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The bestselling guide to prioritizing your relationship with yourself and living a more meaningful life, whether you’re alone, dating, or with a partner.There’s more to life than loving someone, right? But being single can feel like a death sentence. Why does being alone = being lonely? And why do we stop working on ourselves when we’re in a relationship?After a painful divorce, bestselling author and “The Angry Therapist” John Kim realized he had never truly been on his own. He went on a journey to rebuild his relationship with himself, going from alone and disconnected to alone and fulfilled. Kim has gone on to help thousands of clients find their own unique way to break free of expectations and finally live their truth. With Single on Purpose, you will discover:How to navigate lonelinessCommon challenges and mistakes people encounter in relationshipsWays to grow your most important relationship, aka the one you have with yourselfand so much more.Spending time to cultivate your relationship with yourself shouldn’t be something you only do when you hit rock bottom, go through a major loss, or have a quarter-life crisis. All of us, at some point, need to be single—on purpose.

Two therapists analyze their own relationship to help untangle the common and frustrating barriers many individuals face on the road to a happy, loving, rewarding partnership.Many of the clients who end up in our respective therapist offices thought they were doing relationships right—avoiding the white picket fence, focusing on careers and experiences over babies and legally-binding documents, choosing someone after they “found themselves” first. However, like clockwork, around their early to mid-thirties, these clients show up at our door. Why? For the first time, they realize that they dislike their relationship and are frustrated by their partner but know that another break-up won’t fix things. They recognize a pattern of relationship misery that has them finally looking in the mirror asking, how do you make a relationship last?It took us many relationships, our own inner self journey (which we’re still on), therapy, therapy school, and helping thousands of people with their relationships, to learn to have better ones ourselves. Vanessa woke up at 31, after ending an engagement and moving to Los Angeles. John thought he woke up at 35 after his divorce. But he didn’t truly wake up until he was pushing 40. In It’s Not Me, It’s You, John and Vanessa dissect their own relationship to help readers figure out theirs: what their relationships were like in the past, what traumas they carried into the new relationship, and how they work on growing together to foster a healthy and long-term bond.The surprising truth is falling in love is more about you than your partner. It’s more about challenge and growth than comfort and ease, and roots don’t grow from wishful thinking—they grow in the soil of communication, curiosity, patience, and understanding.It’s Not Me, It’s You is for anyone looking for real advice on relationships that takes both sides into account and discusses relationships with the honesty and clarity we all need.

An honest guide to breaking up and breaking through with practical advice from the bestselling author of Single on Purpose, John Kim.Every breakup is painful. Yet it is also a transformation. A breaking down and breaking through to a new version of who you are now, after you have severed ties. Nothing will change you like a broken heart. Yet every breakup is different.John Kim, The Angry Therapist, has guided thousands of patients through breakups of every brutal, freeing, heartbreaking kind—and he’s lived through failed relationships and his own divorce recovery. Through his journey as a therapist and as a partner and father, John has identified eight types of unique breakups—and provides a roadmap for getting over a breakup, no matter the type:The Big One Break-Up (the One you Compare All To)The Blindsided Break-UpThe “Flat Soda” (Mutual) Break-UpThe You Cheated/You Left Me for Someone Else Break-UpThe Soap Opera Break-UpThe Almost-Relationship BreakupThe Break Up That Never EndsThe D-word (Divorce)Each type elicits different responses and requires different approaches to healing and starting over. Utilizing his signature “self-help in a shot glass” approach, Break Up on Purpose is a three-part guide to healing from heartbreak. You’ll find stories from John and his patients documenting every type of breakups, discover honest reflections about what really went down, and engage in Break Through Work to master the steps necessary to truly heal and grow.Break Up on Purpose shows us how a breakup can be the ultimate tool for personal growth, where we discover bodies rewired, trauma processed, false beliefs dissolved, and new standards set.

Written in John Kim’s unique “advice-in-a-shot glass” style, a month-long program that applies the tenets of his bestseller Single on Purpose, packed with daily tips for self-reflection, growth, and adventure.As John Kim revealed in Single on Purpose, your single years are the most crucial for having big life experiences, discovering who you are, and investing in yourself, body and soul. But what if you’re newly single or stuck in a rut? How do you start living your single years with intention and meaning? How do you make new friends, find out what you enjoy without a significant other, gain confidence, try things that scare you, get out of your shell, forgive yourself for past mistakes, and look at life like the adventure it is?Whether you’ve embraced the advice in Single on Purpose or are just discovering Kim’s ideas, 31 Days of Single on Purpose can help you transform being single into a joyous, exciting period of personal growth filled with memories, deep work, play, forgiveness, and freedom.Each day is framed in classic John Kim style, and features:No-bullsh*t ways to confront your past—what you've settled for before and what you're changing todayKick-in-the-butt prompts for getting out in the world—starting a new pastime, and meeting new peopleJournal questions that don’t feel like “journaling,” focusing on brief, direct, and honest answers to help you know yourselfTips that help you understand where you are emotionally—Do you feel fulfilled? Stuck? Lonely? Overwhelmed? Sad?Daily mantras for meditation and visual manifestationSuggestions for sweating, lifting, walking, hiking, and moving your body31 Days of Single on Purpose includes stories, helpful diagrams and charts as well as plenty of blank pages for reflection. This is an interactive workbook meant to be used. Whether you’re just getting started or a single king or queen looking to level up, 31 Days of Single on Purpose will help you find fulfilment, direction, and an understanding of who you are and what you truly want.