Kink For Dummies

Jaime M. Grant is a queer sex activist, researcher, and relationship coach. She’s best known for her sex workshop, Desire Mapping. Jack Harrison-Quintana is a queer Latino activist, author, and researcher. He works at the intersection of digital advocacy and LGBTQ+ justice.

• Introduction 1Part 1: Getting Started with Kink Basics 5Chapter 1: Introducing Kink! 7Chapter 2: Defining Kink 13Chapter 3: Grounding Kink in Consent 27Chapter 4: Encountering Kinky Worlds 41Part 2: Building Your Kinky Life 83Chapter 5: Discovering and Claiming Your Kinks 85Chapter 6: Making Your Own Kink Meaning 103Chapter 7: Honing Your Communication Skills 117Chapter 8: Creating Safe and Sexy Kink Agreements 141Chapter 9: Developing Great Aftercare Practices 163Part 3: Managing Common Challenges 173Chapter 10: Managing Emotional Vulnerability and Risk 175Chapter 11: Navigating Kink as a Trauma Survivor 191Chapter 12: Working Out Struggles in Kink Relationships 211Part 4: Living Your Best, Sustainable Kinky Life 247Chapter 13: Finding Kink Community and Great Play Spaces 249Chapter 14: Coming Out Kinky 265Chapter 15: Adapting Over Your Long Kinky Life 277Part 5: The Part of Tens 285Chapter 16: Ten Hallmarks of a Vibrant Kink Sexuality 287Chapter 17: Ten Things to Help You Build Your Best Kinky Scenes 291Chapter 18: Ten Kinksters in History 297Chapter 19: Ten (or so) Contemporary Kink Trailblazers 303Appendix A: Glossary 309Appendix B: Resources 323Index 333