Dr. Hayley Watson is a clinical psychologist specializing in children and adolescents and the founder of Open Parachute, a video-based school mental health program using documentary stories of real students sharing their experiences of overcoming struggle. The platform reaches more than half a million students and educators worldwide.

• Acknowledgments xvIntroduction xviiChapter 1 understanding student mental health 1Shadow qualities and the true self 1Section 1 rejecting/acceptance (remembering love) 11Chapter 2 finding the words with students who are in rejecting behavior patterns 13What can I do to help students who are rejecting? 15Chapter 3 encouraging students who are disengaged from school 17Why do students disengage from school? 17What can I do to help a student who is disengaged from school? 18How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is disengaged from school? 18Chapter 4 supporting students who face abuse and domestic violence 25Why does abuse and domestic violence impact students? 25What can I do to help a student who has faced abuse or domestic violence? 26How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has faced abuse or domestic violence? 26chapter 5 coaching students who bully or are aggressive/violent 33Why do students act with aggression or bully others? 33What can I do to help a student who is being aggressive or bullying others? 34How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has been aggressive or bullied others? 34Chapter 6 helping gender diverse students feel included 41Why do many students with gender diversity struggle so much? 41What can I do to help a student who is gender diverse and struggling to feel accepted? 42How will i have a constructive conversation with a student who is struggling with their experience of gender? 42Section 2 controlling/spontaneity (remembering safety) 49Chapter 7 finding the words with students who are in controlling behavior patterns 51What can I do to help students who are controlling? 52Chapter 8 supporting students who are worried, anxious, or stressed 55Why do students experience worries, anxiety, and stress? 55What can I do to help a student who is experiencing worries, anxiety, or stress? 56How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is experiencing worries, anxiety, or stress? 56Chapter 9 guiding students away from peer rivalry 61Why do students get into rivalries with peers and siblings? 61What can I do to help a student who is in a rivalry with a peer or sibling? 62How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is in a rivalry with a peer or sibling? 62Chapter 10 talking to students about unhealthy eating habits 69Why do students have disordered eating? 69What can I do to help a student who has disordered eating? 70How will I have constructive conversation with a student who has disordered eating? 70Section 3 avoiding/openness (remembering courage) 79Chapter 11 finding the words with students who are in avoiding behavior patterns 81What can I do to help students who are avoiding? 82Chapter 12 supporting students who self-harm 85Why do students self-harm? 85What can I do to help a student who is self-harming? 86How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is self-harming? 86Chapter 13 helping students who people-please 95Why do students develop people-pleasing behaviors? 95What can I do to help a student who is people-pleasing? 96How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is people-pleasing? 96Chapter 14 encouraging students who are depressed or apathetic 103Why do students get depressed and become apathetic? 103What can I do to help a student who is depressed or apathetic? 104How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is depressed or apathetic? 104Chapter 15 guiding students who are caught in addictive patterns 119Why do students become addicted? 119What can I do to help a student who is in an addictive pattern? 120How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is in an addictive pattern? 120Chapter 16 communicating with students who have faced loss 129Why do students struggle to cope with loss/grief? 129What can I do to help a student who is struggling with grief? 130How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is grieving? 130Section 4 following/leadership (remembering identity) 141Chapter 17 finding the words with students who are in following behavior patterns 143What can I do to help students who are following? 144Chapter 18 supporting students who are negatively impacted by gender norms 147Why are gender norms impacting students? 147What can I do to help a student who is impacted by gender norms? 148How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about gender norms? 148Chapter 19 guiding students to make healthy choices on social media 155Why is social media impacting students? 155What can I do to help a student who is impacted by social media? 156How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about social media? 156Chapter 20 supporting students with low body image 163Why does body image impact students? 163What can I do to help a student with low body image? 164How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about body image? 