Quick Guide to Therapeutic Parenting

Sarah Naish is author of bestselling parenting guide The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting. She is an adoptive parent, founder of the National Association of Therapeutic Parents, director of Inspire Training Group and author of the hugely popular Therapeutic Parenting Books series. She lives in Gloucestershire.Sarah Dillon is a Founding Committee Member and Therapeutic Lead of the National Association of Therapeutic Parents. She is also a therapist, specialising in attachment difficulties, complex and developmental trauma, and spent much of her childhood in the care system. She lives in Derby.

Using light-hearted analogies and their wealth of first-hand knowledge, Sarah Naish and Sarah Dillon encourage us all to see the behaviour of children with developmental trauma in a whole new light. This accessible Quick Guide is a source of enlightenment, comfort and hope for all parents and professionals. It will help us to discover what the authors describe as 'the hidden path', so we can translate and see behaviour as a means of communication and in doing so support healing. For the sake of the increasing number of children with developmental trauma, everybody needs to tread this path.

• Acknowledgments. 3Introduction Sarah Naish. 31 WHY DO OUR CHILDREN DO THE THINGS THEY DO?!41 The Unskilled Pilot - (A lack of trust)52 The Spider Parent- (Fear of adults)73 My Friend the Spider- (Staying safe)104 The Automatic Car- (Illogical behaviours)125 The Plane Crash (part 1) - (Impulsiveness)156 The Deal Breaker -(Breaking promises)187 The Land of Now- (Unable to link cause and effect)208 The Crumbling Wall - (Hidden disabilities)232 RAISING PENGUINS. 269 Penguins Don't Fly- (Our children are different)2710 The Messy Nest (Destruction)3011 The Girl Who Wouldn't Try - (Self sabotage)3212 Squeezing the Glass- (Over controlling)3513 The King of the Castle (Traditional consequences don't work)3714 Lie Tennis- (Lying)4015 The Apprentice Who Wasn't Sorry- (Fake apologies)4316 The Lift - (Unintended consequences)463 IGNORANCE IS NOT BLISS - The Unhelpful Others. 5017 The Goldfish -(Risk averse practice)5118 The Measuring Stick - (Judgement from others)5419 The Cart - (Our burden)5720 The Ostrich Teacher- (Unhelpful schools)6021 The Snowflake Parent- (Unhelpful others)624 PARENTING IN THE TRAUMA TORNADO.. 6422 The Eye of the Storm- (Managing chaos)6523 The Elephant- (Staying kind)6724 The Steam Train- (Keeping on track)6925 The Rude Wind- (Responding to rudeness)7126 The Conductor - (Controlling behaviour)7427 The Missiles- (Responding to arguing)7728 The Cliff Top- (Keeping boundaries)7929 The Inquiry Lie- (Honesty)825 SAFER PARENTING- Therapeutic Responding. 8430 The Needle on the Record- (Changing our responses)8531 The Plane Crash Part 2- (Unable to calm)8732 ACE Detective- (Working out what is behind the behaviour)9133 The Frightened Dog- (Connecting in a crisis)9434 Sharing the PIE- (Sibling rivalry)9635 The Shame Pit- (Overwhelming shame)10036 The Escalator - (Natural and logical consequences)1036 WHERE DID THAT COME FROM?!10637 The Trap Door -(Triggers)10738 Trauma Pancakes- (Multiple issues surfacing)11139 The Jigsaw Child- (Why sabotage happens)11440 The Smoke Detector- (Unexpected behaviours)11741 The Monster in the Cupboard - (Difficult quiet times)1197 THE OVERWHELMING NEED.. 12242 The Two-year-old Psychopath- (Lack of empathy)12343 The Pet Spider- (Being controlled)12644 Memory Beach- (Memory issues)12945 The Hand-Grenade- (The 'trouble-maker')13246 The Car Crash- (Feeling overwhelmed)1348 FILLING THE CUP. 13547 The Empty Cup- (Exhaustion)13648 The Boring Place- (Getting a break)13849 Eeyore Parenting- (Losing hope)14050 The Rabbit- (Isolation)14251 The Empathy Bowl- (Effective listening)1449 HOPE. 14652 The Twisty Turny Steps- (Fear for the future)14753 The Diet Fail- (Having a bad day)14954 Slides and Ladders- (Overcoming obstacles)15155 The Trauma Lake- (Foundations for change)15356 The Hidden Path- (Inspiration)154