Treating Couples Well

David C. Treadway, PhD, is a nationally known couple therapist and author who has been teaching workshops and conducting training around the USA for the past forty years. He has written four other books and is the award-winning author of over thirty articles. Dr. Treadway has appeared on Good Morning America, 20/20 and other television and radio shows, and formerly hosted his own radio program on family communications.

"David Treadway is known far and wide as a therapist’s therapist. He is a consummate clinician whose fingerprints have become an indelible mark on thousands of therapists across North America. Treating Couples Well is the summation of his life’s work - an inside look at what actually goes on behind closed doors - how a highly gifted healer thinks blow by blow. Brimming with insight and practical tips, Treadway makes a superb guide for any couple therapist new and overwhelmed or experienced and in need of inspiration." - Terry Real, author of The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work "Bravo! This book is a clinical game-changer! It teaches readers that couple therapy is not simply a matter of teaching relationship skills or following a strict, unvarying protocol with every couple; it's about the artful blend of utilizing theory and more importantly, the healing therapeutic relationship. As Treadway unpacks his therapy approach, readily apparent are his vast expertise from years of being in the trenches with couples along with his own long-term marriage, his warmth, vulnerability and profound respect for clients.As a therapist specializing in on-the-brink couples for nearly 4 decades, as well as someone who is also in a very long-term marriage, the lessons in this book ring true and are invaluable. Anyone working with couples (or for that matter, in a relationship themselves) will benefit from Treadway’s astute perspectives on how to help people love each other more completely." - Michele Weiner-Davis, author of Divorce Busting and Healing from Infidelity"This is the kind of wisdom we hope for from our old masters. Psychotherapists of all ages, but especially the young, will feel informed, held, pushed, and pushed again. Every one of them will emerge from this plunge into the living heart of marital therapy a more confident and competent professional." - Barry Dym, PhD, co-author of Couples: Exploring and Understanding the Cycles of Intimate Relationships"Like a master chef opening his book of favorite recipes, David Treadway invites us to sample and savor a collaborative approach to caring for couples. Treating Couples Well is a personal and practical guide for new and seasoned therapists alike. The 'art and the mystery' that comprise the craft of couples therapy are well situated within a collaborative framework for those whose love’s been lost, hidden, or awaiting the hope of transformation. Treats are best enjoyed when they are shared - our thanks to David Treadway for sharing his life’s wisdom. - Jay Lappin, MSW, LCSW, Minuchin Center for the Family

• AcknowledgementsIntroduction1. The Normal Challenges of Long-Term Relationships 2. Creating Collaborative Couple Therapy: First Interview 3. Effortful Love: Behavioral Change in the Here and Now 4. The Homework That Works Well for My Clients 5. Behind Closed Doors: The Intimacy/Sexuality Conundrum 6. Camp Treadway 7. The Amends and Forgiveness Protocol 8. The Challenges of Infidelity 9. Working with Couples' Family of Origin Issues 10. Divorce: The Sword of Damocles 11. When One Spouse Is the "Problem" 12. Mayhem, Moves, Mistakes, Mismatches 13. The Elephant in the Therapist’s Chair 14. The Therapeutic Use of Self-Disclosure 15. Our CallingEpilogueAppendix: Homework HandoutsBibliographyIndex