Beyond the Chuppah

Joel Crohn, Ph.D., is a trained PREP psychologist who specializes in working with Jewish and interfaith couples and is the author of Mixed Matches. Howard Markman, Ph.D., and Susan Blumberg, Ph.D., are marital experts who wrote the best-selling book Fighting for Your Marriage. Janice Levine, Ph.D., is a Jewish PREP trainer and therapist who teaches at Harvard Medical School.

"This important book combines modern social-scientific research andtraditional Jewish wisdom to help couples resurrect the buriedpromises of friendship and responsibility, and the joy of love. Theold can be renewed, and the new can be hallowed. It offers concreteways for couples to create constructive and affirmative relations.It is rooted in a deep conviction that it is never too late tobuild again, to hope again, to love again."-- Rabbi Harold M. Schulweis, author, For Those Who Can'tBelieve "This much-needed book combines proven research on maritalrelationships with special insights on Jewish belief systems,making it both culturally sensitive and very sound in terms of whatreally helps couples save and improve their marriages. For anyonein a Jewish couple, this book is a lifesaver and truly amitzvah!"-- Celia Jaes Falicov, Ph.D., president, American FamilyTherapy Academy

• Foreword, by Rabbi Harold M. Schulweis ixAcknowledgments xiIntroduction: Why Is This Book Different from All Other Books? xiii1. Creating a Positive Jewish Identity That Supports Your Marriage 12. Four Key Patterns That Can Harm a Relationship 253. Changing Roles, Changing Rules: Men and Women in Conflict 534. Communicating Clearly and Safely: The Speaker-Listener Technique 695. Problem Solving 976. Ground Rules for Handling Conflict 1217. The Difference Between Issues and Events 1338. Unfulfilled Expectations and What to Do About Them 1579. Choosing Commitment 17710. The Importance of Core Belief Systems: Judaism, Intermarriage, and Community 19911. Atonement, Forgiveness, and the Restoration of Intimacy 22112. Preserving and Protecting Friendship 24513. Overcoming the Fear of Fun 25714. Thou Shalt Enjoy Sex 26515. Ancient Wisdom and Modern Insights 283Notes 285Resources 291More Information on the PREP Approach 297About the Authors 299Index 301