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Life doesn''t have to be like this! Are you getting pushed around? Do you feel you need to do everything asked of you by your partner or anyone else? Do you feel you have to fulfill all your partner''s needs no matter what? Are you frightened of being unable to survive without your partner? Are you picked on and undermined if you question your partner on any issue? Is your self-esteem low? Have you lost your confidence? Do you remember a time when you could think for yourself and deal with most of the things that life throws at you? Do you ask yourself, "where have I gone wrong and how can I put it right?" Do you ask yourself, "where is the person who could deal with the daily problems of relationships and life, gone, or indeed have I not yet learned to think and act for myself?" If you answered YES to any of these questions, then this book is for you. Life Without Bullying: A Practical Guide is an essential tool in assisting you to change your position from being emotionally dependent on your partner to becoming emotionally independent. It will assist you in changing from being emotionally inadequate to becoming emotionally adequate. This book will enable you to become the person you once were or it can change you to becoming the person you have always wanted to be. "It is hard to believe how much useful information the author has packed into this slender tome." --Sam Vaknin, PhD, author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissim Revisited

Book #3 in the 10-Step Empowerment Series

If you can recognize your guilt, you can use it for self-improvement Ask yourself: Do you want to learn how to forgive yourself? Do you want to correct mistakes instead of hiding them? Do you become angry very quickly? (over-reacting) Do you get caught up in blaming and assigning guilt? Do you often ask yourself "Why did I do that?" Are you afraid that if you don''t do everything your partner asks then he/she will leave you? Do you often put down or attack others before they can hurt you? Do you sometimes believe that nothing good can come your way? Do you opt-out of responsibility when possible? If you answered YES to more than one of these questions, then this book is for you. This is the book to help you overcome your unwanted emotional burden. Be ready to embark on a journey of discovery of the many different types of guilt and shame. You can use this little book as a manual to overcome emotional insecurity issues and to give you a clearer perspective on your own emotions of guilt and shame. The exercises in this book will enable you to see yourself as you really are "warts and all" and further exercises will help you in eliminating destructive feelings and actions. "It is hard to believe how much useful information the author has packed into this slender tome." --Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited Book #6 in the 10-Step Empowerment Series

Ask'' yourself... Do you feel the need to be frequently checking up on your partner? Are you suspicious when you meet new people? Do you often question your partner about where they are going and who they are seeing? Do you withdraw from your partner without giving an explanation as to why you are doing this? Do you make all of the social arrangements for your partner''s life? Have you ever feigned illness to keep your partner at home? Are you frightened of being unable to survive without your partner? Do you examine on your partner''s phone records, emails, or text messages "just in case"? Do you put your partner down over small details or infractions of agreements? If you answered YES to more than one of these questions, then this book is for you. This is the book to help you overcome this unwanted emotion. You will embark on a journey to discover the many types of jealousy. You can use this book as a manual to overcome emotional insecurity issues and to give you a clearer perspective on the emotion of jealousy. By engaging with the exercises with this book, you''ll be able to see yourself as you really are and further exercises will assist you in eliminating your jealous thoughts and behavior. "I truly feel that every individual who is dealing with issues of some form of jealousy will greatly benefit from reading Life Without Jealousy by Lynda Bevan. This includes people who are not jealous themselves but are being affected by others who are. Learning to understand it, overcome it, and gain effective new ways to communicate will greatly improve the quality of our lives." --Paige Lovitt, Reader Views "It is hard to believe how much useful information the author has packed into this slender tome." --Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Love & Romance Psychology : Emotions Self-Help : Abuse - General

Your long-time partner has just walked out on you forever: Do you feel paralyzed or afraid to move on? Does the thought or sight of your old partner with someone else fill you with rage? Are you worried or anxious about how to get by financially on your own? Are you afraid to start another relationship with a new partner? Do you lack energy and motivation to do anything at all since the break-up? Do you spend a lot of time thinking how it might have been different? If you answered YES to any of these questions then this book is for you! Life After Your Lover Walks Out: A Practical Guide, is an honest, straightforward book that helps the reader through each step on the road to recovery. The book identifies the feelings that emerge during this emotional upheaval and offers a reservoir of alternative solutions on how to deal with these emotions. The journey of self-discovery is handled sensitively, and is an essential passage in moving on from an unhealthy relationship to a healthy emotional future. "This is a well thought out, useful litle book that is an excellent guide for those recovering form a broken, long-term relationship." --Robert Rich, PhD, M.A.P.S., author of Cancer: A Personal Challenge Book #1 in the 10-Step Empowerment Series

Your long-time partner has just betrayed your relationship and everything you hold dear: Are you stuck trying to decide whether to move forward in your relationship or give up? Do you find yourself repeating old ways of behavior? Do you frequently talk about whose fault the betrayal was? Are you continually dealing with jealousy and control issues? Are you tired of being a victim? Do you spend a lot of time thinking how it might have been different?

If you answered YES to any of these questions then this book is for you! Life After Betrayal: A Practical Guide, is an honest, straightforward book that helps the reader through each step on the road to recovery. The book identifies the feelings that emerge during this emotional upheaval and offers a reservoir of alternative solutions on how to deal with these emotions. The journey of self-discovery is handled sensitively, and is an essential passage in moving on from an unhealthy relationship to a healthy emotional future.

What People Are Saying About Life After Betrayal "Life after Betrayal : A Practical Guide" by Lynda Bevan delivers on its promise. It is a no-nonsense, honest but compassionate guide to surviving all forms of betrayal, from the romantic to the parental. It is hard to believe how much useful information the author has packed into this slender tome. The book is studded with illuminating case studies and provides an excellent exposition of issues such as post-traumatic emotional responses, pre-trauma expectations, setting boundaries, forgiveness and acceptance, and the do''s and don''ts of moving forward. A gem." --Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"

Ask yourself: Do you believe that the other person is responsible for how you feel? Do their actions seem like a complete mystery? Are you ready to stop feeling angry or upset? Do you still feel hurt or sad? Are you ready to re-build the trust within this relationship? Have you made the decision to forgive? Are you haunted by something you said or did to another? If you answered YES to more than one of these questions, then this book is for you! How To Forgive will assist you in unraveling the past and help you to let go of the feelings which are holding you back. Forgiveness is a choice, but to forgive is not always easy. In fact, many people who would like to let go of anger and forgive are stumped with the question of how to forgive. This step-by-step guide will help you acknowledge your emotions and deal with the issues those emotions identify. "Lynda Bevan offers an important contribution to the clarification of this emotionallyloaded term: ''forgiveness''. She offers a taxonomy of misdeeds and issues that require forgiveness and then proceeds with guidance on how to tackle and defuse these situations and even turn them around in one''s favor. Bevan thus transforms forgiveness from a mere ethical or moral requirement to a pragmatic approach to the management of anger, pain, and abuse. I have rarely encountered so much useful content packed into so little a space: this book is a veritable energy drink!" --Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited By the author of the #1 Bestseller: "Life Without Jealousy" Self-Help: Abuse - General