Laurie Helgoe, PhD, is a writer, psychologist, part-time actor, and model—and introvert. This is her fifth book.

"It changed my life. No kidding. Dr. Helgoe's book opened the door to discovery that has helped free me be myself." - Sophia Dembling, author of The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World

• CONTENTSPreface to the Second EditionIntroductionAmerica the ExtrovertedIntroversion for All-or NoneThe Big LieReviving Your IntroversionWhat's InsideIntrovert VoicesPart I: Antisocial, Weird, or Displaced?Chapter 1: The Mistaken IdentityThe Opposite of Social Is Not AntisocialThe Opposite of Social Is Not IntrovertedWe Are Not SnobsIntroversion Is Not a DiagnosisThe Abandonment of the InternalWe Are IntrovertsChapter 2: Alone Is Not a Four-Letter WordThe Culture of MoreThe Threat of SolitudeIntroversion InterruptedThe Fear of SolitudeThe Courage to Be AloneChapter 3: Becoming an AlienAlien Society or Alien Self?Shadow Dwellers: Goths, Geeks, and Fantasy FreaksNo Place to Hide: The Accessible IntrovertThe SetupThe Third OptionChapter 4: "Anyone Else IN?"The Extroversion AssumptionFinding IntrovertsA New AssumptionWhere the (Inner) Action IsMy Space in CyberspaceChapter 5: The Get-Happier MandatePut on a Happy FaceUnhappy PursuitThe Right to Pursue AnswersHappy to Fit InThe "S" WordInventing Depression, Prescribing HappinessThe Downside of UpI'll Have What I'm HavingPart II: The Introvert's Wish ListChapter 6: Meditating with the Majority:The Introverted SocietyNorden: Private and ProudJapan: Manners over MouthIntrovertiaChapter 7: A Room of Your OwnYour Dream RoomFrom Dream to RealRoom OutsideOffice SpaceChapter 8: The Time to ThinkTime PovertyThe Ticking Bomb ModelFrom Deadline to Birth TimeNature's Rhythm, Society's RhythmThe Rhythm of IntroversionChapter 9: The Right to RetreatWhat Is a Retreat?How Do I Know When to Go?A Society in Search of IntroversionOverruling the ObjectionsRetreat DreamsMini-RetreatsChapter 10: The Freedom of a FlaneurThe Artist's EyeAmong, Yet AloneFlâneurie 101Your Invisibility CloakChapter 11: Inroads to IntimacyIntimacy through IdeasSticking It OutGoing DeepPart III: Standing Still in a Loud WorldChapter 12: The Conversation ConundrumThe Risk of PlayingSlowing It DownConversation PreparationMusic to Our EarsChapter 13: The Anti-Party Guide"No" Is an OptionPros and ConsEstablishing Your TermsIntroverting at the PartyChapter 14: Why Did I Want to Work with People?Doing Versus ThinkingWhat is Work?A Culture of InterruptionIntrovert ExploitationChanging Your MindIdea IncLeading, Introvert-StyleChapter 15: The Downside to Self-ContainmentThe Lonely HearthA Limited ViewSelf-ReproachStale AirLoss of CommunityChapter 16: Showing Up for RelationshipsThe Problem of FamilyIntroversion and IntimacyLoving Our ExtrovertsRelationship AssessmentPart IV: Outing the IntrovertChapter 17: From Apology to Acceptance-and BeyondApologies, Explanations, and ExcusesThe Place for ApologyIntrovert IntegrityChapter 18: Celebrating IntroversionLife in the DarkIntroverts Are CoolWide ReceiversThe Yin CelebrationChapter 19: Expressing What's In ThereWriting It OutBeyond WordsHaving the StageIntroversion DiversionsChapter 20: Moshing on Your Own TermsMeeting Your OppositeLearning from Our ExtrovertsOrganic ExpansionExtroverting for EnergyThe Paradox of the PitChapter 21: Introvert PowerTribute to an IntrovertMeditating in Your Mosh PitBibliographyAcknowledgmentsAbout the Author

Laurie Helgoe, PhD, is a writer, psychologist, part-time actor, and model—and introvert. This is her fifth book.

