With the Phoenix Rising

FRANCES K. GROSSMAN, Ph.D., is a professor in the Department of Psychology at Boston University.Alexandra B. Cook, Ph.D., is the director of children's services at the Trauma Center, Arbour Health Systems. Selin S. Kepkep, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist in private practice. Karestan C. Koenen, Ph.D., is a psychology fellow at the Payne Whitney Clinic of New York Hospital.Cook, Kepkep, and Koenen studied under Frances Grossman at Boston University's doctoral program in clinical psychology. ALEXANDRA B. COOK, Ph.D., is the director of children's services at The Trauma Center, Arbour Health Systems. SELIN S. KEPKEP, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist in private practice. KARESTAN C. KOENEN, Ph.D., is a psychology fellow at the Payne Whitney Clinic of New York Hospital. Cook, Kepkep, and Koenen studied under Frances Grossman at Boston University's doctoral program in clinical psychology.

"Through its emphasis on survivors' strengths and resilience overthe life course, this book brings a new focus to the study of childsexual abuse. Therapists, researchers, and survivors will gain animportant understanding of resiliency in the context of family,community, and women's lives. The authors give voice to women whohave overcome the trauma of abuse." --Linda M. Williams, directorof research, the Stone Center, Wellesley College "This important book breaks new ground. . . . For any readerwishing to be inspired by stories of the human spirit's triumphover adversity." --Daniel Brown, Harvard Medical School, SimmonsSchool of Social Work "The women's voices of With the Phoenix Rising bring to life thespirit and hope every survivor can discover. This wonderful bookhas something to offer new clinicians as well as seasoned traumaprofessionals." --Linda T. Sanford, author of Strong at the BrokenPlaces "Full of practical wisdom and perspective for trauma cliniciansworking with all trauma survivor groups. Survivors will find theirstrengths and dignity cherished without the slightestaid-and-comfort given to perpetrators and their apologists. Withthe Phoenix Rising palpably enlarges what we know about how atrauma survivor can construct a good human life." --Jonathan Shay,staff psychiatrist, Department of Veteran Affairs; author ofAchilles in Vietnam: Combat Trauma and the Undoing of Character

• Preface viiPart I: Setting the Stage1 Resiliency 32 The Women’s Stories 23Part II: Safe Havens, Important Relationships3 School and Work 494 Intimate Relationships 695 Relationships with Children 796 Relationships Outside the Family 95Part III: Processes and Strategies for Developing Resiliency7 The Role of Psychotherapy 1138 The Management of Feelings 1379 The Importance of Self-Care 17110 Making Sense of the Abuse 189Part IV: A Lifelong Process11 Revisiting the Participants 215Appendix: Research Methodology 239References 243About the Authors 249Index 253