164Chapter 21 helping students stand up to peer pressure 171Why does peer pressure impact students? 171What can I do to help a student who is impacted by peer pressure? 172How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about peer pressure? 172Chapter 22 supporting students who are bullied 179Why does being bullied impact students? 179What can I do to help a student who is being bullied? 180How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about being bullied? 180Chapter 23 guiding students who violate consent 185Why do students violate consent? 185What can I do to help a student who has violated consent? 186How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about consent violations? 186Chapter 24 helping students who face prejudice 193Why are students impacted by prejudice? 193What can I do to help a student who is impacted by prejudice? 194How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is impacted by prejudice? 194Section 5 repeating/freedom (remembering clarity) 201Chapter 25 finding the words with students who are in repeating behavior patterns 203What can I do to help students who are repeating? 204Chapter 26 minimizing the influence of pornography and “rape culture” 207Why are students impacted by pornography and why does “rape culture” exist? 207What can I do to help a student who is impacted by pornography and involved in “rape culture”? 208How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is impacted by pornography and participating in “rape culture”? 208Chapter 27 supporting students who experience intergenerational trauma 215Why are students impacted by intergenerational trauma? 215What can I do to help a student who has experienced intergenerational trauma? 216How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has experienced intergenerational trauma? 216Chapter 28 helping students cope with being objectified 223Why are students impacted by objectification? 223What can I do to help a student who has experienced objectification? 224How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has been objectified? 224Chapter 29 responding to students who share stories of parental conflict and separation 229Why are students impacted by parental conflict and separation? 229What can I do to help a student who is struggling with parental conflict or separation? 230How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is struggling with parental conflict or separation? 230Chapter 30 what’s next? 237About the author 239Index 241

Dr. Hayley Watson is a clinical psychologist specializing in children and adolescents and the founder of Open Parachute, a video-based school mental health program using documentary stories of real students sharing their experiences of overcoming struggle. The platform reaches more than half a million students and educators worldwide.

• Acknowledgments xvIntroduction xviiChapter 1 understanding student mental health 1Shadow qualities and the true self 1Section 1 rejecting/acceptance (remembering love) 11Chapter 2 finding the words with students who are in rejecting behavior patterns 13What can I do to help students who are rejecting? 15Chapter 3 encouraging students who are disengaged from school 17Why do students disengage from school? 17What can I do to help a student who is disengaged from school? 18How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is disengaged from school? 18Chapter 4 supporting students who face abuse and domestic violence 25Why does abuse and domestic violence impact students? 25What can I do to help a student who has faced abuse or domestic violence? 26How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has faced abuse or domestic violence? 26chapter 5 coaching students who bully or are aggressive/violent 33Why do students act with aggression or bully others? 33What can I do to help a student who is being aggressive or bullying others? 34How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has been aggressive or bullied others? 34Chapter 6 helping gender diverse students feel included 41Why do many students with gender diversity struggle so much? 41What can I do to help a student who is gender diverse and struggling to feel accepted? 42How will i have a constructive conversation with a student who is struggling with their experience of gender? 42Section 2 controlling/spontaneity (remembering safety) 49Chapter 7 finding the words with students who are in controlling behavior patterns 51What can I do to help students who are controlling? 52Chapter 8 supporting students who are worried, anxious, or stressed 55Why do students experience worries, anxiety, and stress? 55What can I do to help a student who is experiencing worries, anxiety, or stress? 56How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is experiencing worries, anxiety, or stress? 56Chapter 9 guiding students away from peer rivalry 61Why do students get into rivalries with peers and siblings? 61What can I do to help a student who is in a rivalry with a peer or sibling? 62How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is in a rivalry with a peer or sibling? 62Chapter 10 talking to students about unhealthy eating habits 69Why do students have disordered eating? 69What can I do to help a student who has disordered eating? 