"It changed my life. No kidding. Dr. Helgoe's book opened the door to discovery that has helped free me be myself." - Sophia Dembling, author of The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World

• CONTENTSPreface to the Second EditionIntroductionAmerica the ExtrovertedIntroversion for All-or NoneThe Big LieReviving Your IntroversionWhat's InsideIntrovert VoicesPart I: Antisocial, Weird, or Displaced?Chapter 1: The Mistaken IdentityThe Opposite of Social Is Not AntisocialThe Opposite of Social Is Not IntrovertedWe Are Not SnobsIntroversion Is Not a DiagnosisThe Abandonment of the InternalWe Are IntrovertsChapter 2: Alone Is Not a Four-Letter WordThe Culture of MoreThe Threat of SolitudeIntroversion InterruptedThe Fear of SolitudeThe Courage to Be AloneChapter 3: Becoming an AlienAlien Society or Alien Self?Shadow Dwellers: Goths, Geeks, and Fantasy FreaksNo Place to Hide: The Accessible IntrovertThe SetupThe Third OptionChapter 4: "Anyone Else IN?"The Extroversion AssumptionFinding IntrovertsA New AssumptionWhere the (Inner) Action IsMy Space in CyberspaceChapter 5: The Get-Happier MandatePut on a Happy FaceUnhappy PursuitThe Right to Pursue AnswersHappy to Fit InThe "S" WordInventing Depression, Prescribing HappinessThe Downside of UpI'll Have What I'm HavingPart II: The Introvert's Wish ListChapter 6: Meditating with the Majority:The Introverted SocietyNorden: Private and ProudJapan: Manners over MouthIntrovertiaChapter 7: A Room of Your OwnYour Dream RoomFrom Dream to RealRoom OutsideOffice SpaceChapter 8: The Time to ThinkTime PovertyThe Ticking Bomb ModelFrom Deadline to Birth TimeNature's Rhythm, Society's RhythmThe Rhythm of IntroversionChapter 9: The Right to RetreatWhat Is a Retreat?How Do I Know When to Go?A Society in Search of IntroversionOverruling the ObjectionsRetreat DreamsMini-RetreatsChapter 10: The Freedom of a FlaneurThe Artist's EyeAmong, Yet AloneFlâneurie 101Your Invisibility CloakChapter 11: Inroads to IntimacyIntimacy through IdeasSticking It OutGoing DeepPart III: Standing Still in a Loud WorldChapter 12: The Conversation ConundrumThe Risk of PlayingSlowing It DownConversation PreparationMusic to Our EarsChapter 13: The Anti-Party Guide"No" Is an OptionPros and ConsEstablishing Your TermsIntroverting at the PartyChapter 14: Why Did I Want to Work with People?Doing Versus ThinkingWhat is Work?A Culture of InterruptionIntrovert ExploitationChanging Your MindIdea IncLeading, Introvert-StyleChapter 15: The Downside to Self-ContainmentThe Lonely HearthA Limited ViewSelf-ReproachStale AirLoss of CommunityChapter 16: Showing Up for RelationshipsThe Problem of FamilyIntroversion and IntimacyLoving Our ExtrovertsRelationship AssessmentPart IV: Outing the IntrovertChapter 17: From Apology to Acceptance-and BeyondApologies, Explanations, and ExcusesThe Place for ApologyIntrovert IntegrityChapter 18: Celebrating IntroversionLife in the DarkIntroverts Are CoolWide ReceiversThe Yin CelebrationChapter 19: Expressing What's In ThereWriting It OutBeyond WordsHaving the StageIntroversion DiversionsChapter 20: Moshing on Your Own TermsMeeting Your OppositeLearning from Our ExtrovertsOrganic ExpansionExtroverting for EnergyThe Paradox of the PitChapter 21: Introvert PowerTribute to an IntrovertMeditating in Your Mosh PitBibliographyAcknowledgmentsAbout the Author

Laurie Helgoe, PhD, is a writer, psychologist, part-time actor, and model—and introvert. This is her fifth book.

