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If you live with borderline personality disorder, you already know how painful it can be. But take heart - recovery is possible! The Big Book on Borderline Personality Disorder offers advice from someone who's been there. Author Shehrina Rooney shrugs off the stigma, busts myths, and translates the diagnostic criteria into everyday language. She explains the brain science of emotion dysregulation and shares her favorite strategies and skills for weathering the storm. The Big Book on BPD includes special chapters for family and loved ones, men with BPD, and anyone newly diagnosed. The author gives readers strategies for coping with BPD in the workplace and as a parent. In short, this book covers everything you (or your parents or therapist) could possibly want to know about BPD. Contrary to popular belief, BPD is not a life sentence. This book gives you the information and tools to reclaim your life. With warmth and humor, Shehrina Rooney shows you how you can find contentment, stability, and the freedom to enjoy each day as it comes.

High conflict divorce can leave children polarized within the transitioning family system, aligned with one parent and resisting or refusing contact with the other parent/b. Rather than becoming mired in the bottomless pit of back and forth blame, more and more courts are seeking remedies in the form of reunification therapy. Charged with helping the polarized child to enjoy a healthy relationship with both parents, we know what doesn’t work: individual child therapy cannot remedy a family systems problem. Dyadic interventions with the child and either parent are seldom sufficient. Even family therapies fall short when they are not grounded in well-established, reliable, and valid science. Mending Fences introduces a child-centered, systemically informed, empirically-validated, and experientially-proven collaborative reunification protocol. Focusing on the anxiety inhibiting the system’s healthy functioning, well-respected and long-validated cognitive behavioral exposure methods are fused with structural family therapy to reduce the child’s anxieties about separating from one parent and approaching the other, the aligned parent’s fears of separation and loss, and the rejected parent’s fears of rejection. A common vocabulary across coordinated interventions allows children across the spectrum of ages and abilities to identify and overcome an individually tailored succession of anxiety-inducing events so as to gradually (re-)establish healthy and safe relationships with both parents. The Mending Fences protocol is practical, proven, and effective. The user-friendly discussion is peppered with up-to-date references to the scientific literature and international case law. Application via video conferencing platforms is discussed. Included: Case illustrations, sample court orders and service agreements

Hostile emails, letters and conversations can drain inordinate amounts of time, emotional energy and expense in the workplace. For over a dozen years, the BIFF method of communicating has helped thousands of people calm conflicts and create clear communication in response to misinformation, blame, and unnecessary anger in writing or in-person. This new book focuses exclusively on workplace conflictsinternal and external, with instructions in how to use the four-step method with numerous examples of what works and what does not work to demonstrate potential pitfalls. It also includes tips on how to coach co-workers and others on writing effective BIFF responses to customers, clients, employees and managersinstead of becoming consumed in unhealthy back-and-forth conversations. Using BIFF with toxic teammates, workplace bullies, and with threatening customers and clients can reduce risk of lawsuits and complaints and make everyone feel more confident in workplace relationship. BIFF is simple, practical, and can help you get the communication outcomes you want by diffusing tension, containing conflict, and establishing professional boundaries. Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm. Use BIFF to lower your blood pressure, turn down the conflict flame, and restore your confidence.

In divorce and co-parenting, not only do parents need to deal with their own emotions, they may be faced with a daily barrage of hostile calls, texts, social media blasts, and/or emails. How can you regain a sense of control and peace for your own sake and for the kids? For more than a decade, the BIFF method of responding to hostile and misinforming conversation has been used by thousands of people. This book can help you reduce conflict and regain your sanity by teaching what to write, and what to ignore. This third book in the BIFF Communication series is especially devoted to parents dealing with issues during, and after, separation and divorce. Complete with instructions in the four-step BIFF method, and numerous practical examples, readers will learn the intricacies of their new parenting environment.

What drives serial killers to commit their horrific crimes? Are sex crimes really motivated by sexual desire? Why do some killers stop killing, while others escalate? The science of personality theory has advanced dramatically in recent years, shedding new light on the inner workings of these criminals. In this book, professional counselor Todd Grande applies personality theory to over a dozen of the most notorious serial killers in modern history, unraveling the mystery surrounding their crimes. Serial killers are typically motivated by sexual domination, money, political ideology, or are experiencing psychosis. Dr. Grande delves into the thought processes, behaviors, and emotions of these criminals, and analyzes common personality traits as well as environmental factors such as childhood stressors and even certain kinds of injury. Empirically supported principles create a framework that offers new insight into why people do what they do and how they might recover from destructive patterns. All human behavior exists on a continuum, and through the study of extreme behaviors, any behavior becomes a little more understandable. Learning about serial killers can enlighten us about the human condition.

Many people live partial lives, keeping their vitality under emotional mufflers and living life without ever feeling like an adult. The Courage to Feel delivers a pragmatic, creative, and inspiring four-step path to emotional mastery and freedom that explores the hidden wealth of guidance and wisdom available through our emotions. Each chapter includes anecdotes, applications, and exercises to anchor the teachings along with the charming allegory of Simon the Turtle who must leave his shell to follow his heart is woven throughout the book. Based on the author's 25+ years of experience with thousands of clients, this book will launch you on a journey that leads to personal freedom, happier marriages, improved work relationships, and deeper spirituality.

In Co-parenting by Design, family law experts Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner help divorced or separated parents agree on a plan that reduces conflict over the parenting schedule, holidays, vacations, medical decisions, education, and safety, and equips readers to deal with special situations like parental alienation and substance abuse.It''s stressful to be a divorced or separated parent. You may feel that you''re constantly being scrutinized by your co-parent and by the court system. You are expected to be superhuman: to forgive and forget, to be endlessly patient, to be a perfect parent, and to be calm and gracious no matter what. If you feel overwhelmed, you''re not alone.In Co-parenting by Design, Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner offer their combined sixty-plus years of experience in family law to help you let go of these unrealistic expectations and successfully navigate the challenges of parenting after divorce or separation. With customizable sample language you can incorporate in your own document, this book makes it easy to draw up a thorough and effective parenting plan or evaluate a plan provided by a parenting coordinator or other court official.You''ll learn how to: - come to an agreement about the parenting schedule, holidays, and vacations- address medical decisions, education, safety, your child''s possessions, and more- deal with challenging situations like parental alienation, domestic violence, or your co-parent''s substance abuse- disengage from conflict- communicate effectively- reduce stress- increase your child''s sense of security by conveying solidarity- protect your child''s well-beingWith a complete parenting plan in place, you''ll be prepared manage everyday routines and handle the unexpected. Co-parenting by Design helps you overcome conflict and get back to what matters most: enjoying stress-free time with your child.

High conflict mediation requires a paradigm shift from traditional mediation-high conflict experts Bill Eddy and Michael Lomax show you how. Over the past twelve years, the authors have been developing and practicing tips for managing high conflict clients in mediation, which is now a fully developed new method called New Ways for Mediation Mediating High Conflict Disputes gives all of the little tips which any mediator can use, as well as the step-by-step structure of the New Ways for Mediation method for those who want to have better control of the process in high conflict cases-or any cases. This book is divided into three parts: Part 1 provides a thorough explanation of the thinking and behavior of parties with high conflict personalities, with an emphasis on what does not work and should be avoided. Part 2 provides a detailed description of the New Ways for Mediation method, including several paradigm shifts in each step of the process for greater success. Its similarities and differences with interest-based negotiations and transformative mediation methods are explained. Part 3 includes numerous examples describing cases with special issues in several settings, including family, workplace, and disputes involving government agencies.