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Winning your wife back from emotional or physical separation is more than doing the same things with more intensity. It involves developing a whole new strategy to overcome what seem to be overwhelming odds to attain a come-from-behind victory. In Winning Your Wife Back Before It's Too late, Gary Smalley utilizes the following game plan to significantly increase your chances for a "miracle comeback":Understand "penalty flags"Open a closed spiritHonor your wife and childrenDevelop sacrificial loveInitiate change in yourselfBe accountable by joining a support groupThrough true stories of previously separated couples, you'll see how the principles illustrated in this plan have been fleshed out in the lives of real people and can lead to a successful reconciliation. Although there is no guarantee that you will win your wife back, you can still experience personal triumph and gain significant yardage in becoming the godly man you were intended to be.

Your marriage may be beginning to crumble. Or it may already be in shambles. Its present condition does not determine its future, though. You do.Imagine building a home on a foundation of sand or mud. Renovating or redecorating your home would be senseless because at any moment the whole house could collapse due to a faulty foundation. Before changing flooring, wall colors, window treatments, and furniture, you would need to seek out an architect to first firm up the foundation.Likewise, winning your husband back necessitates more than simply rearranging the old stuff in your relationship. You may decide to fight differently than you did in the past, but if the old unresolved anger is allowed to remain, then nothing will genuinely change in our marriage. Winning Your Husband Back Before It's Too Late targets the foundational weaknesses in your marriage. By developing an overall plan to win back your husband, you will learn how to:Discover what causes distance in marriageUnderstand the man you marriedBecome wholeExamine personality differencesBuild commitmentCommunicate more successfullyWinning Your Husband Back Before It's Too Late can help you rebuild a strong marriage in which you and your husband see each other through Christ's eyes and become one in Him.

Using the right tool for the job makes sense when it comes to building or fixing things around the house. But when it comes to significant relationships, men often grab the tools that make them successful in the workplace—and then wonder why they didn''t work. Through humorous anecdotes and practical advice, this engaging book will help men discover the set of tools they need to build and repair the relationships that are most important to them.

“Life is relationships; the rest is just details.” We are designed for relationships, yet they often bring us pain. In this paradigm-shifting book, Gary Smalley unravels the DNA of relationships: we are made for three great relationships—with God, others, and ourselves—and all relationships involve choice. Gary exposes a destructive relationship dance that characterizes nearly every relationship conflict, and he offers five new dance steps that will revolutionize relationships. The DNA of Relationships, the cornerstone book in Gary Smalley''s relationship campaign, will revolutionize your marriage, family, friendships, and work relationships.

The Wholehearted Marriage offers practical tools for helping couples keep a passionate connection with one another and understand the role their hearts play in their lives. Drs. Smalley and Stoever maintain that circumstances, such as busy lifestyles, differences between spouses, personal baggage, the loss of a loved one, childhood trauma, etc., trigger reactions that condition us to close up our hearts for protection, blocking the flow of love. A disengaged, protected heart makes it impossible to experience an intimate, connected marriage. As a result, couples drift apart, trying to find some version of contentment, or they give up altogether and look for love somewhere else. Through their experiences in marriage counseling, Drs. Smalley and Stoever discovered that the commonly heard phrase "I don't love him/her anymore" is merely a camouflaged misunderstanding about what true love is and God's design for it. They affirm that love is more than just a feeling, and that to have true, lasting intimacy, couples need to learn to love wholeheartedly.

Building a Marriage That Will Last a Lifetime Authors Greg and Erin Smalley open their hearts and share their lives in Before You Plan Your Wedding...Plan Your Marriage so that you can know not only how to build a marriage that will last, but also how to have the kind of marriage where you and your spouse feel safe and honored and valued. When you feel safe, your heart will be open -- and open hearts make for fulfilling, powerful relationships. Find out about the "fear dance" and how to stop dancing it. Discover the two biggest issues that threaten every marriage and how to stop them before they start. Learn what''s more important than finding your soul mate and the significance of happiness in your union. As wonderful as a wedding is, it lasts only for a brief time -- yet marriage is meant to last a lifetime. This important book will show you how to plan your marriage before you plan your wedding.

Your marriage may be beginning to crumble. Or it may already be in shambles. Its present condition does not determine its future, though. You do.

Imagine building a home on a foundation of sand or mud. Renovating or redecorating your home would be senseless because at any moment the whole house could collapse due to a faulty foundation. Before changing flooring, wall colors, window treatments, and furniture, you would need to seek out an architect to first firm up the foundation.