"It changed my life. No kidding. Dr. Helgoe's book opened the door to discovery that has helped free me be myself." - Sophia Dembling, author of The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World

• CONTENTSPreface to the Second EditionIntroductionAmerica the ExtrovertedIntroversion for All-or NoneThe Big LieReviving Your IntroversionWhat's InsideIntrovert VoicesPart I: Antisocial, Weird, or Displaced?Chapter 1: The Mistaken IdentityThe Opposite of Social Is Not AntisocialThe Opposite of Social Is Not IntrovertedWe Are Not SnobsIntroversion Is Not a DiagnosisThe Abandonment of the InternalWe Are IntrovertsChapter 2: Alone Is Not a Four-Letter WordThe Culture of MoreThe Threat of SolitudeIntroversion InterruptedThe Fear of SolitudeThe Courage to Be AloneChapter 3: Becoming an AlienAlien Society or Alien Self?Shadow Dwellers: Goths, Geeks, and Fantasy FreaksNo Place to Hide: The Accessible IntrovertThe SetupThe Third OptionChapter 4: "Anyone Else IN?"The Extroversion AssumptionFinding IntrovertsA New AssumptionWhere the (Inner) Action IsMy Space in CyberspaceChapter 5: The Get-Happier MandatePut on a Happy FaceUnhappy PursuitThe Right to Pursue AnswersHappy to Fit InThe "S" WordInventing Depression, Prescribing HappinessThe Downside of UpI'll Have What I'm HavingPart II: The Introvert's Wish ListChapter 6: Meditating with the Majority:The Introverted SocietyNorden: Private and ProudJapan: Manners over MouthIntrovertiaChapter 7: A Room of Your OwnYour Dream RoomFrom Dream to RealRoom OutsideOffice SpaceChapter 8: The Time to ThinkTime PovertyThe Ticking Bomb ModelFrom Deadline to Birth TimeNature's Rhythm, Society's RhythmThe Rhythm of IntroversionChapter 9: The Right to RetreatWhat Is a Retreat?How Do I Know When to Go?A Society in Search of IntroversionOverruling the ObjectionsRetreat DreamsMini-RetreatsChapter 10: The Freedom of a FlaneurThe Artist's EyeAmong, Yet AloneFlâneurie 101Your Invisibility CloakChapter 11: Inroads to IntimacyIntimacy through IdeasSticking It OutGoing DeepPart III: Standing Still in a Loud WorldChapter 12: The Conversation ConundrumThe Risk of PlayingSlowing It DownConversation PreparationMusic to Our EarsChapter 13: The Anti-Party Guide"No" Is an OptionPros and ConsEstablishing Your TermsIntroverting at the PartyChapter 14: Why Did I Want to Work with People?Doing Versus ThinkingWhat is Work?A Culture of InterruptionIntrovert ExploitationChanging Your MindIdea IncLeading, Introvert-StyleChapter 15: The Downside to Self-ContainmentThe Lonely HearthA Limited ViewSelf-ReproachStale AirLoss of CommunityChapter 16: Showing Up for RelationshipsThe Problem of FamilyIntroversion and IntimacyLoving Our ExtrovertsRelationship AssessmentPart IV: Outing the IntrovertChapter 17: From Apology to Acceptance-and BeyondApologies, Explanations, and ExcusesThe Place for ApologyIntrovert IntegrityChapter 18: Celebrating IntroversionLife in the DarkIntroverts Are CoolWide ReceiversThe Yin CelebrationChapter 19: Expressing What's In ThereWriting It OutBeyond WordsHaving the StageIntroversion DiversionsChapter 20: Moshing on Your Own TermsMeeting Your OppositeLearning from Our ExtrovertsOrganic ExpansionExtroverting for EnergyThe Paradox of the PitChapter 21: Introvert PowerTribute to an IntrovertMeditating in Your Mosh PitBibliographyAcknowledgmentsAbout the Author