Modern Families

Joshua Gamson is Professor of Sociology at the University of San Francisco. He is the author of Claims to Fame: Celebrity in Contemporary America, Freaks Talk Back: Tabloid Talk Shows and Sexual Nonconformity, and The Fabulous Sylvester: The Legend, the Music, the Seventies in San Francisco.Melissa Harris-Perry is Presidential Chair and Professor of Politics and International Affairs at Wake Forest University and the host of MSNBC's Melissa Harris-Perry. She is the author of Sister Citizen: Shame, Stereotypes, and Black Women in America.

"These 'bedtime stories' should expand the hearts and minds of readers. Josh Gamson's exquisitely rendered tales of brave new family-making routes to contemporary parenthood and kinship aim to advance the dream of reproductive freedom." - Judith Stacey,author of Unhitched: Love, Marriage, and Family Values from West Hollywood to Western China "Modern Families is about people who attempt to create an ordinary child through extraordinary means.Their journey startsand their childs Origin Story beginsby navigating the worlds of assisted reproduction, new forms of co-parenting and global adoption. In doing so, these families challenge boundaries of traditional kinship and intimacies. Featured tales of parenthood are told against a backdrop of rapidly changing advances in biomedicine, the expansion of the Internet and globalizing markets. Josh Gamson, a gifted writer, delivers a provocative and memorable book." - Rosanna Hertz,author of Single by Chance, Mothers by Choice "Both seriously passionate about his cause and irrepressibly funny, Gamson takes us into the new world of unconventional family making. Making his way past the wagging fingers, he takes important new questions to the public square. If two men want a baby, whose egg and womb will it be, and what will be their relationships to the two women involved? How do we buy genes or borrow wombs or adopt children without letting the market take over the story and meaning? Modern Families is a deeply compassionate voyage into uncharted territory." - Arlie Hochschild,author of The Outsourced Self: Intimate Life in Market Times "In this book, both carefully observed and deeply felt, Joshua Gamson gives voice to the changing nature of family in modern America. The new relationships he describes are complicated and sometimes difficult, but also suffused with love. This beautifully constructed and often hilarious manifesto rings with hope for a society in which everyone is free not only to marry but also to designate as family whomever he or she chooses." - Andrew Solomon,author of Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity "These family making journeys raise hard questions, but offer no formulaic answers. These are stories of choices made consciously and sometimes uncomfortably to create and combine lives amidst the messy human realities of desire, commerce, science, faith, community and family. This collection is not a roadmap; it is a companion for all those who choose to navigate the world of modern kinship." - from the Foreword by Melissa Harris-Perry "[T]hese tales area warmhearted and normalizing look at some rare kinds of families." (Choice) "[A] fascinating look at the remarkable range of experiences that is broadening the very idea of family." (Booklist) "Gamson successfully weaves together the personal and the academic throughout the book. He takes personal stories and situates them in more complicated institutions and social structures." (Brain Child Magazine) "The various stories of family creation told inModern Families--the struggles and the successes--are quite moving." (Brain, Child Magazine) "[Gamson] shares their tales with an engaging, gently humorous, and at times poetic style. At the same time, he also teases out the connections between individual family stories and the social systems in which they are immersed." (Philadelphia Gay News) "What is so deft aboutModern Familiesis the ease with which Gamson weaves together individual stories about creating families with academic research about the process, from single parenthood to gay parenting to reproductive technologieshe describes the often heart-wrenching emotional and technological lengths they had to go to. There are moments in all these accounts that will bring you to tears." (In These Times) "Rich in dramatic tensions, private passions and public and political moral complexities, these 'creation stories' of having children in unusual family contexts make the famous tale of descending from Lady Bracknell's handbag pale in comparison." (Times Higher Education) "InModern Families, Gamson offers both the personal and the critical perspectives. The stories of the journeys to kinship are beautifully rendered, novelistic page-turners. They are told, though, in context of the overarching social forces and disparities." (PsychCentral.com) "Takes the reader on an intimate journey through some of the many extraordinary pathways to parenthood available in the early twenty-first century." (Sociological Forum)

• vii CONTENTS Foreword by Melissa Harris-Perry ix Acknowledgments xiii Introduction: Impertinent Questions 1 1 Reba, Live! 18 2 Stranger Things Have Happened 51 3 Birth Control 83 4 The Kids in the Pictures 108 5 My New Kentucky Baby 139 6 Queer Conceptions 171 Conclusion: Bedtime Stories for a New Generation 203 Notes 215 Index 225 About the Author 235