Likewise, winning your husband back necessitates more than simply rearranging the old stuff in your relationship. You may decide to fight differently than you did in the past, but if the old unresolved anger is allowed to remain, then nothing will genuinely change in our marriage. Winning Your Husband Back Before It''s Too Late targets the foundational weaknesses in your marriage. By developing an overall plan to win back your husband, you will learn how to:

Discover what causes distance in marriage Understand the man you married Become whole Examine personality differences Build commitment Communicate more successfully

Winning Your Husband Back Before It''s Too Late can help you rebuild a strong marriage in which you and your husband see each other through Christ''s eyes and become one in Him.

Winning your wife back from emotional or physical separation is more than doing the same things with more intensity. It involves developing a whole new strategy to overcome what seem to be overwhelming odds to attain a come-from-behind victory. In Winning Your Wife Back Before It''s Too late, Gary Smalley utilizes the following game plan to significantly increase your chances for a "miracle comeback":

Understand "penalty flags" Open a closed spirit Honor your wife and children Develop sacrificial love Initiate change in yourself Be accountable by joining a support group

Through true stories of previously separated couples, you''ll see how the principles illustrated in this plan have been fleshed out in the lives of real people and can lead to a successful reconciliation. Although there is no guarantee that you will win your wife back, you can still experience personal triumph and gain significant yardage in becoming the godly man you were intended to be.

The Wholehearted Marriage offers practical tools for helping couples keep a passionate connection with one another and understand the role their hearts play in their lives. Drs. Smalley and Stoever maintain that circumstances, such as busy lifestyles, differences between spouses, personal baggage, the loss of a loved one, childhood trauma, etc., trigger reactions that condition us to close up our hearts for protection, blocking the flow of love. A disengaged, protected heart makes it impossible to experience an intimate, connected marriage. As a result, couples drift apart, trying to find some version of contentment, or they give up altogether and look for love somewhere else. Through their experiences in marriage counseling, Drs. Smalley and Stoever discovered that the commonly heard phrase "I don''t love him/her anymore" is merely a camouflaged misunderstanding about what true love is and God''s design for it. They affirm that love is more than just a feeling, and that to have true, lasting intimacy, couples need to learn to love wholeheartedly.

Too often, couples enter remarriage unaware of potential problems and unprepared for the challenges stepfamily life will bring. The Heart of Remarriage takes a unique approach to success in remarriage by going straight to the heart, helping couples heal from the inside out rather than offering surface suggestions that may change circumstances but not the lives of couples and their families. Drs. Gary and Greg Smalley partner with remarried couple Dan and Marci Cretsinger to offer this marriage-changing idea: No matter what circumstances or challenges a remarried couple and their stepfamily face, the solution starts in their hearts. Remarried couples will learn how to examine their own hearts and heal them from the hurts of the past, so that they can be filled with God''s love and let that love overflow to their family members. The Heart of Remarriage teaches readers how to create emotional security for every family member and offers practical ideas for connecting at the heart level with their spouse, children, and stepchildren. Couples will be encouraged to keep their hearts open and challenged to leave a family legacy of love.

In this counterintuitive book, author Dr. Greg Smalley maintains that fighting is actually good for a marriage. When couples fight, they have the opportunity to get to the real issue lurking below the surface about money, sex, in-laws, kids, etc. And that real issue, Dr. Smalley says, is fear—fear of rejection, inadequacy, or powerlessness, to name a few. What assuages these fears are things like intimacy, respect, validation, love, and connection. Learning to take advantage of the opportunity that conflict provides is what this book is all about. The good news of Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage is that conflict—when handled correctly—is the doorway to intimacy and under-standing. As Dr. Smalley leads readers through the many faces of conflict, he is open and candid about his own marriage and the unproductive fights he and his wife have had. He uses his fears and emotional triggers as examples to help read-ers discover their own. Couples will learn how to fight their way to a better marriage, using the skills, concepts, and exercises shared in this remarkable book. ***  Typical marriage fights = money, sex, in-laws, and kids. But what if fights could = trust, respect, intimacy, and understanding? WHAT IF CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE COULD BE A GOOD THING? The truth is that marriages and spouses can’t grow without conflict. Some of the many values of conflict include: * An opportunity to break old, ineffective patterns * A way to guard against being too comfortable or too complacent, which breeds mediocrity and boredom * Insight into your own personal issues * A window for viewing each other’s deepest feelings and needs * Reduction of tension as emotions are vented and stress is released * Greater trust and intimacy after pushing through difficult and heated conversations * Higher levels of marital satisfaction every time you manage the conflict well * The sole reason we have the amazing experience of makeup sex

Expose the Lies. Understand the Truths. And Make Your Marriage Better than Ever!Lies about marriage are rampant in our culture—and in our churches. But the corresponding truths can strengthen your marriage and even save it from collapse. 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage identifies the lies, explains how they can disintegrate your marriage, and reveals truths that can rescue it and help it to become the marriage of your dreams.

