Arise

ELENA AGUILAR is the CEO of Bright Morning, the author of 8 books, and the host of the Bright Morning podcast. She has trained tens of thousands of educators in strategies to create thriving teams, cultivate resilience, and make every conversation count towards building a more just and equitable world.

• About the Author xxiAcknowledgments xxviiForeword by Alexandrea Creer Kahn xixIntroduction 1Every Child, Every Day 2An Overview of This Book 4From London to Oakland to Nairobi 12The Bridge to Everything 171 Transformational Coaching: Why No One Can Learn from You If You Think They Suck 21A Transformational Coaching Conversation 22Coaching Is Professional Development 29The Core Principles of Transformational Coaching 31Four Theories of Action That Drive Transformational Coaching 33A Transformational Coach’s Essential Beliefs 41Comparing Traditional Instructional Coaching with Transformational Coaching 48The Impact of Transformational Coaching 512 A Transformational Coach’s Ways of Being: How to Create the Conditions for Transformation 57The Primary Role of Emotional Intelligence 59The Dispositions of a Transformational Coach 66People Remember How You Made Them Feel 773 The Foundational Abilities: The Cornerstones of Transformational Coaching 79How to Coach a Teacher Who Opposes the New Curriculum 80Coaching the Three Bs 86Building Trust 90Cultivating Agency 98Navigating Power Dynamics 102All We Need Is 15 Minutes 1164 How to Listen: This Will Change Your Life 119What Is Listening? 120Common Obstacles to Deep Listening 124How to Be a Good Listener 130The Joy of Listening 1365 Fifty Questions to Ask: And Four Types to Avoid 139What Not to Do 140Whenever Possible, Be Quiet 144The Hardest Coaching Skill of All 146The Coaching Stances 150It’s Not About the Nail 159Five Coaching Survival Phrases 163A Little More on What to Say and How to Say It 169Forget the Stems, Remember the Source 1756 Listen, Think, Respond: Inside the Mind of a Transformational Coach 177The Three Steps in a Transformational Coaching Conversation 180An Overview of the Thinking Tools 183Every Conversation Counts 1867 What You Need to Know About Emotions: And Why You Don’t Need to Be a Therapist 189But I’m Not a Therapist 191Why Is It So Hard to Deal with Emotions? 195What You Need to Know About Emotions 198Stressed, Tired, and Overwhelmed 203Trauma-Informed Coaching 207When Did You Stop Dancing? 2198 How to Coach Emotions: Without Making Things Weird 221Address Core Human Needs 222Use ACE Emotions 226ACE Emotions in Action 234Coach into the Spheres of Influence 238Use Strength- Based Coaching 243Additional Considerations When Coaching Emotions 2489 How to Coach Resistance and Resilience: It’s Easier— and Harder— Than You Think 257What Is Resistance? 260Resistance Is Optional 269Can Someone Be Uncoachable? 277How to Respond to Resistance 281How to Cultivate Resilience 286Witness and Behold 29210 How to Coach Ways of Being: Coach the Person, Not the Problem 295The Complexity of a Way of Being 298Coaching Core Values 305Coaching Personality Traits 311Coach the Person, Not the Problem 31411 How to Coach Beliefs: Change the Story, Change the Reality 317Recognizing Beliefs 321Unpacking Helpful and Harmful Stories 323Naming the Stories 328Exploring Beliefs 331Trust the Process 33812 What You Need to Know About Equity: And Why We Must Start with Race 341Why Focus on Racial Equity 344Power, Privilege, and Identity 346What Is Racism? 349How Racism Manifests in Schools 354What Is to Be Done? 35813 How to Coach for Equity: On Building Bridges 361Who, What, When, Where, and Why Coach for Equity 363Cultivating Identity Awareness 365Why Calling People Out Doesn’t Work 370How to Change Beliefs 374What to Say When You Hear Something Racist: A Cheat Sheet 386How to Navigate All the Emotions 39114 How to Coach Behaviors: It’s Time to Close the Gaps 395How to Do a Classroom Observation 397The Gaps Framework 407Adult Learning Principles 417Planning the Debrief 422How to Coach an Open, Receptive, “Easy” Teacher 42715 The Art of Transformational Coaching: Heart-Centered Coaching 435The Coaching Lenses 436Using the Coaching Lenses to Plan 439The Art of a Transformational Coaching Conversation 446Reflecting on a Coaching Conversation 458Things We Don’t Talk About, Yet 461Conclusion: All You Need Is Love 465References 467Appendix A: Transformational Coaching Mini-Rubric 471Appendix B: The Core Emotions 477Appendix C: The Coaching Lenses 481Index 489