Leslie Becker-Phelps – författare

Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? No one wants to admit that they possess these qualities; but if you find yourself constantly on the alert, anxious, or worried when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment, a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences.In Freeing Your Love From Insecurity, you'll learn how to overcome attachment anxiety using compassionate self-awareness, a technique that can help you recognize your negative thoughts or unhealthy behavior patterns and respond to them in a nurturing way—rather than beating yourself up. You’ll also learn how insecurity can negatively affect healthy dialog between you and your partner (or potential partners) and develop the skills needed to stop you from reverting back to old patterns of neediness and possessiveness.If you suffer from anxious attachment, you probably know that you need to change, and yet you have remained stuck. With compassionate self-awareness, you can successfully explore old anxiety perpetuating perceptions and habits without being overwhelmed or paralyzed by them. By understanding the psychological factors at the root of your attachment anxiety, you will learn to cultivate secure, healthy relationships to last a lifetime.If you’re ready to stop getting stuck in the same hurtful relationship patterns and finally break the cycle of heartache, this book can show you how to get the love you deserve—and keep it!

Go beyond your fear of rejection to develop confidence, compassionate self-awareness, and resilience!Do you have a fear of rejection? If so, you aren't alone. But if you have difficulty bouncing back after rejection, experience intense pain as a result, or if the fear of rejection is so crippling that it interferes with your everyday life, it's time to make a change. This groundbreaking guide can help.With this book, you'll learn why you fear rejection by gaining an understanding of your unique attachment style. Secure attachment is defined as a feeling of being protected and well-cared for. People who experience secure attachment as young children are more likely to be happy, healthy, and resilient adults. On the other hand, insecurely attached people are less likely to cope well with rejection, and may have trouble "bouncing back" after difficult experiences. Once you understand how your attachment style has informed your fears, you can begin the work needed to overcome them!Using the theory of attachment, and the five domains of awareness: Sensations, Thoughts, Emotions, Actions, and Mentalizing (STEAM), you'll learn to relate to yourself and to others in more positive ways, even when difficult situations arise. So, whether you experience rejection in a romantic relationship, at work, or with friends, you'll have the resilience needed to recover quickly and focus on what makes you special and unique.This isn't a book that promises to protect you from future rejection. Unfortunately, rejection happens to everyone and is a normal part of life. But you will learn skills to handle this rejection and come to see it as less scary. With this view, you'll gain confidence, self-awareness, and the resilience needed to bounce back, even when life throws you a curveball.

A step-by-step workbook to help you move past anxious attachment and feel more confident in your relationships!Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? If they go out with their friends, do you worry that they might be flirting or hooking up with someone else? Do you often worry that they’re going to leave you? If you find yourself constantly on the alert or anxious when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment—a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences. So, how can you move past this anxiety before it hurts—or even destroys—your relationship?Based on the self-help hit by Leslie Becker-Phelps, The Insecure in Love Workbook offers engaging activities, tips, and exercises to help you overcome attachment anxiety by developing compassionate self-awareness. You’ll learn to recognize physical sensations, negative thoughts, distressing emotions, and unhealthy behavior patterns that underlie your insecurity; and respond to them in a more nurturing way—rather than beating yourself up.You’ll also discover how insecurity can overwhelm or paralyze you, negatively affecting the relationship between you and your partner. Finally, you’ll develop the skills needed to stop repeating old patterns of self-doubt, neediness, and possessiveness.If you suffer from anxious attachment, you probably know that you need to change, and yet you have remained stuck. But by developing compassionate self-awareness, you can finally free yourself from this cycle of self-sabotage, so you can nurture greater self-acceptance and cultivate secure, healthy, and lasting relationships.