Gordon Neufeld – författare

Are your children more influenced by their friends than by you? Are they struggling with peer pressure, screen time, or staying connected in a digital world? In Hold On To Your Kids, bestselling author and renowned physician Gabor Maté and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld reveal why modern parenting feels harder than ever - and what you can do about it. WINNER OF THE US NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD  THE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER ‘A visionary book…one to be taken very seriously’ Peter A. Levine Ph.D., bestselling author of Guiding Your Child Through Trauma ‘Bold, wise and deeply moral. [Maté] is a healer to be cherished’ Naomi Klein, bestselling The Shock Doctrine ------- Today’s children are increasingly looking to their peers, rather than their parents, for direction in their values, identity, and codes of behaviour. But this ‘peer orientation’ can interfere with healthy development, leading to anxiety, disconnection, and behavioural challenges. In this groundbreaking parenting book, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with clinical psychologist and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld to explain the cause of this breakdown of parental influence and offer practical advice on how to rebuild a strong, healthy relationship with your child. Hold On To Your Kids will show you how to:Strengthen your bond and reconnect with your child Help children resist peer pressure and social media influence Build trust, authority and security at home Support your child’s emotional wellbeing and mental health Raise confident, resilient children This updated edition also includes a new chapter on post-pandemic parenting and youth mental health. Blending child psychology and real-world advice, this book will empower parents to help their children thrive in the digital era and become a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their kids. Praise for Hold On To Your Kids:‘Maté’s book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light’ Guardian ‘Brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting’ Dr Mary Pipher, psychologist and bestselling author of Reviving Ophelia ‘Full of easy tips for avoiding calamity’ The Times ‘Has the power to change, if not save, the lives of our children.' US National Post

This parenting classic is as relevant today as it was when it was first published, shining a light on one of the most misunderstood trends of our time: how the influence of peers, magnified by social media and video game culture, is replacing parents in the lives of children, and what parents can do about it—now featuring a new chapterWINNER OF THE NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD • “A worthy book that brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting.”—Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving OpheliaChildren take their lead from their friends: Being “cool” matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity, and codes of behavior, peer groups are often far more influential than parents. But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous—it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious, and alienated.In Hold On to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with psychologist Gordon Neufeld to pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to “reattach” to your children and earn back their loyalty and love.By helping to reawaken our instincts, Neufeld and Maté empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of enrichment, security, and warmth for their children.

A psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting issues joins forces with a physician and bestselling author to tackle one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time -- peers replacing parents in the lives of our children. Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident -- as do the solutions. Hold On to Your Kids will restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. The concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kids will empower parents to satisfy their children’s inborn need to find direction by turning towards a source of authority, contact and warmth. Something has changed. One can sense it, one can feel it, just not find the words for it. Children are not quite the same as we remember being. They seem less likely to take their cues from adults, less inclined to please those in charge, less afraid of getting into trouble. Parenting, too, seems to have changed. Our parents seemed more confident, more certain of themselves and had more impact on us, for better or for worse. For many, parenting does not feel natural. Adults through the ages have complained about children being less respectful of their elders and more difficult to manage than preceding generations, but could it be that this time it is for real? -- from Hold On to Your KidsFrom the Hardcover edition.

International authority on child development Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D., joins forces with bestselling author Gabor Maté, M.D., to tackle one of the most disturbing trends of our time: Children today looking to their peers for direction—their values, identity, and codes of behavior. This “peer orientation” undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming overly conformist, desensitized, and alienated, and being “cool” matters more to them than anything else.   Hold On to Your Kids explains the causes of this crucial breakdown of parental influence—and demonstrates ways to “reattach” to sons and daughters, establish the proper hierarchy in the home, make kids feel safe and understood, and earn back your children’s loyalty and love. This updated edition also specifically addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media. By helping to reawaken instincts innate to us all, Neufeld and Maté will empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their children.From the Trade Paperback edition.

Are your children more influenced by their friends than by you? Are they struggling with peer pressure, screen time, or staying connected in a digital world? In Hold On To Your Kids, bestselling author and renowned physician Gabor Maté and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld reveal why modern parenting feels harder than ever - and what you can do about it. WINNER OF THE US NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD  THE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER ‘A visionary book…one to be taken very seriously’ Peter A. Levine Ph.D., bestselling author of Guiding Your Child Through Trauma ‘Bold, wise and deeply moral. [Maté] is a healer to be cherished’ Naomi Klein, bestselling The Shock Doctrine ------- Today’s children are increasingly looking to their peers, rather than their parents, for direction in their values, identity, and codes of behaviour. But this ‘peer orientation’ can interfere with healthy development, leading to anxiety, disconnection, and behavioural challenges. In this groundbreaking parenting book, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with clinical psychologist and child development expert Dr Gordon Neufeld to explain the cause of this breakdown of parental influence and offer practical advice on how to rebuild a strong, healthy relationship with your child. Hold On To Your Kids will show you how to:Strengthen your bond and reconnect with your child Help children resist peer pressure and social media influence Build trust, authority and security at home Support your child’s emotional wellbeing and mental health Raise confident, resilient children This updated edition also includes a new chapter on post-pandemic parenting and youth mental health. Blending child psychology and real-world advice, this book will empower parents to help their children thrive in the digital era and become a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their kids. Praise for Hold On To Your Kids:‘Maté’s book will make you examine your behaviour in a new light’ Guardian ‘Brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting’ Dr Mary Pipher, psychologist and bestselling author of Reviving Ophelia ‘Full of easy tips for avoiding calamity’ The Times ‘Has the power to change, if not save, the lives of our children.' US National Post