70How will I have constructive conversation with a student who has disordered eating? 70Section 3 avoiding/openness (remembering courage) 79Chapter 11 finding the words with students who are in avoiding behavior patterns 81What can I do to help students who are avoiding? 82Chapter 12 supporting students who self-harm 85Why do students self-harm? 85What can I do to help a student who is self-harming? 86How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is self-harming? 86Chapter 13 helping students who people-please 95Why do students develop people-pleasing behaviors? 95What can I do to help a student who is people-pleasing? 96How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is people-pleasing? 96Chapter 14 encouraging students who are depressed or apathetic 103Why do students get depressed and become apathetic? 103What can I do to help a student who is depressed or apathetic? 104How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is depressed or apathetic? 104Chapter 15 guiding students who are caught in addictive patterns 119Why do students become addicted? 119What can I do to help a student who is in an addictive pattern? 120How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is in an addictive pattern? 120Chapter 16 communicating with students who have faced loss 129Why do students struggle to cope with loss/grief? 129What can I do to help a student who is struggling with grief? 130How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is grieving? 130Section 4 following/leadership (remembering identity) 141Chapter 17 finding the words with students who are in following behavior patterns 143What can I do to help students who are following? 144Chapter 18 supporting students who are negatively impacted by gender norms 147Why are gender norms impacting students? 147What can I do to help a student who is impacted by gender norms? 148How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about gender norms? 148Chapter 19 guiding students to make healthy choices on social media 155Why is social media impacting students? 155What can I do to help a student who is impacted by social media? 156How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about social media? 156Chapter 20 supporting students with low body image 163Why does body image impact students? 163What can I do to help a student with low body image? 164How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about body image? 164Chapter 21 helping students stand up to peer pressure 171Why does peer pressure impact students? 171What can I do to help a student who is impacted by peer pressure? 172How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about peer pressure? 172Chapter 22 supporting students who are bullied 179Why does being bullied impact students? 179What can I do to help a student who is being bullied? 180How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about being bullied? 180Chapter 23 guiding students who violate consent 185Why do students violate consent? 185What can I do to help a student who has violated consent? 186How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about consent violations? 186Chapter 24 helping students who face prejudice 193Why are students impacted by prejudice? 193What can I do to help a student who is impacted by prejudice? 194How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is impacted by prejudice? 194Section 5 repeating/freedom (remembering clarity) 201Chapter 25 finding the words with students who are in repeating behavior patterns 203What can I do to help students who are repeating? 204Chapter 26 minimizing the influence of pornography and “rape culture” 207Why are students impacted by pornography and why does “rape culture” exist? 207What can I do to help a student who is impacted by pornography and involved in “rape culture”? 208How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is impacted by pornography and participating in “rape culture”? 208Chapter 27 supporting students who experience intergenerational trauma 215Why are students impacted by intergenerational trauma? 215What can I do to help a student who has experienced intergenerational trauma? 216How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has experienced intergenerational trauma? 216Chapter 28 helping students cope with being objectified 223Why are students impacted by objectification? 223What can I do to help a student who has experienced objectification? 224How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has been objectified? 224Chapter 29 responding to students who share stories of parental conflict and separation 229Why are students impacted by parental conflict and separation? 229What can I do to help a student who is struggling with parental conflict or separation? 230How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is struggling with parental conflict or separation? 230Chapter 30 what’s next? 237About the author 239Index 241

Dr. Hayley Watson is a clinical psychologist specializing in children and adolescents and the founder of Open Parachute, a video-based school mental health program using documentary stories of real students sharing their experiences of overcoming struggle. The platform reaches more than half a million students and educators worldwide.

