Simple Guide to Understanding Shame in Children

Betsy de Thierry is a practising psychotherapist and with over 30 years of experience and knowledge within the field of Complex Trauma & navigating Trauma Recovery. She is the founder of Trauma Recovery Global, which provides training and consultancy and partnerships with select organisations and practitioners to licence her Trauma Recovery Focused Model (TRFM) in 34 nations. She is also the founder of the Trauma Recovery Centre (TRC), a charity specialising in recovery from complex trauma and the founder of CTRN (Childhood Trauma Recovery Network UK). Betsy is also a qualified primary school teacher and is a mum of four brilliant sons.

Another brilliant book by Betsy de Thierry. Shame is such a crucial area and emotion, however one that is often overlooked. Therefore it is great to see a book that offers a deeper understanding and practical ideas for support around shame. This book is written in an accessible, engaging, and informative way. The doodles and reflective questions are fantastic too. A welcome addition to any book shelf!

• Preface. 1. What is shame? 2. What is the impact of shame? 3. The neurobiology of shame. 4. How do children get shamed? 5. Shame symptoms: a) hiding, masks, silence and sorry. 6. Shame symptoms: b) deceit, lying, critical of others and projection. 7. Shame symptoms: c) self hatred, self rejection and anger. 8. Shame symptoms: d) emotional shut down, dissociation & confusion. 9. How can we help heal shame? 10. Building shame resilience. Conclusion.