If you feel like you’ve become roommates instead of lovers…

If sex feels like another chore—or has disappeared altogether…

If you miss the passion, the laughter, the ease you once had…

This book is for you.

The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit is not just another relationship book. It’s a hands-on, heart-opening guide to help couples repair emotional disconnection, reignite sexual desire, and create the kind of deeply satisfying partnership you both crave. Xanet Pailet’s first book, Living the Orgasmic Life, has become a #1 bestseller and is regarded as a classic in the category of relationships, love, and intimacy. 

What makes it different?

You won’t just read about what to do—you’ll feel like you’re sitting in a real coaching session. Throughout the book, you’ll step into intimate, behind-the-scenes moments with real couples—complete with guided exercises, actual dialogue, and the kinds of compassionate, no-BS insights you’d hear if you were working with Xanet one-on-one.

Inside, you’ll discover:

• How to talk about sex and feelings without shutting down or blowing up
•  Practical tools to repair trust and reconnect after years of distance or pain
• A new paradigm for sex that centers on mutual pleasure—not performance
• Erotic style frameworks to understand what really turns each of you on
• Simple, powerful intimacy rituals to bring joy and sensuality back into your daily life

This book isn’t about fixing your relationship. It’s about transforming it—from the inside out.

Based upon her two decades of working in couples therapy, specializing in couples with issues and problems in intimacy, Xanet has composed a relationship repair kit for all couples.  New Relationship Energy occurs within the first five years with flourishing romance and intimacy. After that time, external stresses of life, including caretaking, work, career, and children, cause communication breakdowns. Because of this preoccupied energy, you can no longer be committed to the relationship, which can lead to fights and a lack of communication. This causes one of the partners to push for communication, which can lead to unequal communication and arguments, further leading to breakdowns. Unfortunately, these issues lead to the breakup of relationships. Xanet has identified eight kinds of breakdowns for the couple to then process their issues and go into a mature relationship energy, which has led to a more fulfilling relationship as they know a lot more after working through the issues. Some couples struggle with commitment after couples therapy, including within intimacy. This book will engage couples in long-term work for couples to engage and renew intimate relationships. Xanet’s tried and true methods have allowed couples to avoid divorce, which, unfortunately, 50% of married couples in the United States undergo. 

If you feel like you’ve become roommates instead of lovers…

If sex feels like another chore—or has disappeared altogether…

If you miss the passion, the laughter, the ease you once had…

This book is for you.

The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit is not just another relationship book. It’s a hands-on, heart-opening guide to help couples repair emotional disconnection, reignite sexual desire, and create the kind of deeply satisfying partnership you both crave. Xanet Pailet’s first book, Living the Orgasmic Life, has become a #1 bestseller and is regarded as a classic in the category of relationships, love, and intimacy. 

What makes it different?

You won’t just read about what to do—you’ll feel like you’re sitting in a real coaching session. Throughout the book, you’ll step into intimate, behind-the-scenes moments with real couples—complete with guided exercises, actual dialogue, and the kinds of compassionate, no-BS insights you’d hear if you were working with Xanet one-on-one.

Inside, you’ll discover:

• How to talk about sex and feelings without shutting down or blowing up
•  Practical tools to repair trust and reconnect after years of distance or pain
• A new paradigm for sex that centers on mutual pleasure—not performance
• Erotic style frameworks to understand what really turns each of you on
• Simple, powerful intimacy rituals to bring joy and sensuality back into your daily life

This book isn’t about fixing your relationship. It’s about transforming it—from the inside out.

Based upon her two decades of working in couples therapy, specializing in couples with issues and problems in intimacy, Xanet has composed a relationship repair kit for all couples.  New Relationship Energy occurs within the first five years with flourishing romance and intimacy. After that time, external stresses of life, including caretaking, work, career, and children, cause communication breakdowns. Because of this preoccupied energy, you can no longer be committed to the relationship, which can lead to fights and a lack of communication. This causes one of the partners to push for communication, which can lead to unequal communication and arguments, further leading to breakdowns. Unfortunately, these issues lead to the breakup of relationships. Xanet has identified eight kinds of breakdowns for the couple to then process their issues and go into a mature relationship energy, which has led to a more fulfilling relationship as they know a lot more after working through the issues. Some couples struggle with commitment after couples therapy, including within intimacy. This book will engage couples in long-term work for couples to engage and renew intimate relationships. Xanet’s tried and true methods have allowed couples to avoid divorce, which, unfortunately, 50% of married couples in the United States undergo. 

If you feel like you’ve become roommates instead of lovers…

If sex feels like another chore—or has disappeared altogether…

If you miss the passion, the laughter, the ease you once had…

This book is for you.

The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit is not just another relationship book. It’s a hands-on, heart-opening guide to help couples repair emotional disconnection, reignite sexual desire, and create the kind of deeply satisfying partnership you both crave. Xanet Pailet’s first book, Living the Orgasmic Life, has become a #1 bestseller and is regarded as a classic in the category of relationships, love, and intimacy. 

What makes it different?

You won’t just read about what to do—you’ll feel like you’re sitting in a real coaching session. Throughout the book, you’ll step into intimate, behind-the-scenes moments with real couples—complete with guided exercises, actual dialogue, and the kinds of compassionate, no-BS insights you’d hear if you were working with Xanet one-on-one.

Inside, you’ll discover:

• How to talk about sex and feelings without shutting down or blowing up
•  Practical tools to repair trust and reconnect after years of distance or pain
• A new paradigm for sex that centers on mutual pleasure—not performance
• Erotic style frameworks to understand what really turns each of you on
• Simple, powerful intimacy rituals to bring joy and sensuality back into your daily life

This book isn’t about fixing your relationship. It’s about transforming it—from the inside out.

Based upon her two decades of working in couples therapy, specializing in couples with issues and problems in intimacy, Xanet has composed a relationship repair kit for all couples.  New Relationship Energy occurs within the first five years with flourishing romance and intimacy. After that time, external stresses of life, including caretaking, work, career, and children, cause communication breakdowns. Because of this preoccupied energy, you can no longer be committed to the relationship, which can lead to fights and a lack of communication. This causes one of the partners to push for communication, which can lead to unequal communication and arguments, further leading to breakdowns. Unfortunately, these issues lead to the breakup of relationships. Xanet has identified eight kinds of breakdowns for the couple to then process their issues and go into a mature relationship energy, which has led to a more fulfilling relationship as they know a lot more after working through the issues. Some couples struggle with commitment after couples therapy, including within intimacy. This book will engage couples in long-term work for couples to engage and renew intimate relationships. Xanet’s tried and true methods have allowed couples to avoid divorce, which, unfortunately, 50% of married couples in the United States undergo.