The world of consenting Master/slave relationships often seems murky and mysterious from an outsider''s perspective, and there are few models for those who are tentatively venturing into it. When it''s not just a fantasy any more, reality often turns out to be so different from fantasy that would-be owners and slaves don''t know how to make it work in a sustainable way. This book is as far from fantasy as it gets. Written by a real-life Master/slave couple who counsel people in power-dynamic relationships, Dear Raven and Joshua answers real questions about real problems encountered in daily living with M/s. Whether you''re playing part-time with a BDSM lifestyle, live in a leather household, or are attempting a 24/7 total power exchange, you''ll find this book is a trouble-shooting resource you won''t want to pass up.

When we create conscious and consenting power dynamic relationships, most of the models we find in fiction and fantasy are adversarial, with dominant and submissive members on opposite sides of a display of force. This model works for some couples, but not for all. Instead of an adversarial model, this book outlines a cooperative Teamwork model where the dominant and submissive members work together to make effective progress in the goals of the relationship. The Teamwork method of building a mindful unequal relationship emphasizes mutual responsibility, problem solving, honesty, and trust. Complete with exercises, this book is a primer for everyone who finds that an adversarial model of power exchange isn’t the best choice for their relationship.

In any consenting and negotiated personal service relationship, there are hundreds of ways in which the servant can make the master’s life easier, and the master can manage the servant most effectively. Why is it that we usually only hear about a few of these ways, mostly sexual service, kinky play, and BDSM, or perhaps leather care or formal tea service? From housework to driving to child care to personal care, nearly anyone who is in service (or who would like to be) has dozens of skills they already know that they can offer as a service, and there are countless more practical everyday skills they can learn. Real Service is a handbook for service-oriented submissives and the people they serve, providing techniques to help a service relationship function smoothly, and suggestions for service that can be offered.

In erotic stories, consensual submissives and slaves all too often have unrealistic lives, kept in cages or suffering terrible tortures ? or serving placidly without ever having a bad day. Real life, on the other hand, is more likely to involve the torture of changing the catbox or doing the dishes, and actual voluntary servants can find themselves snagged in doubt, rebellion, or frustration. These essays and interviews by real-life submissives and slaves tell of how they learned to get past the unmapped struggles in the road to submission, and learn to make peace with the life they wanted and chose. Learning Submission is a wealth of practical help from more experienced followers to beginning followers of all kinds.

The world of consenting Master/slave relationships often seems murky and mysterious from an outsider''s perspective, and there are few models for those who are tentatively venturing into it. When it''s not just a fantasy any more, reality often turns out to be so different from fantasy that would-be owners and slaves don''t know how to make it work in a sustainable way. This book is as far from fantasy as it gets. Written by a real-life Master/slave couple who counsel people in power-dynamic relationships, Dear Raven and Joshua answers real questions about real problems encountered in daily living with M/s. Whether you''re playing part-time with a BDSM lifestyle, live in a leather household, or are attempting a 24/7 total power exchange, you''ll find this book is a trouble-shooting resource you won''t want to pass up.

When we create conscious and consenting power dynamic relationships, most of the models we find in fiction and fantasy are adversarial, with dominant and submissive members on opposite sides of a display of force. This model works for some couples, but not for all. Instead of an adversarial model, this book outlines a cooperative Teamwork model where the dominant and submissive members work together to make effective progress in the goals of the relationship. The Teamwork method of building a mindful unequal relationship emphasizes mutual responsibility, problem solving, honesty, and trust. Complete with exercises, this book is a primer for everyone who finds that an adversarial model of power exchange isn’t the best choice for their relationship.

In any consenting and negotiated personal service relationship, there are hundreds of ways in which the servant can make the master’s life easier, and the master can manage the servant most effectively. Why is it that we usually only hear about a few of these ways, mostly sexual service, kinky play, and BDSM, or perhaps leather care or formal tea service? From housework to driving to child care to personal care, nearly anyone who is in service (or who would like to be) has dozens of skills they already know that they can offer as a service, and there are countless more practical everyday skills they can learn. Real Service is a handbook for service-oriented submissives and the people they serve, providing techniques to help a service relationship function smoothly, and suggestions for service that can be offered.

In erotic stories, consensual submissives and slaves all too often have unrealistic lives, kept in cages or suffering terrible tortures ? or serving placidly without ever having a bad day. Real life, on the other hand, is more likely to involve the torture of changing the catbox or doing the dishes, and actual voluntary servants can find themselves snagged in doubt, rebellion, or frustration. These essays and interviews by real-life submissives and slaves tell of how they learned to get past the unmapped struggles in the road to submission, and learn to make peace with the life they wanted and chose. Learning Submission is a wealth of practical help from more experienced followers to beginning followers of all kinds.