Practical Resource for Negotiating the World of Friendships and Relationships

Liz Bates is an independent education consultant. She supports both primary and secondary schools in all aspects of Emotional Health and Wellbeing, including whole school approaches, training staff and delivering talks to parents. Liz is a Protective Behaviours Trainer, a Wellbeing Award Advisor for Optimus and a Schools Engagement Trainer for The Anna Freud Centre.

"An utterly charming and accessible resource for teachers and young students to grasp the importance of being kind."Bruce Hood, Chair of Developmental Psychology in Society, University of Bristol, UK."It has a clear aim of enabling children to work their way through the often confusing and mind-blowing world of friendships and relationships in an age where acceptance and belonging is most important to them. It enables our children to incorporate new information and ideas about friendships and relationships into their existing thought patterns and experiences. With ongoing, daily support from staff, they are able to adapt their thoughts and thus responses, into their daily experiences… Cool to be Kind will be used not only as an intervention but also alongside our PSHE curriculum whole class as needed. As a resource, it upskills staff delivering it and enlightens their perception of what they thought might be happening. By opening dialogue and discussion between child and adult, you can see an increased understanding and empathy through a child’s lens. The aim to create the best version of themselves is only strengthened." Janet Raju, Deputy Headteacher, UK

• Introduction Session 1 Cool Session 2 Coco and Kez Session 3 Otto and Indra Session 4 Ollie and Nina Session 5 Ling and Danny Session 6 Cool to be Kind Self Kindness Appendices: 1. Super-powers 2. Feelings 3. How might it feel? 4. Calm 5. My Map of Me 6. Thoughts 7. Send a Cool to be Kind Message 8. Like / Not Like Continuum Cards 9. Cool to be Kind Cards 10. Kind to Me Cards