Merav Shohet is Assistant Professor of Anthropology at Boston University.

"Shohet’s study responds to a single question: What holds families together despite the strain of a century of turbulent conflict and inequities stemming from liberalizing economic reform? Her chapters answer this question by focusing on three interrelated principles that sustain family connections in the midst of radical change: love, sacrifice, and asymmetrical reciprocity. She examines these concepts in five chapters that reveal, on the one hand, how individual, familial, and national sacrifices are mutually intertwined and can even dovetail. On the other hand, sacrifice for love can also enforce silences and cause conflicts—ideas that Shohet reveals through stunningly intimate portrayals of family relations."

• List of IllustrationsAcknowledgmentsNotes on Vietnamese and Transcription ConventionsPrologue: Landing Introduction: Vietnam Is a Country, Not a WarPart I. Sustaining National and Family Sacrifice 1. "Not only those on the battlefield": (Extra)Ordinary Sacrifice2. Rituals and Routines of Sacrifice: Respect Those Above, Yield to Those Below3. Troubling Love: Models for Gender (In)Equality?Part II. Care Narratives and the Limits of Love4. Waiting as Care? Sacrifice and Tình Cảm in Troubled Times5. Children and Lovers: Marriage, Morality, and MotherhoodConclusion: Mourning in Silent SacrificeNotesBibliographyIndex

Merav Shohet is Assistant Professor of Anthropology at Boston University.

"Shohet’s study responds to a single question: What holds families together despite the strain of a century of turbulent conflict and inequities stemming from liberalizing economic reform? Her chapters answer this question by focusing on three interrelated principles that sustain family connections in the midst of radical change: love, sacrifice, and asymmetrical reciprocity. She examines these concepts in five chapters that reveal, on the one hand, how individual, familial, and national sacrifices are mutually intertwined and can even dovetail. On the other hand, sacrifice for love can also enforce silences and cause conflicts—ideas that Shohet reveals through stunningly intimate portrayals of family relations."

• List of IllustrationsAcknowledgmentsNotes on Vietnamese and Transcription ConventionsPrologue: Landing Introduction: Vietnam Is a Country, Not a WarPart I. Sustaining National and Family Sacrifice 1. "Not only those on the battlefield": (Extra)Ordinary Sacrifice2. Rituals and Routines of Sacrifice: Respect Those Above, Yield to Those Below3. Troubling Love: Models for Gender (In)Equality?Part II. Care Narratives and the Limits of Love4. Waiting as Care? Sacrifice and Tình Cảm in Troubled Times5. Children and Lovers: Marriage, Morality, and MotherhoodConclusion: Mourning in Silent SacrificeNotesBibliographyIndex

Merav Shohet is Assistant Professor of Anthropology at Boston University.

"Shohet’s study responds to a single question: What holds families together despite the strain of a century of turbulent conflict and inequities stemming from liberalizing economic reform? Her chapters answer this question by focusing on three interrelated principles that sustain family connections in the midst of radical change: love, sacrifice, and asymmetrical reciprocity. She examines these concepts in five chapters that reveal, on the one hand, how individual, familial, and national sacrifices are mutually intertwined and can even dovetail. On the other hand, sacrifice for love can also enforce silences and cause conflicts—ideas that Shohet reveals through stunningly intimate portrayals of family relations."

• List of IllustrationsAcknowledgmentsNotes on Vietnamese and Transcription ConventionsPrologue: Landing Introduction: Vietnam Is a Country, Not a WarPart I. Sustaining National and Family Sacrifice 1. "Not only those on the battlefield": (Extra)Ordinary Sacrifice2. Rituals and Routines of Sacrifice: Respect Those Above, Yield to Those Below3. Troubling Love: Models for Gender (In)Equality?Part II. Care Narratives and the Limits of Love4. Waiting as Care? Sacrifice and Tình Cảm in Troubled Times5. Children and Lovers: Marriage, Morality, and MotherhoodConclusion: Mourning in Silent SacrificeNotesBibliographyIndex