Lola Phoenix – författare

'Invaluable' RACHEL KRAMER BUSSEL 'Refreshingly honest, comprehensive and realistic' MEG-JOHN BARKEREmbarking on a non-monogamous relationship can be a daunting experience, opening old wounds that cause anxiety, fear and confusion, something Lola Phoenix knows about all too well.In this all-you-need-to-know guide to exploring non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships, Lola draws upon their years of experience in giving advice and being non-monogamous to provide guidance for every stage of your journey, helping you to prioritise your mental health and well being along the way.Beginning with advice on starting out - such as finding your anchor, figuring out your personal reasons for pursuing non-monogamy, challenging your fears and practicing self-compassion - the book proceeds to cover the emotional aspects of non-monogamous relationships, including dealing with jealousy and judgement, managing anxiety and maintaining independence, as well as practical elements such as scheduling your time, negotiating boundaries and managing your expectations, all accompanied with activities for further exploration.Whether you are new to non-monogamy, or have been non-monogamous for years, this insightful and empowering book will provide you with the emotional tools you will need to live a happy non-monogamous life.

Embarking on a non‑monogamous relationship can be a daunting experience, stirring up old wounds that bring anxiety, fear and confusion - something Lola Phoenix understands all too well.Now reimagined as a fully illustrated graphic guide based on the best-selling book, this accessible edition distils Lola's practical, inclusive advice into a clear, visual companion for anyone exploring non‑monogamy, polyamory, or open relationships. Drawing on years of experience supporting others and living non‑monogamously themself, Lola offers guidance for every stage of your journey while helping you prioritise your mental health and wellbeing.Beginning with the essentials - finding your anchor, understanding your reasons for pursuing non‑monogamy, challenging fears, and practicing self‑compassion - the guide moves through the emotional realities of relationships, including jealousy, judgement, anxiety, and independence. It also covers practical tools such as time‑management, boundary‑negotiation, and managing expectations, all supported by engaging illustrations and activities.Whether you're new or experienced, this empowering visual guide offers the emotional tools you need to navigate non‑monogamy with confidence.

Finding what works for you in non-monogamy is highly personal and contextual - it can be tricky to know where your own boundaries lie. Quite often, we don't know we want a boundary somewhere, until it has already been crossed. This journal is designed to help you explore and anticipate potential needs and conflicts - perhaps before they've even arisen! Within these pages are dozens of scenarios to explore, themed around Boundaries, Structure, Emotions, Compromises, Sexuality and Infidelity. With topics that include meeting and managing metamours, beginning relationships with infidelity, cowpoking, sexual health, One Penis Policies, compersion, first nights together - and so many more - this is the perfect companion for working out your own unique approach to non-monogamy.