• Acknowledgments xvIntroduction xviiChapter 1 understanding student mental health 1Shadow qualities and the true self 1Section 1 rejecting/acceptance (remembering love) 11Chapter 2 finding the words with students who are in rejecting behavior patterns 13What can I do to help students who are rejecting? 15Chapter 3 encouraging students who are disengaged from school 17Why do students disengage from school? 17What can I do to help a student who is disengaged from school? 18How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is disengaged from school? 18Chapter 4 supporting students who face abuse and domestic violence 25Why does abuse and domestic violence impact students? 25What can I do to help a student who has faced abuse or domestic violence? 26How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has faced abuse or domestic violence? 26chapter 5 coaching students who bully or are aggressive/violent 33Why do students act with aggression or bully others? 33What can I do to help a student who is being aggressive or bullying others? 34How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has been aggressive or bullied others? 34Chapter 6 helping gender diverse students feel included 41Why do many students with gender diversity struggle so much? 41What can I do to help a student who is gender diverse and struggling to feel accepted? 42How will i have a constructive conversation with a student who is struggling with their experience of gender? 42Section 2 controlling/spontaneity (remembering safety) 49Chapter 7 finding the words with students who are in controlling behavior patterns 51What can I do to help students who are controlling? 52Chapter 8 supporting students who are worried, anxious, or stressed 55Why do students experience worries, anxiety, and stress? 55What can I do to help a student who is experiencing worries, anxiety, or stress? 56How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is experiencing worries, anxiety, or stress? 56Chapter 9 guiding students away from peer rivalry 61Why do students get into rivalries with peers and siblings? 61What can I do to help a student who is in a rivalry with a peer or sibling? 62How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is in a rivalry with a peer or sibling? 62Chapter 10 talking to students about unhealthy eating habits 69Why do students have disordered eating? 69What can I do to help a student who has disordered eating? 70How will I have constructive conversation with a student who has disordered eating? 70Section 3 avoiding/openness (remembering courage) 79Chapter 11 finding the words with students who are in avoiding behavior patterns 81What can I do to help students who are avoiding? 82Chapter 12 supporting students who self-harm 85Why do students self-harm? 85What can I do to help a student who is self-harming? 86How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is self-harming? 86Chapter 13 helping students who people-please 95Why do students develop people-pleasing behaviors? 95What can I do to help a student who is people-pleasing? 96How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is people-pleasing? 96Chapter 14 encouraging students who are depressed or apathetic 103Why do students get depressed and become apathetic? 103What can I do to help a student who is depressed or apathetic? 104How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is depressed or apathetic? 104Chapter 15 guiding students who are caught in addictive patterns 119Why do students become addicted? 119What can I do to help a student who is in an addictive pattern? 120How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is in an addictive pattern? 120Chapter 16 communicating with students who have faced loss 129Why do students struggle to cope with loss/grief? 129What can I do to help a student who is struggling with grief? 130How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is grieving? 130Section 4 following/leadership (remembering identity) 141Chapter 17 finding the words with students who are in following behavior patterns 143What can I do to help students who are following? 144Chapter 18 supporting students who are negatively impacted by gender norms 147Why are gender norms impacting students? 147What can I do to help a student who is impacted by gender norms? 148How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about gender norms? 148Chapter 19 guiding students to make healthy choices on social media 155Why is social media impacting students? 155What can I do to help a student who is impacted by social media? 156How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about social media? 156Chapter 20 supporting students with low body image 163Why does body image impact students? 163What can I do to help a student with low body image? 164How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about body image? 164Chapter 21 helping students stand up to peer pressure 171Why does peer pressure impact students? 171What can I do to help a student who is impacted by peer pressure? 172How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about peer pressure? 172Chapter 22 supporting students who are bullied 179Why does being bullied impact students? 179What can I do to help a student who is being bullied? 180How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about being bullied? 180Chapter 23 guiding students who violate consent 185Why do students violate consent? 185What can I do to help a student who has violated consent? 186How will I have a constructive conversation with a student about consent violations? 186Chapter 24 helping students who face prejudice 193Why are students impacted by prejudice? 193What can I do to help a student who is impacted by prejudice? 194How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is impacted by prejudice? 194Section 5 repeating/freedom (remembering clarity) 201Chapter 25 finding the words with students who are in repeating behavior patterns 203What can I do to help students who are repeating? 204Chapter 26 minimizing the influence of pornography and “rape culture” 207Why are students impacted by pornography and why does “rape culture” exist? 207What can I do to help a student who is impacted by pornography and involved in “rape culture”? 208How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is impacted by pornography and participating in “rape culture”? 208Chapter 27 supporting students who experience intergenerational trauma 215Why are students impacted by intergenerational trauma? 215What can I do to help a student who has experienced intergenerational trauma? 216How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has experienced intergenerational trauma? 216Chapter 28 helping students cope with being objectified 223Why are students impacted by objectification? 223What can I do to help a student who has experienced objectification? 224How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has been objectified? 224Chapter 29 responding to students who share stories of parental conflict and separation 229Why are students impacted by parental conflict and separation? 229What can I do to help a student who is struggling with parental conflict or separation? 230How will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is struggling with parental conflict or separation? 230Chapter 30 what’s next? 237About the author 239Index 241