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American Book Fest Best Health Book (Mental Health & Psychology) Award Winner 2018Cutting-edge and accessible psychotherapy to put us back in touch with our emotions - and fast'I loved it ... I have drawn my own picture of the change triangle - both fascinating and useful' - Cathy RentzenbrinkWe were all taught that our thoughts affect our emotions, but in truth it is largely the other way around: we have to experience our emotions to truly understand our thoughts, and our full selves. This is why we should think not only about cognitive behavioural therapy or medication, but also about our emotions, when addressing psychological suffering.In It's Not Always Depression, pioneering psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel reveals the most effective techniques for putting us back in touch with the emotions we too often deny - methods which can be used by anyone, any time, anywhere. Drawing on stories from her own practice, she sheds light on the core emotions (such as joy, sadness and fear), defences (anything we do to avoid feeling) and inhibitory emotions (anxiety, shame and guilt), and how understanding their interaction can help us return to mental well-being.This is the basis of 'accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy:' it accelerates healing through having an emotional experience in the here and now. It allows you to reacquaint yourself with your feelings, to recover a more authentic self and to be more calm, curious and connected.Winner of Nautilus Silver for Personal Growth Books 2019 and The American Legacy Book Award for Psychology/Mental Health.

Fascinating patient stories and dynamic exercises help you connect to healing emotions, ease anxiety and depression, and discover your authentic self.WINNER OF THE AMERICAN BOOK FEST LEGACY AWARD IN HEALTH: PSYCHOLOGY/MENTAL HEALTHSara suffered a debilitating fear of asserting herself. Spencer experienced crippling social anxiety. Bonnie was shut down, disconnected from her feelings. These patients all came to psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel seeking treatment for depression, but in fact none of them were chemically depressed. Rather, Jacobs Hendel found that they’d all experienced traumas in their youth that caused them to put up emotional defenses that masqueraded as symptoms of depression. Jacobs Hendel led these patients and others toward lives newly capable of joy and fulfillment through an empathic and effective therapeutic approach that draws on the latest science about the healing power of our emotions.Whereas conventional therapy encourages patients to talk through past events that may trigger anxiety and depression, accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP), the method practiced by Jacobs Hendel and pioneered by Diana Fosha, PhD, teaches us to identify the defenses and inhibitory emotions (shame, guilt, and anxiety) that block core emotions (anger, sadness, fear, disgust, joy, excitement, and sexual excitement). Fully experiencing core emotions allows us to enter an openhearted state where we are calm, curious, connected, compassionate, confident, courageous, and clear.In It’s Not Always Depression, Jacobs Hendel shares a unique and pragmatic tool called the Change Triangle—a guide to carry you from a place of disconnection back to your true self. In these pages, she teaches lay readers and helping professionals alike• why all emotions—even the most painful—have value.• how to identify emotions and the defenses we put up against them.• how to get to the root of anxiety—the most common mental illness of our time.• how to have compassion for the child you were and the adult you are.Jacobs Hendel provides navigational tools, body and thought exercises, candid personal anecdotes, and profound insights gleaned from her patients’ remarkable breakthroughs. She shows us how to work the Change Triangle in our everyday lives and chart a deeply personal, powerful, and hopeful course to psychological well-being and emotional engagement.

Accessible psychotherapy to put us back in touch with our emotions, from the Mental Health Consultant to Mad MenIn this practical and fascinating new account of psychological suffering, pioneering psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel shows that we should focus not on cognitive behavioural therapy or medication, but on our emotions. We were all taught that our thoughts affect our emotions, but in truth it is largely the other way around: we have to experience our emotions to truly understand our thoughts and our full selves.And our emotions offer a more direct pathway to healing. It's Not Always Depression reveals the most effective techniques for putting us back in touch with the emotions we too often deny - methods which can be used by anyone, any time, anywhere. Drawing on stories from her own practice, Jacobs Hendel sheds light on the core emotions (such as joy, sadness and fear), defences (anything we do to avoid feeling) and inhibitory emotions (anxiety, shame and guilt), and how understanding their interaction can help us return to mental wellbeing - and quickly.If we avoid our emotions, this requires energy that might otherwise help us be our authentic selves and be calm, curious and connected. Reacquaint yourself with your emotions, and recover a vital, more engaged, more authentic self.

