Leslie C. Bell is a sociologist and psychotherapist who specializes in women's development and sexuality. She maintains a private practice in Berkeley, California.

"Eerily close to the contradictory feelings you've personally had on the subject, but haven't been able to express." -- Anna Breslaw Cosmopolitan "Finally! A nuanced look at hookup culture. This hookup book is not like the others." Salon "Bell hopes to dislodge embedded stereotypes of men as subject and women as object and defuse the fear that our sexuality is dangerous. Her book just might help that happen." Bust "Makes a compelling case that young women are both more ambitious-and also more conflicted about relationships-than ever before." Jezebel "Emphasises that the problem is not conflict and hurt, which are inevitable parts of living, but rather that the way these young women interpret and learn from their experiences is crucial." Times Higher Education "Bell's clear prose and accessible subject matter will appeal to both scholars of women's studies and young women looking for an explanation of some of the predicaments their generation faces." Kirkus Reviews "[Bell] hoped to find that young women would have dynamic, confident sex lives ... but found a much more complex, difficult, dare we say Lena Dunham-esque situation instead." San Francisco Magazine "[Hard to Get] will resonate with many, and ... will intrigue sociologists in this field." -- J. M. Irvine CHOICE "Timely... Bell provides a nuanced examination of the conflicts 20-something women have in navigating the issues of their professional life versus their personal life." -- Carolee A. Kallmann Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy "An accessable and provocative text for encouraging conversation on the psychological consequences of persistent gender inequalities in this so-called post-feminist era." -- Catherine Connell Contemporary Sociology

• Acknowledgments 1. The Paradox of Sexual Freedom Part I. The Sexual Woman 2. The New Taboo: Katie 3. The Bad Girl: Jayanthi 4. A Pill to Kill Desire: Claudia Part II. The Relational Woman 5. The Good Girl: Alicia 6. On Not Having It All: Phoebe Part III. The Desiring Woman 7. How Does She Do It? Maria and Susan 8. Maybe She's Born with It: Sophia and Jeanette 9. Conclusion: What's a Modern Woman to Do? Appendix I. Splitting Appendix II. Clinical Interviewing Appendix III. Demographic Information about Respondents Notes References Index

Leslie C. Bell is a sociologist and psychotherapist who specializes in women's development and sexuality. She maintains a private practice in Berkeley, California.

"Eerily close to the contradictory feelings you've personally had on the subject, but haven't been able to express." -- Anna Breslaw Cosmopolitan "Finally! A nuanced look at hookup culture. This hookup book is not like the others." Salon "Bell hopes to dislodge embedded stereotypes of men as subject and women as object and defuse the fear that our sexuality is dangerous. Her book just might help that happen." Bust "Makes a compelling case that young women are both more ambitious-and also more conflicted about relationships-than ever before." Jezebel "Emphasises that the problem is not conflict and hurt, which are inevitable parts of living, but rather that the way these young women interpret and learn from their experiences is crucial." Times Higher Education "Bell's clear prose and accessible subject matter will appeal to both scholars of women's studies and young women looking for an explanation of some of the predicaments their generation faces." Kirkus Reviews "[Bell] hoped to find that young women would have dynamic, confident sex lives ... but found a much more complex, difficult, dare we say Lena Dunham-esque situation instead." San Francisco Magazine "[Hard to Get] will resonate with many, and ... will intrigue sociologists in this field." -- J. M. Irvine CHOICE "Timely... Bell provides a nuanced examination of the conflicts 20-something women have in navigating the issues of their professional life versus their personal life." -- Carolee A. Kallmann Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy "An accessable and provocative text for encouraging conversation on the psychological consequences of persistent gender inequalities in this so-called post-feminist era." -- Catherine Connell Contemporary Sociology

• Acknowledgments 1. The Paradox of Sexual Freedom Part I. The Sexual Woman 2. The New Taboo: Katie 3. The Bad Girl: Jayanthi 4. A Pill to Kill Desire: Claudia Part II. The Relational Woman 5. The Good Girl: Alicia 6. On Not Having It All: Phoebe Part III. The Desiring Woman 7. How Does She Do It? Maria and Susan 8. Maybe She's Born with It: Sophia and Jeanette 9. Conclusion: What's a Modern Woman to Do? Appendix I. Splitting Appendix II. Clinical Interviewing Appendix III. Demographic Information about Respondents Notes References Index

Leslie C. Bell is a sociologist and psychotherapist who specializes in women's development and sexuality. She maintains a private practice in Berkeley, California.

"Eerily close to the contradictory feelings you've personally had on the subject, but haven't been able to express." -- Anna Breslaw Cosmopolitan "Finally! A nuanced look at hookup culture. This hookup book is not like the others." Salon "Bell hopes to dislodge embedded stereotypes of men as subject and women as object and defuse the fear that our sexuality is dangerous. Her book just might help that happen." Bust "Makes a compelling case that young women are both more ambitious-and also more conflicted about relationships-than ever before." Jezebel "Emphasises that the problem is not conflict and hurt, which are inevitable parts of living, but rather that the way these young women interpret and learn from their experiences is crucial." Times Higher Education "Bell's clear prose and accessible subject matter will appeal to both scholars of women's studies and young women looking for an explanation of some of the predicaments their generation faces." Kirkus Reviews "[Bell] hoped to find that young women would have dynamic, confident sex lives ... but found a much more complex, difficult, dare we say Lena Dunham-esque situation instead." San Francisco Magazine "[Hard to Get] will resonate with many, and ... will intrigue sociologists in this field." -- J. M. Irvine CHOICE "Timely... Bell provides a nuanced examination of the conflicts 20-something women have in navigating the issues of their professional life versus their personal life." -- Carolee A. Kallmann Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy "An accessable and provocative text for encouraging conversation on the psychological consequences of persistent gender inequalities in this so-called post-feminist era." -- Catherine Connell Contemporary Sociology

• Acknowledgments 1. The Paradox of Sexual Freedom Part I. The Sexual Woman 2. The New Taboo: Katie 3. The Bad Girl: Jayanthi 4. A Pill to Kill Desire: Claudia Part II. The Relational Woman 5. The Good Girl: Alicia 6. On Not Having It All: Phoebe Part III. The Desiring Woman 7. How Does She Do It? Maria and Susan 8. Maybe She's Born with It: Sophia and Jeanette 9. Conclusion: What's a Modern Woman to Do? Appendix I. Splitting Appendix II. Clinical Interviewing Appendix III. Demographic Information about Respondents Notes References Index