Greg Smalley, a general marriage expert, and Robert Paul, the therapeutic director of Hope Restored, a renowned crisis marriage program created for Focus on the Family, combine to offer an unusual and powerful combination of perspectives that can restore hope and healing in any marriage, including yours.

What Are the 9 Lies about Marriage?

Love Lie #1: And They Lived Happily Ever AfterLove Lie #2: 1 + 1 = 1Love Lie #3: All You Need Is LoveLove Lie #4: I Must Sacrifice Who I Am for the Sake of My MarriageLove Lie #5: You Must Meet Each Other’s NeedsLove Lie #6: Our Differences Are IrreconcilableLove Lie #7: I’m Gonna Make You Love MeLove Lie #8: “Your Love Is Driving Me Crazy!”Love Lie #9: You Win Some, You Lose Some

Do any of these lies resonate with you? Read 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage and start exposing the lies and living the truth. Includes several self-tests to help you and your spouse assess the extent to which your marriage has been affected by each of the nine lies.

Die erfahrenen Autoren decken die neun häufigsten Beziehungslügen auf und zeigen, welchen destruktiven Effekt sie haben. Anschließend stellen sie diesen Lügen Wahrheiten gegenüber, die helfen, Beziehungen zu verbessern. Außerdem tragen konkrete Fragen dazu bei, dass die Bereiche, in denen die Probleme liegen, gefunden und Lösungswege entwickelt werden können. Hinzu kommen Vorschläge für gemeinsame Übungen und Anregungen für Gespräche, was das Buch sehr praktisch macht. Ein Eheratgeber, der häufige Missverständnisse und falsche Vorstellungen über die Ehe aus dem Weg räumt.

Expón las mentiras. Entiende las verdades. ¡Y haz que tu matrimonio sea mejor que nunca!Las mentiras sobre el matrimonio sobreabundan en nuestra cultura... y en nuestras iglesias. Pero las verdades correspondientes pueden fortalecer tu matrimonio e incluso evitar que se desmorone. 9 mentiras que destruirán tu matrimonio identifica las mentiras, explica cómo pueden desintegrar tu matrimonio y revela verdades que pueden rescatarlo y ayudarlo a convertirse en el matrimonio de tus sueños.Greg Smalley, un experto en el matrimonio, y Robert Paul, el director terapéutica de Hope Restored (un programa renombrado de ayuda para matrimonios en crisis, creado para Enfoque a la Familia), se unen para ofrecer una combinación inusual y poderosa de perspectivas que pueden restaurar la esperanza y la sanidad en cualquier matrimonio, incluyendo el tuyo.¿Cuáles son las 9 mentiras sobre el matrimonio?Mentira del amor 1: Y vivieron felices para siempreMentira del amor 2: 1 + 1 = 1Mentira del amor 3: Todo lo que necesitas es amorMentira del amor 4: Debo sacrificar quien soy por el bien de mi matrimonioMentira del amor 5: Deben satisfacer las necesidades el uno del otroMentira del amor 6: Nuestras diferencias son irreconciliablesMentira del amor 7: Haré que me amesMentira del amor 8: «¡Tu amor me está volviendo loco!»Mentira del amor 9: A veces ganas y a veces pierdes¿Te identificas con alguna de estas mentiras? Lee 9 mentiras que destruirán tu matrimonio y comienza a exponer las mentiras y a vivir la verdad. Incluye varias evaluaciones para ayudarte a ti y a tu cónyuge a determinar hasta qué punto su matrimonio se ha visto afectado por cada una de las nueve mentiras.Expose the lies. Understand the truths. And make your marriage better than ever!Lies about marriage are rampant in our culture and the church. They’re killing marriages. But the corresponding truths can strengthen marriages and even save the most troubled relationships. In this book, marriage experts Greg Smalley and Robert Paul identify the lies, explain how they work to destroy marriages, and reveal the truths that not only can improve marriages but rescue those that are floundering.Hope Restored, the renowned crisis marriage program created for Focus on the Family, is the basis for the discovery and understanding of these specific lies and their impact. Dr. Greg Smalley, a general marriage expert, and Robert Paul, the therapeutic director of a program that resuscitates nearly dead marriages, bring an unusual but powerful combination of perspectives that restore hope and healing in any marriage.What Are the 9 Lies about Marriage?Love Lie 1: And They Lived Happily Ever AfterLove Lie 2: 1 + 1 = 1Love Lie 3: All You Need Is LoveLove Lie 4: I Must Sacrifice Who I Am for the Sake of My MarriageLove Lie 5: You Must Meet Each Other’s NeedsLove Lie 6: Our Differences Are IrreconcilableLove Lie 7: I’m Gonna Make You Love MeLove Lie 8: “Your Love Is Driving Me Crazy!”Love Lie 9: You Win Some, You Lose Some9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage includes several self-tests to help you assess the extent to which your own marriage has been affected by each of the nine lies.