No siempre es depresión ha ganado el 2018 Best Book Award Winner, y el Nautilus Book Award.Mientras que la terapia convencional anima a los pacientes a hablar de los acontecimientos del pasado que pueden desencadenar la ansiedad y la depresión, la psicoterapia dinámica experiencial acelerada (AEDP), el método practicado por Jacobs Hendel y creado por la doctora en psicología Diana Fosha, nos enseña a identificar las defensas y las emociones inhibidoras (vergüenza, culpa y ansiedad) que bloquean las emociones fundamentales (ira, tristeza, miedo, asco, alegría y excitación). Experimentar plenamente las emociones fundamentales nos permite entrar en un estado de corazón abierto en el que nos sentimos tranquilos, curiosos, conectados, compasivos, seguros, valientes y claros.En No siempre es depresión, Jacobs Hendel comparte una herramienta única y pragmática llamada el triángulo del cambio, una guía para llevarte desde un lugar de desconexión hasta tu verdadero Yo. En este libro, se enseña a los lectores legos y a los profesionales de ayuda por igual: Por qué todas las emociones, incluso las más dolorosas, tienen valor. Cómo identificar las emociones y las defensas que ponemos contra ellas. Cómo llegar a la raíz de la ansiedad, la enfermedad mental más común de nuestro tiempo. Cómo tener compasión por el niño que fuiste y el adulto que eres.Jacobs Hendel proporciona herramientas, ejercicios corporales y mentales, anécdotas personales y profundos conocimientos recogidos de los notables avances de sus pacientes. Nos muestra cómo trabajar el triángulo del cambio en nuestra vida cotidiana y trazar un curso profundamente personal, poderoso y esperanzador hacia el bienestar psicológico y el compromiso emocional.El triángulo del cambio es un mapa para superar nuestra angustia para poder pasar más tiempo en unos estados del Self más tranquilos y más vitales. El triángulo del cambio se basa en la investigación científica más reciente sobre las emociones y sobre el cerebro. A pesar de sus complicadas raíces científicas, intuitivamente encaja y es un recurso para manejar las emociones del que ninguno de nosotros deberíamos prescindir.Para Hilary: Todo el mundo se beneficia de entender las emociones. Pero esto no es un simple "nombrarlas y describirlas" sino que es comprender cómo se mueven las emociones en el cuerpo y en la mente las hace menos misteriosas y aterradoras, especialmente en los momentos en que son grandes y dolorosas. Las emociones son respuestas físicas que deben ser experimentadas para ser procesadas para obtener alivio. Las emociones bloqueadas causan estrés en la mente y el cuerpo. Este estrés conduce a síntomas como la depresión, la ansiedad, los trastornos alimenticios, el daño a sí mismo, las adicciones, los trastornos de personalidad y más.Cuando Hilary conoció la herramienta "triángulo del conflicto" creada por David Malan en los 70 y ampliada (triángulo de la experiencia) por Diana Fosha (2000) le pareció tan fascinante, útil y necesaria que decidió divulgarla (como "triángulo del cambio") para todos los públicos en el libro No siempre es depresión.El triángulo del cambio es un mapa de la mente. Una guía para llevar a las personas de un lugar de desconexión a su verdadero Yo. Es un proceso paso a paso para sentirse mejor. Funciona haciendo que te vuelvas a familiarizar con las emociones fundamentales como la alegría, la ira, la tristeza, el miedo y la excitación. Hilary quiere ayudar a todo el mundo a reconectarse con su Ser vital, más conectado y auténtico.

2026 NEXT GENERATION INDIE BOOK AWARDS WINNER - PARENTING/FAMILY This practical guide teaches parents how to understand and process their emotions–and how to teach this valuable, life-changing skill of emotional intelligence to the next generation.Parents Have Feelings, Too is an emotions playbook for family wellness. With 1 in 5 moms experiencing anxiety or depression, and over 60% of parents struggling with burnout, parents need tools to support their emotional well-being. Parents Have Feelings, Too illuminates the emotional lives of mothers and fathers, providing parents with practical tools and guidance so they can effectively work with their emotions, as well as their children's, with greater calm and confidence.Parents desperately need real, actionable, long-lasting advice that helps them process their emotions in a healthy and productive way. In Parents Have Feelings, Too, psychotherapists Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Juli Fraga provide the tools parents need to understand and effectively work with their own potent feelings, breaking the chain of intergenerational trauma, and passing along emotional intelligence to their children to create a generation of people with emotional regulation skills.Parents Have Feelings, Too includes the following:Practical strategies to help parents process their feelingsStories and examplesTools that build confidence and emotional know-how in their childrenNew approaches that break the intergenerational transfer of trauma so parents can raise emotionally healthier people who can thrive amidst the many challenges of being human in society today  Expert insights and insight-building exercises that support parents on their emotional journeyParents have feelings. And when they can identify what they are, where they are coming from, and how to work with them, parents are empowered to help their children understand and navigate their own emotions.