to help you discover your true self, make lasting changes, and create a solid vision for your future.' - Barry Neil Kaufman, founder/director of The Option Institute and author of Happiness Is a Choice 'A timely, compassionate, and compelling book. Dr. Nowinski shows us how to rethink who we are, discover what's truly important to us, and empower ourselves to grow into the people we're meant to be. The real-life stories of men and women who have found fulfillment and happiness offer us both hope and inspiration.' - Bob Griffiths, author of Do What You Love for the Rest of Your Life

• Introduction: The Three Crucial Years: What Parents Need to Know about Children and Divorce PART I: CHILD-CENTERED DIVORCE The Divorced Family Talking to Children about Divorce Relocating Shared Parenting: The New Look in Child Custody PART II: UNDERSTANDING YOURSELF: HOW TO BE PART OF THE SOLUTION AND NOT PART OF THE PROBLEM How 'Resilient' Are You? Your Emotional Health and Your Child How Balanced is Your Life Style? Healthy versus Unhealthy Ways of Relieving Your Stress PART III: THE THREE CRUCIAL YEARS: AGES 1-5 Separation and Attachment The Need for Exploration Divorce and Insecurity Building and Maintaining a Support Network PART IV: THE THREE CRUCIAL YEARS: AGES 6-11 Guiding Your Child toward Healthy Peer Groups The Importance of Structure, Predictability, and Routine Direction and Discipline Tantrums and Oppositional Behaviour School and Social Phobias Guarding against Academic Failure Alcohol and Drugs PART V: THE THREE CRUCIAL YEARS: AGES 12-18 Understanding Identity Helping Teens Answer the Question: Who am I? Helping Teens Answer the Question: What do I stand for? Helping Teens Answer the Question: Where am I going? New Beginnings Conclusion Chapter Notes