Terry S Trepper, Bill Borcherdt

• Contents IntroductionSay It Ain’t So: Forty-One Irrational Beliefs of Family Living, with Rational Counters and Commentary Examining Your Child's AQ (Appreciation Quotient): Facing and Accepting Ingratitude The Role Model Fallacy: De-Sacredizing the Copycat Philosophy Communicating Better and Getting Along Worse: When and Why It's Better for Family Communication to Draw a Blank When It's Cruel to Be Kind: The Mistake of Linking Favorable Regard for Your Child to Human Worth Never Deprive a Child of the Right to Go Without The Door Swings Both Ways: When Children Double Bind Their Parents Fifteen Unmannerly Actions tThat Represent Responsible Parenting Minding Less When Your Child Doesn't Mind The Merits of Extracting Emotional Dependency from the Parental Equation With Kids Like That, You Don't Need Enemies Eating Humble Pie: Guaranteeing Your Child Opportunity Without a Guarantee of Success Why Treat Children the Same Way When They Are All Different? Individualism Reconsidered Aspire and Inspire: Do It Yourself, Hire Someone Else to Do It, Forbid Your Child to Do It The Real ME-Coy: Implications of Fraudulently Living Your Life Through Your Child Doing to Your Child vs. Failing to Accept What Can't Be Done for Your Child Is Behavior Gone Unnoticed Really Less Likely to Occur? What the Behavior Modifiers Fail to Tell You Nature vs. Nurture in Children Is Blood Really Thicker than Water? Loyalty, Love, Obligation and (Dis)Agreement in Family Relationships Having a Sense of Humor in Proportion to What Ails You as a Parent Questioning the Advisability of Unconditional Parental Love You Can Lead a Child to Water But You Can't Make Him Drink: Thirty-Four Guidelines for Effective and Efficient Parenting The Ugly Duckling Syndrome: How to Duck Around and Over It When Baby Makes Three: Children as Intrusion The Ultimate Childhood Daydream: Being Able to Order Parents on a Silver Platter When It's Good to Set a Bad Example: Learning Manners from Those Who Have Few Parenting as a Nice Place to Visit, But Inadvisable to Stay: Working Yourself Out of a Job While Retaining Its Joys Haven on Earth: Protecting Yourself From the Oppositional-Acting Child The Only Golden Rule of Parenting Wiles of My Own Parenting to Date Index

Terry S Trepper, Bill Borcherdt

• Contents IntroductionSay It Ain’t So: Forty-One Irrational Beliefs of Family Living, with Rational Counters and Commentary Examining Your Child's AQ (Appreciation Quotient): Facing and Accepting Ingratitude The Role Model Fallacy: De-Sacredizing the Copycat Philosophy Communicating Better and Getting Along Worse: When and Why It's Better for Family Communication to Draw a Blank When It's Cruel to Be Kind: The Mistake of Linking Favorable Regard for Your Child to Human Worth Never Deprive a Child of the Right to Go Without The Door Swings Both Ways: When Children Double Bind Their Parents Fifteen Unmannerly Actions tThat Represent Responsible Parenting Minding Less When Your Child Doesn't Mind The Merits of Extracting Emotional Dependency from the Parental Equation With Kids Like That, You Don't Need Enemies Eating Humble Pie: Guaranteeing Your Child Opportunity Without a Guarantee of Success Why Treat Children the Same Way When They Are All Different? Individualism Reconsidered Aspire and Inspire: Do It Yourself, Hire Someone Else to Do It, Forbid Your Child to Do It The Real ME-Coy: Implications of Fraudulently Living Your Life Through Your Child Doing to Your Child vs. Failing to Accept What Can't Be Done for Your Child Is Behavior Gone Unnoticed Really Less Likely to Occur? What the Behavior Modifiers Fail to Tell You Nature vs. Nurture in Children Is Blood Really Thicker than Water? Loyalty, Love, Obligation and (Dis)Agreement in Family Relationships Having a Sense of Humor in Proportion to What Ails You as a Parent Questioning the Advisability of Unconditional Parental Love You Can Lead a Child to Water But You Can't Make Him Drink: Thirty-Four Guidelines for Effective and Efficient Parenting The Ugly Duckling Syndrome: How to Duck Around and Over It When Baby Makes Three: Children as Intrusion The Ultimate Childhood Daydream: Being Able to Order Parents on a Silver Platter When It's Good to Set a Bad Example: Learning Manners from Those Who Have Few Parenting as a Nice Place to Visit, But Inadvisable to Stay: Working Yourself Out of a Job While Retaining Its Joys Haven on Earth: Protecting Yourself From the Oppositional-Acting Child The Only Golden Rule of Parenting Wiles of My Own Parenting to Date Index

Terry S Trepper, Bill Borcherdt

• Contents IntroductionSay It Ain’t So: Forty-One Irrational Beliefs of Family Living, with Rational Counters and Commentary Examining Your Child's AQ (Appreciation Quotient): Facing and Accepting Ingratitude The Role Model Fallacy: De-Sacredizing the Copycat Philosophy Communicating Better and Getting Along Worse: When and Why It's Better for Family Communication to Draw a Blank When It's Cruel to Be Kind: The Mistake of Linking Favorable Regard for Your Child to Human Worth Never Deprive a Child of the Right to Go Without The Door Swings Both Ways: When Children Double Bind Their Parents Fifteen Unmannerly Actions tThat Represent Responsible Parenting Minding Less When Your Child Doesn't Mind The Merits of Extracting Emotional Dependency from the Parental Equation With Kids Like That, You Don't Need Enemies Eating Humble Pie: Guaranteeing Your Child Opportunity Without a Guarantee of Success Why Treat Children the Same Way When They Are All Different? Individualism Reconsidered Aspire and Inspire: Do It Yourself, Hire Someone Else to Do It, Forbid Your Child to Do It The Real ME-Coy: Implications of Fraudulently Living Your Life Through Your Child Doing to Your Child vs. Failing to Accept What Can't Be Done for Your Child Is Behavior Gone Unnoticed Really Less Likely to Occur? What the Behavior Modifiers Fail to Tell You Nature vs. Nurture in Children Is Blood Really Thicker than Water? Loyalty, Love, Obligation and (Dis)Agreement in Family Relationships Having a Sense of Humor in Proportion to What Ails You as a Parent Questioning the Advisability of Unconditional Parental Love You Can Lead a Child to Water But You Can't Make Him Drink: Thirty-Four Guidelines for Effective and Efficient Parenting The Ugly Duckling Syndrome: How to Duck Around and Over It When Baby Makes Three: Children as Intrusion The Ultimate Childhood Daydream: Being Able to Order Parents on a Silver Platter When It's Good to Set a Bad Example: Learning Manners from Those Who Have Few Parenting as a Nice Place to Visit, But Inadvisable to Stay: Working Yourself Out of a Job While Retaining Its Joys Haven on Earth: Protecting Yourself From the Oppositional-Acting Child The Only Golden Rule of Parenting Wiles of My Own Parenting to Date Index